What are the best tips for getting through the holidays away from your family or loved ones?

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Response by PFC David Foster made Nov 30 at 2021 2:26 PM

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Go to New Orleans with your favorite sidekick and drink drink drink, oh yea, and stay through New Years.

Response by SPC Stiv ChenRobbins made Nov 30 at 2021 2:43 PM

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If it is a religious holiday, spend time at your local church/synagogue/whatever. Community can make all the difference.

Response by 1SG Steven Imerman made Nov 30 at 2021 3:02 PM

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Invite as many people from the barracks as will fit in your house. Always turns out good.

Response by SPC David S. made Nov 30 at 2021 3:34 PM

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Do something that will make everyone forget about missing their loved ones. Your letter of counsel will go a long way with your battle buddies and even with you CoC.

Response by SSG Richard (Rick) Dana made Nov 30 at 2021 3:53 PM

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Way back during the Vietnam days … I use to volunteer for duty so the one’s with family close could spend their time together. Just a small WWJD…

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 30 at 2021 4:07 PM

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For me it was the cohesion of my Soldiers. I made it a point to put cohesion at the forefront of everything because when you do, everything else follows. They helped make it easy to be away from family because they were my family

Response by SFC Terry Fortune made Nov 30 at 2021 5:11 PM

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I would pull duty for someone, so they could spend that time with their family. Or enjoy the time with my extended family.

Response by GySgt Jack Wallace made Nov 30 at 2021 5:28 PM

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On my first and only overseas duty station Okinawa,Japan is where The Marine Corps sent me. To avoid being home sick, I worked a part-time job off base, learned to scuba dive, went to night college learn to play tennis, and enrolled in judo and kendo. Holidays was spent with my Gunny and his family. I was on Okinawa for 3.4 yrs and because of lack of money I was not able to go home.In December several of us Marines would buy clothes and baseball Gloves/balls for kids without Dad's.
Kind of like being a big brother to them.To avoid the Holiday blues stay BUSY....

Response by CPL Douglas Chrysler made Nov 30 at 2021 5:35 PM

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Forget about it being a holiday.

Response by SPC Margaret Higgins made Nov 30 at 2021 5:35 PM

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@ Rally Point News: My best advice for getting through the holiday season is the following: is to stay around trusted Loved Ones.

Response by Cpl Vic Burk made Nov 30 at 2021 6:41 PM

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Be there for them not only during the holiday season but throughout the year. I didn't have much of a family growing up so I always wanted to make sure my children knew they were loved and were the center of our world.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Nov 30 at 2021 8:40 PM

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Always extend the invitation to those who cannot afford leave to see their families and have them celebrate it with yours.

Response by CPT Gurinder (Gene) Rana made Dec 1 at 2021 4:45 AM

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Remember the great times together and pen a few lines to your loved ones giving them your love and encouraging them to stay strong for you. Jot down a few lines about the current situation and holiday mood in camp. Close with a bit about what you are planning to do with your family after homecoming. This will ensure you stay grounded and sane, till your homecoming.

Response by MAJ Janice Campbell. BSN, RN, CNOR made Dec 1 at 2021 11:42 AM

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Make a family with those around you in the same situation. My "military family" remains my always family, hope you can make your military family just as special.

Response by COL Bill Gross made Dec 1 at 2021 5:17 PM

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If you are deployed with your unit, you are with your second family and loved ones.

Response by Maj Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 1 at 2021 5:47 PM

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When I was deployed I would always find a way to volunteer in some fashion, whether it was taking shifts, organizing some type of holiday dinner, or delivering food to those on shift. Have been away from family multiple times and I found that finding ways to help others always helped me.

Response by PO2 Nicholas Sutley made Dec 1 at 2021 6:13 PM

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Care packages, both ways.

Response by SPC Amina Higgs made Dec 1 at 2021 6:24 PM

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I called family members of those lost while in Iraq and even when I returned to wish them happy holidays and just to show my support.

Response by SSgt Robert Mesic made Dec 1 at 2021 6:25 PM

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It is hard when you are away from family so the best way to help you through it is to call family when you or them open presents then hang out with a few friends

Response by SrA Chris Bohler made Dec 1 at 2021 6:29 PM

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It's important that you aware of those you with and around and ensure that there an item for for not only the single members but also to the young families and couples. I work at a VA hospital and I see our veterans struggling. And I mean the physical and mental struggles so it's important to reach out to each one and thank them every single time you pass them in the hall.

Response by Sgt Patty Miller made Dec 1 at 2021 6:52 PM

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This is awesome!

Response by CPL Brian Chesne made Dec 1 at 2021 7:01 PM

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My days of spending holidays alone is try to stay busy, at to do stuff, try to spend time with the other people who could not go home to, always safer in numbers, and try not to sit there and drink it away, will make it worse

Response by SGT Lisa Mayne made Dec 1 at 2021 7:03 PM

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Absolutely make sure to tell ALL of them how much you appreciate them and why!

