Posted on Sep 5, 2015
SMSgt Tony Barnes
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MCPO Roger Collins
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As long as neither is in the direct line of command. I had an E-5 that was married to an O-3 Nurse. Funny, guys can date guys, girls can date girls, but dating between ranks not good?
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PO3 Robert Sampier - My question has always been, how is this any different from siblings, parent/child, etc serving together? How do you give orders to your brother/sister/son/daughter/parent in a stressful situation? The answer is simple: You just don't put them in a position where they are in the same chain of command. As long as they are not in the same unit or branch of service, there is no conflict. That may not be the "right" answer, but it is the logical one.
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PO1 Lyndon Thomas
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I agree with MCPO Roger Collins on this one. I've actually seen this one as well. Female enlisted married to an O5. He was an aviator and she a structural mechanic and model outside the uniform. Two entirely unrelated commands and neither likely to serve with or in-lie of the others COC.
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PFC Bradley Frye
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These rules exist for a reason. yes, it is not good that the military can tell you who or who not to be with romantically, but it must impact readiness, or there wouldn't be rules against it.
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PO1 Orlando Miller
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Rules are rules right? I can't help but smile as I'm reading MCPO Collins comment. You made my morning.....
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I've read the comments here and I see the "right" answers posted over and over here. Why don't we talk about the truth? The truth is we all know it happens and most of the time leadership turns their head and looks the other direction. The deciding factor most of the time for if this is going to be a problem or not is the maturity level of the individuals involved. My observation is that there is usually more noise about it if the female out ranks the male than other other way around. To make it clear what I'm saying here is let's not stick our heads in the sand about this and pretend like it isn't going on just because we give the "right" answer.
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SMSgt Tony Barnes
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Amen
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SFC Jerry C. - Yes I edited it because apparently I wasn't clear enough. This is the added part for anyone who is interested in what change was made, "To make it clear what I'm saying here is let's not stick our heads in the sand about this and pretend like it isn't going on just because we give the "right" answer."
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SFC Jerry C. That's fine. I wanted to be clear for anyone reading this what my intent was and I didn't change my original words at all I added to them for clarities sake. If one person misunderstands the intent then that means another one may too.
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TSgt Sean Tolle
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I had a friend (SrA) dating a female 1st Lt pilot. Not same unit or Chain of command. Unit commander caught wind of it and told him to stop seeing her. He didn’t. Next thing you know he was an A1C with 90 days of extra duty. He broke the rules and paid for it. This was 25 years ago. Has the military really gone soft?
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MSgt Curtis Ellis
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I know a few that have, AF Enlisted-Army Officer... No harm, no foul, translation: never got caught, deeper translation: no one told on them...
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many years ago when I was USAF enlisted, buddy of mine, SSGT was married to a Capt from another squadron.
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