SPC Private RallyPoint Member7070947<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Backstory: my husband passed unexpectedly last month in a wreck, he was national guard and we have a 2 year old. I was told I could request a hardship discharge, but no one could give me any other info. My 6 is up either way in January if not able to get the hardship!How would I go about requesting a hardship discharge?2021-06-26T13:10:58-04:00SPC Private RallyPoint Member7070947<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Backstory: my husband passed unexpectedly last month in a wreck, he was national guard and we have a 2 year old. I was told I could request a hardship discharge, but no one could give me any other info. My 6 is up either way in January if not able to get the hardship!How would I go about requesting a hardship discharge?2021-06-26T13:10:58-04:002021-06-26T13:10:58-04:00SGT Robert Wager7070977<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I am so sorry for your loss. I would start with a meeting with your chaplain. I am sure if that is what you want/need they can walk you through the process.Response by SGT Robert Wager made Jun 26 at 2021 1:24 PM2021-06-26T13:24:47-04:002021-06-26T13:24:47-04:00Sgt Private RallyPoint Member7071009<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="1600663" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/1600663-92f-petroleum-supply-specialist-90th-asb-11th-av-cmd">SPC Private RallyPoint Member</a> I am sorry for your loss.<br />Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 26 at 2021 1:44 PM2021-06-26T13:44:37-04:002021-06-26T13:44:37-04:00SFC Private RallyPoint Member7071060<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>With the amount of time it can take to process voluntary separations you are probably better off just waiting it out. It is possible to get a voluntary separation submitted, signed and approved in a month or two, but that's when you dig into the reg and walk it through yourself. Even then, you're usually going to get it approved for 90 days later. So, you walk a separation packet through in a month, you get out 90 days later and you've only saved yourself two months after all that work and headacheResponse by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 26 at 2021 2:08 PM2021-06-26T14:08:55-04:002021-06-26T14:08:55-04:00CWO3 Private RallyPoint Member7071082<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sorry for your loss. S1 will process, and your COC should help. The 1SG and your NCOIC would be a great help. See the Chaplain as well.Response by CWO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 26 at 2021 2:18 PM2021-06-26T14:18:52-04:002021-06-26T14:18:52-04:00MAJ Ken Landgren7071302<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Take a look into not having a Family Care Plan. I really don't know the ins and out of this process, but I don know that some single parents have been chaptered out for not having that plan. Maybe others can illuminate the process better than me. <br /><br />I am sorry for what you are experiencing now. My sincere condolences to you.Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Jun 26 at 2021 4:54 PM2021-06-26T16:54:40-04:002021-06-26T16:54:40-04:00PO3 Aaron Hassay7071309<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Are you active reserve or active duty?Response by PO3 Aaron Hassay made Jun 26 at 2021 4:59 PM2021-06-26T16:59:04-04:002021-06-26T16:59:04-04:00SSgt Christophe Murphy7071322<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I would talk to your S1 and Chaplain. They will be able to get you the answers you needResponse by SSgt Christophe Murphy made Jun 26 at 2021 5:04 PM2021-06-26T17:04:11-04:002021-06-26T17:04:11-04:00Cpl Vic Burk7071590<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sorry to hear of your loss. If I were in your shoes I would go see the Chaplain. I saw them do things I didn't think possible when I was in the Corps. No matter what you know the governments old saying, "Hurry up and wait!"Response by Cpl Vic Burk made Jun 26 at 2021 7:51 PM2021-06-26T19:51:15-04:002021-06-26T19:51:15-04:00LTC Mark Ensign7071684<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I agree with the earlier recommendations to discuss your options with your COC and Chaplain.<br />If a hardship discharge is what you need, obtaining one is not at all unreasonable.<br />That said, also consider not immediately dismissing the possibility of continuing in the military.<br />With a solid Family Care Plan in place, I have seen many single parent Soldiers continue to serve successfully.<br />My deepest condolences for your loss and the best to you whatever you decide.Response by LTC Mark Ensign made Jun 26 at 2021 8:44 PM2021-06-26T20:44:08-04:002021-06-26T20:44:08-04:00SFC Casey O'Mally7071804<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="527810" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/527810-maj-ken-landgren">MAJ Ken Landgren</a> mentioned, Family Care Plan may work for you. Absolutely pursue the Hardship, as well, but if you (and your Commander) are motivated, lack of a FCP can have you out of the Army in 60 days. <br /><br />But.... keep in mind that a rapid transition gives you no time at all to actually TRANSITION. Remaining until ETS and using these next 6 months to make the most out of SFL-TAP and set yourself up for success as a civilian is a VERY smart play if you can do it.Response by SFC Casey O'Mally made Jun 26 at 2021 10:10 PM2021-06-26T22:10:50-04:002021-06-26T22:10:50-04:00MAJ Ken Landgren7071814<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Will you have any disabilities? I hope not.Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Jun 26 at 2021 10:17 PM2021-06-26T22:17:14-04:002021-06-26T22:17:14-04:00MAJ Ken Landgren7071841<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>SPC Starks I would be honored to try to mentor and coach you. I have two ears and one mouth, so I can listen better. I also give good pep talks. I don't want you to feel you are alone. Many of us will step up to the plate on your behalf.Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Jun 26 at 2021 10:32 PM2021-06-26T22:32:46-04:002021-06-26T22:32:46-04:00MSG Rob Canarios7072166<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>You could try discharge under AR 600-20 Chapter 5-8. This reg covers single parent in the Army requiring a family care plan.Response by MSG Rob Canarios made Jun 27 at 2021 7:50 AM2021-06-27T07:50:44-04:002021-06-27T07:50:44-04:00CPT Andrew Wright7073964<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Use your Chain of Command and/or talk to your Unit Administrator about transferring to the IRR. About the only paperwork needed is a 4651-R and some signatures. Best of Luck!Response by CPT Andrew Wright made Jun 28 at 2021 4:45 AM2021-06-28T04:45:19-04:002021-06-28T04:45:19-04:00SPC Private RallyPoint Member7075515<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>AR 135-178. Talk to Chaplain, PSG, and submit request through CoC.Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 28 at 2021 5:20 PM2021-06-28T17:20:55-04:002021-06-28T17:20:55-04:002021-06-26T13:10:58-04:00