Response by 1LT James Hornberger made Dec 1 at 2021 8:02 PM

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Today, there is no real reason why you can’t see your family at least. You may not be able to be with them physically but you can use the computer to see them. That is much better than we had it. We could make telephone calls and hear them, but things have changed for the better. I work in healthcare and missing holidays is the norm. You need to be thinking about your family and take advantage of the time you get to spend with them when you are at home.

Response by CMSgt Sylvia Morris made Dec 1 at 2021 8:20 PM

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Best Tips for getting through the holidays: mail or email poetry, Holiday songs, gift cards, Holiday cards and open them together virtually; read them together and talk about the good ole days and fun times together. Have some egg nog or hot chocolate while on the phone or virtually via FaceTime
or another system. Think about the wonderful gift of life we are given and make the very best of our wonderful gifts.

Response by SPC Melissa Rocha made Dec 1 at 2021 8:44 PM

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I think it’s important to be open with your family and friends and letting them know how you feel about the holidays. The more you open the lines of communication the better they will be about setting up a time to call or face time, maybe write a letter or send you a care package. If you love receiving things, let them know. Anticipation and hope is what makes things a little better. If you take joy in celebrations, decorate and throw a little shindig of your own. Make it feel a little like home.

Response by Sgt Mary Currin made Dec 1 at 2021 9:01 PM

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When my family was stationed in Alaska, we would have Christmas with other families that were there alone. If it happened to be someone in the dorm; we had planned a dinner in the barracks, but I went into labor with my first child on Thanksgiving morning. You just have to make the best of the situation in all things.

Response by SPC Abbie Romero made Dec 1 at 2021 9:04 PM

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Stay busy. Don't mope around, throw a Christmas party, do cheesy stuff to just have fun. Distraction is key.

Response by SGT Anthony Dion made Dec 1 at 2021 9:37 PM

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These days FaceTime, Duo, and zoom make life alot easier. But just communicating with my loved ones makes it better.

The other thing we do is help others in our area to know that we make additional people smile when they may no be with their loved ones.

Response by PFC Deborah Sanderson made Dec 1 at 2021 9:44 PM

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The best way to get through the holidays when you can’t be with your loved ones is to stay positive and help others to feel happy.

Response by SN Harry Conrad made Dec 1 at 2021 9:50 PM

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Music!! Many songs can take you home and bring you GREAT memories. Adrian Cronauer during the "Viet Nam Conflict" so they say, was good at taking people away from the war. Also, share memories with your friends, you'll be surprised by how many are looking for the same thing you are. Even being home all these years I still deal with a little depression around the Holidays. Always good to talk about family and the fun stuff you do. I know it kept me sane.

Response by A1C Robert Underwood made Dec 1 at 2021 10:11 PM

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Find something that you can do by yourself that is close to what could be done if your family was there. If they are in your mind, then they are with you too.

Response by SSG Archie Martinez made Dec 1 at 2021 10:16 PM

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I would have to keep myself extremely occupied. An idle mind can lead to a vast array of emotions both positive and negative. The negative emotions can though have a greater impact if someone is vulnerable. Therefore, stay busy!!

Response by CDR Michelle Webber made Dec 1 at 2021 10:47 PM

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Make sure to FaceTime or Zoom with your family when it’s time to open gifts. You can even watch a movie together.

Response by SPC Ricky Poe made Dec 1 at 2021 10:55 PM

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Since I am away from family all the time and lost my wife on Jan 18 2019 and have to spend my Thanksgiving and Christmas alone every year now, and I get no gifts anymore for Christmas and I live on a fixed income of just my Social Security and have to make ends met every month, the best way for me to do Christmas is to set up a small tree decorate it every year make a simple meal call my family and tell them how much I love and miss them and even though I am a 59 year male U.S. Army Desert Storm Veteran, after all the calls are made I go to my bedroom and lay down on my bed and I cry myself to sleep every year because it is the only way I can get through the holidays alone.

Because I don't have any friends locally I can spend time with or the holidays with, I only have my small dog who is my best friend and only friend.

So I even though I try to do what I can to make friends I have been unable to even with me being a life member of the American Legion (or a PUFL as the call it) I still have no friends locally.

So yes I am all alone on the holidays ever year and make the best of it as I can.

Response by PO1 Riley Roberts III made Dec 1 at 2021 11:10 PM

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When you are acustom to having your family around and tyen you don't the best thing that I've come up with is to donate your time to a shelter that is in need of people. By doing this it gives a sense of belonging When you are not with your family and also allows you to give another person the hope and love of sharing your time. It also allows you to meet new people and to gather new friends.

