Posted on Nov 13, 2014
SGT Richard H.
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We have a number of threads on RP discussing PTSD, suicide, the relationship between the two and getting people help. I actually had a nephew (non-military) commit suicide a year ago. Like most, I suspect, he was in that dark place where he saw no other way out.

I thought maybe it would be good to discuss how we convince someone that there IS a way out. Have you had someone convince you to get help? Did you convince someone to get help?

What was said that lit the path to the realization that there's help?
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Capt Richard P.
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SGT Richard H. I know from the times I've dealt with it I have to recommend involving a professional most of the time. There are some times when it can be handled one-on-one but its better to error on the safe side. Professional are far better equipped to help people through these dark places than lay-persons are.
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SGT Richard H.
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Absolutely agree, Sir. I'm more looking toward how to get someone to make contact with a professional.
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Capt Richard P.
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SGT Richard H. Yeah that one can be a real trick. For me it's explaining away the stigma of seeking help, if it's possible to talk about your own experience with seeking help for similar thoughts or issues that's the most powerful, if not, telling stories of other very close friends or brothers in arms can help. The posters may sound cheesy, but seeking help isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength. Getting that through to a person in a dark place can definitely be challenging.
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CPT Richard Riley
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I don't know that you can ever convince anyone of something they refuse to see. That said, I've found that just being honest and using examples oftentimes works wonders. I guess the biggest hurdle to this issue is just being able to keep the conversation going and engaged. Once that communication line begins to shut down, everything else seems to follow it.

We all must admit and realize that we have value - to ourselves and those around us. Defining that value can be difficult at times, but not impossible. The best thing to do from my viewpoint is to stay engaged and keep the conversation flowing. Hopefully time, the situation itself, and common sense will improve things.
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SGT Richard H.
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Good thoughts, Sir. I especially agree with the part about keeping the communication flowing. How to get someone communicating in the first place may well be the highest of the hurdles.
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SPC Brian Robinson
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hello sir I am in need of a job I have 25 years of mortgage experience as a Mortgage Underwriter I'm desperately seeking employment so for all the doors have been closed I veteran status hasn't had any preference
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