How do you convince someone that a problem is temporary?

SGT Richard H. — Thu, 13 Nov 2014 08:36:40 -0500

We have a number of threads on RP discussing PTSD, suicide, the relationship between the two and getting people help. I actually had a nephew (non-military) commit suicide a year ago. Like most, I suspect, he was in that dark place where he saw no other way out.

I thought maybe it would be good to discuss how we convince someone that there IS a way out. Have you had someone convince you to get help? Did you convince someone to get help?

What was said that lit the path to the realization that there's help?

Response by CPT Richard Riley made Nov 13 at 2014 9:45 AM

CPT Richard Riley — Thu, 13 Nov 2014 09:45:20 -0500

I don't know that you can ever convince anyone of something they refuse to see. That said, I've found that just being honest and using examples oftentimes works wonders. I guess the biggest hurdle to this issue is just being able to keep the conversation going and engaged. Once that communication line begins to shut down, everything else seems to follow it.

We all must admit and realize that we have value - to ourselves and those around us. Defining that value can be difficult at times, but not impossible. The best thing to do from my viewpoint is to stay engaged and keep the conversation flowing. Hopefully time, the situation itself, and common sense will improve things.

Response by Capt Richard I P. made Nov 13 at 2014 11:44 AM

Capt Richard I P. — Thu, 13 Nov 2014 11:44:47 -0500

SGT Richard H. I know from the times I've dealt with it I have to recommend involving a professional most of the time. There are some times when it can be handled one-on-one but its better to error on the safe side. Professional are far better equipped to help people through these dark places than lay-persons are.

Response by SPC Brian Robinson made Nov 27 at 2014 12:58 PM

SPC Brian Robinson — Thu, 27 Nov 2014 12:58:07 -0500

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