Response by MAJ Darwin Feakes made Dec 1 at 2021 11:33 PM

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Gather with friends your serving with and do as many family traditions you can in the group.

Response by PO2 Charity Keller made Dec 1 at 2021 11:35 PM

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My first Christmas I was stationed on a ship and my supervisor invited me to her house. After that I made sure to have an open door policy for anyone at all the holidays. Being with people made it easier for me and i wanted to make sure everyone knee they had somewhere to go even if I needed to pick them up. And everyone had a present to open.

Response by Capt Sylvia DeBorger made Dec 1 at 2021 11:38 PM

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You may be away from family and loved ones in space, but you can still interact with them via computer and smart phone. This is today. I could not do this when I served. Then a telephone call was about it. Take advantage of modern technologies.

Response by SN Chance Gray made Dec 1 at 2021 11:39 PM

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They will be there for us so long as we're out there looking out for all of them.

Response by PO2 Charity Keller made Dec 1 at 2021 11:42 PM

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My first Christmas in the navy my supervisor invited me to her house. The following year I was married and with my own child and I continue to tradition until I was retired in 2002. I made sure everybody and anybody knew my door was open and they were welcome to come over anytime during the day or night of any holiday

Response by Capt Sylvia DeBorger made Dec 1 at 2021 11:44 PM

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When you are away from family and loved ones during holidays, you can stay in touch via computer and smart phone videos. This is today. When I served, the only way to stay in touch was phone calls and letters. Take advantage of today's advanced technologies

Response by SSgt Kerrie Schneider made Dec 2 at 2021 12:02 AM

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I think that one way to get through the holidays away from family is basically just keep busy. If you aren’t working then look for volunteer opportunities. Volunteering is a great way to not only help others and keep your mind busy, it’s also a great way to meet new people and new friends.

Response by TSgt DeMaris Hoyt made Dec 2 at 2021 12:05 AM

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I am the youngest of 6 siblings and being away for the holidays was hard for me because our house was always full of family and friends. When I was in the Air Force and away from home, I would try to get a group of other airmen together that were also on base for the holiday. We would try to BBQ or crock pot a stew and each person was assigned a tasked to complete and help out with. We would tell stories about our loved ones back home and try to give a little insight to who we were. Not only did it give us an opportunity to take our minds off of being away from home on the holidays, but it allowed us to learn more about the people we lived with and become closer friends, co-workers and extended family.

Response by SGT Arleen Matthews made Dec 2 at 2021 12:14 AM

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The best tip is to not let others cause outside interference within your life. Focus on self satisfaction & self gratification. Spend quality time with those who share your love for them.

Response by SSgt Adriana Santos made Dec 2 at 2021 12:35 AM

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Gather with with the Marines in the barracks

Response by SPC Susie Hill made Dec 2 at 2021 12:43 AM

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I always invited other people to my house i f they also had no family around. I always seemed to have a full house!

Response by AN Santos Colon made Dec 2 at 2021 2:32 AM

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While I was deployed onboard an aircraft carrier, I would read letters and write letters. Listen to music and enjoy the fellowship with friends during chow.

Response by Julie Holifield made Dec 2 at 2021 2:34 AM

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Create your own traditions. ...
Schedule a FaceTime or Zoom date. ...
Set up a virtual Secret Santa. ...
Do a drive by to see friends. ...
Turn your home into a staycation wonderland. ...
Save it for next year. ...
Enjoy it!

Response by PFC Dennis Jihnson made Dec 2 at 2021 3:45 AM

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Good communication using the media one has.

Response by SGT Nicol Padilla made Dec 2 at 2021 6:08 AM

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Try and keep yourself busy so that you are not thinking too much about back home and if you do start to feel homesick just go to that one battle buddy that always has your back and talk to them maybe they are also feeling the same and you guys can cheer each other up. You can always try to call and write your family as much as you can but what I found worked for me was not having as much contact with everyone back home so that I would stay focused and before I knew it I was back home.

Response by SP5 Marcy Bro made Dec 2 at 2021 6:43 AM

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A call home to family then time with those I was close with in country.

Response by Sgt To y Garcia made Dec 2 at 2021 8:06 AM

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To me the Marine Corps was a huge family, while overseas we would make sure no one would spend time alone. We would have a huge BBQ and gather as many of us as possible.

Response by A1C Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2021 8:32 AM

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The best thing as a new airman for me is just to stay busy.

Response by A1C Mark Nevius made Dec 2 at 2021 8:35 AM

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You gotta serve somebody. Whether it be the Lord or the devil or yourself, you guys serve somebody.

Response by MSG Scott Beck made Dec 2 at 2021 9:15 AM

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We always filled our home with soldiers who have no place to go other then the mess hall. Sometimes we had 1 or 2 other times a house full. These soldiers really had a place to relax and have a great meal.

Response by PO2 Russell "Russ" Lincoln made Dec 2 at 2021 9:34 AM

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I usually went to the USO while overseas, or Special Services they usually had something going on to celebrate the hilidays.

Response by SMSgt Ds Martin made Dec 2 at 2021 9:35 AM

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Staying connected with family and loved ones can be very difficult especially when there are many time zones between us and family. With the technology available today, a great way to stay connected is to take advantage of video chat programs (zoom etc). Check the USO if one is available because they almost always have something set up, and the Chaplains often do also. Be flexible with setting up the times or appointments because many people will be trying to use the same service; pre-plan with your family so there's no wasted time with unanswered phones or trying to find everyone for the call. Failing the video chat plan, a simple phone call can make a huge difference in your outlook, and hearing their voices (and them hearing yours) is always good.

In addition, make sure to connect with the military family you have around you. This can be especially challenging for middle or senior ranking people who feel they have to remain separate or distant from their subordinates, but this can be a great opportunity to connect with them and demonstrate that the whole team is in the same situation of being away from family. Sharing stories from past holidays or family traditions, and then maybe incorporating some of those traditions into activities with the team can be more effective than any formal 'team building exercise' that everyone hates.

And for you seniors: you ARE human and are dealing with the same issues and have the same needs as your troops. Take care of yourself, talk with your peers, talk with the chaplain team, talk with someone! Don't be afraid to open up for a few minutes- you'll be a better leader for it, trust me.

SMSgt Oz

Response by MGySgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2021 10:29 AM

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The trick is NOT to send Holidays away from family and friends but we know that is hard. The best thing my wife and I tried to do was plan ahead the best we could to share things/events. United Through Reading was a great tool. We would buy the books we knew about ahead of time, I would record me reading, and they would have their books there. This way we could 'read' together and that was great. It is a lot easier now than what it was but we always do the best we could do.

Response by SPC Sandra Allen made Dec 2 at 2021 10:47 AM

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With today's world I would suggest video calling your family and trying to be apart of the festivities the best you can be as well as have any family send you packages that you can open during that time. Also spend time with friends that may not have family around.

Response by SPC Kelly Davis made Dec 2 at 2021 12:10 PM

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I volunteer to help those in need as much as possible. It is not only rewarding to help other but to see their faces shine with happiness and excitement!

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2021 1:03 PM

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Listen to a song that helps remind you of a tradition or brings back a memory of good times with your loved ones!

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2021 1:04 PM

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Listen to a song that helps remind you of a tradition or brings back a memory of good times with your loved ones!

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2021 2:12 PM

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Think of the good times/memories had and those to come, build family away from home with your team!

Response by MSG Anna Torres made Dec 2 at 2021 2:47 PM

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I like to decorate my bedroom & enjoy the Holiday season with Christmas music & reading. An hour away or whatever time you can take is great. Also set a side a time for prayer, asking the Lord for Peace during this stressful time.

Response by PO2 Richard Taylor made Dec 2 at 2021 8:33 PM

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Circle the wagons. Make the most of your other [military] family. Be a little flexible with your rank. Use the opportunity to smooth over conflicts. Take a duty so someone can go home if possible. Enjoy the camaraderie of being together in difficult situations.

Response by SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. made Dec 2 at 2021 8:38 PM

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I remember when I was in Germany during the holidays I tried to learn German and learn their culture and customs and a family took me in and invited me for Christmas which was really humbling because they have a different way of celebrating Christmas for instance they had a live tree in real candles lite on the Christmas tree and also celebrated with an advent calendar and a very good meal. It was an experience that I'll never forget. Till this day I always buy Advent calendars and bring that tradition to my family.

Response by PFC Penelope Peck made Dec 2 at 2021 9:00 PM

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Write letters to each person you miss being with and tell them why you miss them.

Response by PO1 Carlos Xochihua made Dec 3 at 2021 5:01 AM

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Get with your friends and exchange stories of family gatherings and traditions. Help each other out.

Response by SGT Linsey Anderson made Dec 3 at 2021 5:04 AM

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I was deployed for Christmas in 2009 to Afghanistan. I left a 6 month old and a 5 year old with my new husband. I was on a very little FOB with very little communication and zero internet. We had no store, no way to get anything other than care packages filled with hygiene items, snacks, underclothes and thank you letters. I did not talk to my family while I was on this little FOB. Nobody on my team could. We would avoid talking about our families or back home to stay focused.

I remember making up silly games with my troops to pass the time, for instance, we would name a famous person who’s fist name starts with the last letter of the famous person the previous player said. If I said Michael Jackson, the next player would have to name a famous person who’s name started with N. If they could not come up with a name they were out, and the next player would have to start with the same letter. This would continue until only one person was left.

We would also, play cards, dominos, sleep, work out in our mini gym tent, shower forever, or read.

Don’t get the wrong Idea, we still had our mission, but we did have down time as well. It was nice when aircraft would bring us mail, since we had no other way to send or get mail.

Mostly, we would keep ourselves busy any way we could when the fight wasn’t happening, or our mission was on pause. We would write letters, take pictures, watch movies on our laptops or other devices (bootleg or off a hard drive of course. ) I even had a troop that wrote a book while deployed.

It’s rough, but we wouldn’t be able to focus on our jobs if it wasn’t for the spouses, community, and family support doing everything at the homefront while we are gone. The spouses and families are the rocks that make it all happen. They are the mothers and fathers, the homemakers, the teachers, the financial specialist, every job that holds a family afloat, all while doing everything they can to support our military while they are gone.

I personally made it through the holidays because I knew I had nothing to worry about back home and my family was doing just fine, waiting for my return and all responsibilities were taken care of. If we didn’t have the amazing support of our families, supporter in the community, and all the organizations back home our missions would have failed.

My best advice is, don’t focus on what or who your missing during the holidays. Instead try to make plans for the future, plan how to show your families and supporters how much they meant to you while you were away. Self improve and stay positive.

Response by PO3 Kerryn Hullstrung made Dec 3 at 2021 7:01 AM

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Start your own self love and self care traditions order online and pay for them to gift wrap attend community events and put up decorations anyways

Response by LCDR Robert S. made Dec 3 at 2021 8:13 AM

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Celebrate the holiday with your family before you deploy. Have Christmas in October, doing all the things you normally would. Take lots of video and pictures. Then on the actual day of the holiday, do as much of your normal family holiday as you can (go to church, eat a traditional meal, open a present or two that they sent along with you) and tell them to do the same - if you can, do it at the exact same time (even if you're in widely distant time zones). While you're doing those things look at pictures and watch the videos.

Response by AN Daniel C Begay made Dec 3 at 2021 9:00 AM

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Diversions and finding common ground.
I recently had a friend over for turkey day who annoyed my other guests. I would try to find a common ground that we would agree on, when that didn't work- diversion.
An example was taking two of them to a local museum or sending someone on a grocery run.

Response by Cpl Rosemarie SantaAnna made Dec 4 at 2021 1:04 AM

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In 1981 my 1st Thanksgiving away from family (I am youngest of 6 & only on who chose to Join Marine Corps) was still in Training station Parris Island & could Not make back to California… I had planned to take Trip to New York City with Those who family lived out there, but had NO other female who wanted to go, so Neither did I…. Stood on Base, about 8 girl whom we just finished Boot Camp Together pal around the whole weekend…

Response by Sgt Hazel Abraham made Dec 4 at 2021 1:47 AM

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Use modern technology and use video chat!

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 4 at 2021 5:00 PM

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When you are away from your family for the holidays, do what you can to have a small trinket or object with you that reminds you of those great times.

Response by Angela Urbistondo made Dec 5 at 2021 10:43 AM

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shared!

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 7 at 2021 5:36 PM

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Suck it up.

Response by SMSgt James Chandler made Dec 8 at 2021 2:17 PM

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Keep yourself busy, professionally and personally.

Response by SrA Jeaneth Helton made Dec 8 at 2021 3:25 PM

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Take the time to enjoy spending time with friends or family.

Response by Charlotte Rose made Dec 9 at 2021 2:23 PM

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During my father's past deployments, Skype was a fairly new, but under-appreciated, invention. We learned quickly how to time his calls on holidays during the large family gatherings, where he could see everyone and everyone could see him making it feel as though he was in the room enjoying the family meal with all of us. Once he returned and my nuclear family and I started moving often, these timed Skype calls featured not just my father, but my entire family. We learned that technology is the greatest gift to military families, especially video calling capabilities, because it allows us to be present during family holiday gatherings, even when we cannot physically be there. So my biggest tip, remember to call your family on the holidays, it may be difficult to time, but it makes all the difference. The other tip I have is to make sure that you surround yourself with people that bring joy into your life on the holidays. Even with the aforementioned technology, the holidays can still be lonely when you are physically separated from your loved ones. Therefore, my second most important tip is to make sure that your holidays are spent with people you love and who love you, whether that be friends, battle buddies, family or coworkers. Find those people wherever you are, and cherish their company on the holidays, because 9 times out of 10 too they are just as lonely as you are.

Response by Lt Col Charlie Brown made Dec 13 at 2021 6:49 AM

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Letters and surprise packages....we sent lots of small packages each with a note so that most days you got something in the mail. It made a huge difference.

Response by SPC Eileen Keller made Dec 13 at 2021 10:46 AM

2021-12-13T10:46:25-05:00

Mark the holidays but do it in unique ways when you are able to...unique enough that they will be memories years later.

Response by TSgt John Brody made Dec 13 at 2021 11:05 AM

2021-12-13T11:05:48-05:00

The basic answer to this is a preemptive question: What is your personality type?
For extroverts, the best way to handle the holidays is to surround yourself with the most people you can and have fun. Don't engage in deep conversations that draw upon the past too much, especially reminiscing about previous holidays.
For introverts, find that one (two at most) person who best seems to "get" you. Enjoy those deep discussions that thoroughly explore a topic. Play an involved board game that takes a couple of hours. This recharges you and doesn't obligate you to social gatherings!

Response by Sgt Stephen Brown made Dec 13 at 2021 3:33 PM

2021-12-13T15:33:13-05:00

Go out with a group doing something different and have a good time making memories with friends.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 13 at 2021 7:09 PM

2021-12-13T19:09:55-05:00

Sometimes this is the price of serving.

Response by Capt Sylvia DeBorger made Dec 14 at 2021 12:06 AM

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Look for opportunities to volunteer and work with groups and organizations that help others during this very special time of the year. There should be no shortage of these opportunities, and you will feel SO good when you take advantage of them.

Response by CPT David Gowel made Dec 15 at 2021 7:08 PM

2021-12-15T19:08:18-05:00

Lots of Facetime, lots of PT, and lots of sleep!

Response by Lt Col John (Jack) Christensen made Dec 15 at 2021 7:13 PM

2021-12-15T19:13:31-05:00

Just remember that everyone with you is in the same situation, get together and do things that bring back memories. I learned a lot of new traditions that way.

Response by LCpl Steve Smith made Dec 15 at 2021 7:14 PM

2021-12-15T19:14:55-05:00

Like many have suggested, you could pull extra duty (sometimes earn some extra cash by your people in your Platoon or Company to take their duty). If a buddy invites you to his family's for the holiday's you could take him/her up on the invite. Me I used to pull duty for people and watch movies...

Response by TSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 7:15 PM

2021-12-15T19:15:50-05:00

My tip is don't dive to the bottom a bottle to cope it won't work and will most likely lead to an additional issue. With technology folks are a video away. My deployments meant little to no communication with home. You all have so much available to you now use it don't sit around being sorry that your alone. Also many of you NCOs will sponsor someone that is going to be alone for any of the holidays. Also remeber you have the undying support if those that went before you thank you all for serving!!!!

Response by 1SG Michael Farrell made Dec 15 at 2021 7:19 PM

2021-12-15T19:19:15-05:00

Write, schedule a Zoom call or something similar. Don't drink too much or too often. Exercise, lots of exercise. Volunteer to pull duty on the Holidays. First Sergeant or whoever makes up Staff Duty Roster will be grateful. Other people who have families there will be grateful. Cut back on caffeine. Go to Christmas services. Keep smiling and be positive, even if it hurts. It will, but there's a reason you are where you are, and if you're loved ones and friends can't understand that, get new ones.

Response by MSgt Robert Bermudez made Dec 15 at 2021 7:19 PM

2021-12-15T19:19:35-05:00

Surround yourself with quality individuals instead of quantity if possible. Use the time to focus on mental healing of your mental health. Try not to focus on unrealistic expectations, over indulge or speed and just be present in the moment.

Response by Maj Ron Worley made Dec 15 at 2021 7:21 PM

2021-12-15T19:21:26-05:00

Drink Heavily! Only kidding…..sorta.

Response by Maj Ron Worley made Dec 15 at 2021 7:21 PM

2021-12-15T19:21:54-05:00

Drink heavily! Just kidding….sorta…

Response by Denise Leddy made Dec 15 at 2021 7:23 PM

2021-12-15T19:23:05-05:00

Back in Germany my husband would invite as many soldiers as would fit on our table during the holidays. Now being retired we invite veterans to spend holiday meals with us.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 7:26 PM

2021-12-15T19:26:42-05:00

Volunteer for duties or study to occupy yourself. Treat holidays like normal duty days. Some leaders open their house for soldiers who are unable to go home for holidays. Travel is also a good way to distract yourself from being homesick

Response by MAJ John Davis made Dec 15 at 2021 7:26 PM

2021-12-15T19:26:50-05:00

Invent family traditions of your own. We (my wife and I and three sons) would go from house to house in Europe, when we were stationed there during the Cold War. We would knock on a neighbor's door, and all of us would sing Christmas carols. Then we'd share a glass of glueh wein (hot red wine which made you 'glow') which we poured from a canister we brought along ! The neighbors loved it, we made new friends, and we remember those holidays to this day.

Response by CW5 Mark Smith made Dec 15 at 2021 7:30 PM

2021-12-15T19:30:06-05:00

"This, too, shall pass!".

Response by SP5 Norbert Schluessler made Dec 15 at 2021 7:30 PM

2021-12-15T19:30:55-05:00

My way of dealing with being away from my family now that I am retired (Also a Vietnam Veteran) is my religious training. God is always by my side and I use him to comfort me on those holidays which are meant to celebrate religious events....especially the brith of his son.

Response by PO3 Charles Dobson made Dec 15 at 2021 7:31 PM

2021-12-15T19:31:49-05:00

Being in the Navy, on the sea during holidays, I was with family and friends!

Response by SSgt Donald Baker made Dec 15 at 2021 7:33 PM

2021-12-15T19:33:03-05:00

Try your best to make phone contact with your family!

Response by SPC Vonnie Jones made Dec 15 at 2021 7:35 PM

2021-12-15T19:35:29-05:00

I think one of the things that always helps is when you give your time and talents. If you want to smile all day, go to volunteer and help others. Believe me you will be happy for weeks after.

Response by SPC Leland Keller made Dec 15 at 2021 7:35 PM

2021-12-15T19:35:35-05:00

I would take extra duty from one's who wanted to be with their families, go to the post library, PX, walk around the post, and watch tv or play NES games because it was 1988-92

Response by CPT Tommy Curtis made Dec 15 at 2021 7:36 PM

2021-12-15T19:36:28-05:00

Find something to make you laugh when you feel the loneliest. Listen to a comedian, watch a funny movie read a book of jokes anything to make you laugh.

Response by CPT John Ioia made Dec 15 at 2021 7:39 PM

2021-12-15T19:39:06-05:00

I was away for two holiday seasons in Afghanistan. I simply just kept at it. I treated the days like any other with the exception of a, “Happy Thanksgiving,” or Merry Christmas. I would Skype with the loved ones if I was able but tried to stay in the moment and not worry about things out of my control.

Response by SGT David Jackson made Dec 15 at 2021 7:39 PM

2021-12-15T19:39:37-05:00

The only thing that has worked for me in the past few years has been long walks and runs with Gabby, my service dog (See my picture.) She keeps me calm and healthy, and actually saved my left leg from amputation a few months ago.

Response by Amn Steven Heugel made Dec 15 at 2021 7:40 PM

2021-12-15T19:40:25-05:00

It is all about giving of yourself your time your talents your money so that they see the love of God being expressed

Response by SP5 Mark Smith made Dec 15 at 2021 7:40 PM

2021-12-15T19:40:52-05:00

Spend it with your other friends that aren't able to be home. Group misery lol.

Response by MSG John Bukoffsky made Dec 15 at 2021 7:41 PM

2021-12-15T19:41:26-05:00

When I was on active duty and stationed away from home/family I found that those around me became my family. We gathered together and celebrated with a mixture of what we each were used to doing over each holiday. I am still in contact with a lot of my friends/ military family from these years.

Response by SPC Sandra Allen made Dec 15 at 2021 7:42 PM

2021-12-15T19:42:23-05:00

Staying busy and having a party with fellow soldiers that are away from their families. I would also recommend having family send you packages to open on Christmas and have a video chat time during that occasion so that you can have that feeling, as artificial and distant as it may be, time with your family since we have the technology to do so easily now.

Response by PFC Shaundrika Taylor made Dec 15 at 2021 7:42 PM

2021-12-15T19:42:52-05:00

If you have a good friend or coworker invite them over or go to there house

Response by SrA Larry Gray made Dec 15 at 2021 7:43 PM

2021-12-15T19:43:38-05:00

Adopt an Airman. Let them spend time with you and your family.

Response by LTC Ernest Edge made Dec 15 at 2021 7:44 PM

2021-12-15T19:44:09-05:00

Stay away from crowds and shop from home.

Response by SSgt Charles Dengler made Dec 15 at 2021 7:44 PM

2021-12-15T19:44:32-05:00

Make plenty of phone calls and keep in touch as much as possible.

Response by SSgt Ricardo Lugo made Dec 15 at 2021 7:46 PM

2021-12-15T19:46:49-05:00

I have always focus on Vision; that unite God, marriage, family and country. It always work and keep my spirit, mind and soul healthy. So God Help Us. Pursuit of Happiness under God. God Bless America.

Response by Sgt Eduardo Mendez made Dec 15 at 2021 7:47 PM

2021-12-15T19:47:38-05:00

My best tips for getting through the holidays away from your family or loved ones; First and foremost understand that not everyone celebrates certain holidays the same or even have the same meaning not be Ethnocentric. Identify the things that bring one depression and sadness and avoid these things. If adding Alcohol or in certain States (Legal Cannabis) avoid over indulging or avoid all together. If gambling is a vice or an addiction stay out of the casino it is very easy for someone alone to fall prey to the one armed bandits just to waste time and lose one's self. Second seek out new and different activities if one has never ice skated than do that. The Winter holiday season is full of people that are also away from friends or family look up some old friends make new ones go different places and try new things, by all means stay away from that which brings one to sadness, loneliness and depression. If one hasn't been to church in a while then do that, what I'm trying to convey is stay away from that which can lead to depression and sadness as we all well know the community of Veterans and Servicemembers have an unusually high rate of suicide, and for those whom suspect that a loved one or friend may be dealing with this reach out lend a hand call whomever needs to be called and use the veterans suicide help line. We are all brother's and sisters lets help lift each other in these times where certain servicemembers may fall into the abyss of sadness and depression, sometimes a kind word can save a life. Not everyone is happy in these days or season many folks also suffer from "SAD" Seasonal Affect Disorder coupled with being isolated or away from support groups could be a recipe for disaster. Always stay positive, smile, help others and blessing will always come your way. Live life every second at a time, for once it's gone you can never get that second back. Variety is the spice of life change things up; go to out learn new things help those who need more help than you. You would be surprised in just how much one receives when giving of one's self. Happy and blessed holidays to all, may you all have a Prosperous and Safe New Year.

Response by SPC Benjamin Prouty made Dec 15 at 2021 7:48 PM

2021-12-15T19:48:41-05:00

I mainly walk around my house in the nude. Tends to keep friends and family away for the holidays.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 7:49 PM

2021-12-15T19:49:59-05:00

I used to volunteer to work. No point in being miserable alone.
After I had my family issued to me, I started inviting the single soldiers over for Christmas or New Years.

Response by PFC William Stevens made Dec 15 at 2021 7:50 PM

2021-12-15T19:50:59-05:00

When i was over in south korea i would get most of my buddies in the barracks to get a party going and play call of duty or super smash bros and order alot of pizza it was always awesome and good memories

Response by MCPO William Richards made Dec 15 at 2021 7:54 PM

2021-12-15T19:54:40-05:00

Great idea, giving away more money

Response by CW4 Ron Morgan made Dec 15 at 2021 7:54 PM

2021-12-15T19:54:46-05:00

Holidays are hard, but faith and friends go a long way to make things better.

Response by Cpl Douglas Wuenschel made Dec 15 at 2021 7:55 PM

2021-12-15T19:55:11-05:00

Keeping our loved ones pictures close.
Having an opportunity to celebrate with your buddies
and enjoying each others company.

Response by SGT Tim Anderson made Dec 15 at 2021 7:56 PM

2021-12-15T19:56:24-05:00

Stay busy; working, playing, reading... anything to keep the mind occupied, always worked for me.

Response by Cpl Thomas Topping made Dec 15 at 2021 7:59 PM

2021-12-15T19:59:15-05:00

The Marine Corps generally stationed me near a beach, so I bought a ten speed and usually went on a camping/bike tour, like this one on Okinawa, Japan.

Response by 2LT Bruce Mendelsohn made Dec 15 at 2021 7:59 PM

2021-12-15T19:59:29-05:00

My personal proportion is 2 hours of therapy for every hour of family. Seems to work ok.

Response by SPC Michael Gerald made Dec 15 at 2021 8:03 PM

2021-12-15T20:03:31-05:00

With all the things going on in the world. I pray, prayers

Response by SSG Charlene Moler made Dec 15 at 2021 8:04 PM

2021-12-15T20:04:44-05:00

I would have something or do something for the holiday that my family always did and it made me feel like I wasn't so far away. My family was really good about sending me goodies, sending stocking stuffer goodies around Christmas because they know that was always my favorite part of Christmas morning.

Response by SFC Kevin Strakal made Dec 15 at 2021 8:05 PM

2021-12-15T20:05:12-05:00

First people have to know themselves. I know it’s hard to be away from their family and friends and I’ve been there many many times. Knowing yourself like really being comfortable with your inner self is really key. If you enjoy being by yourself then people will be fine. When you’re with family that’s like icing on the cake. It’s important to understand yourself in order to build self confidence and raise your esteem level. I didn’t like being away from my family and at the time we only had a telephone not even cell phones. Now you can FaceTime and video chat almost as if you’re actually at home. Be confident, be blessed and know you’re blessed and always keep a positive attitude.

Response by PO1 David Bertram made Dec 15 at 2021 8:05 PM

2021-12-15T20:05:41-05:00

Recently we started doing calls with the family via Facebook to share in the festivities. I was nice to share dinner and some of the game activities. You have been trying to pick online games we can all participate since we can not do the other games like charades and stuff together. We even all get on and play among us which has been a lot of fun.

Response by 1LT Rich Voss made Dec 15 at 2021 8:05 PM

2021-12-15T20:05:51-05:00

Over in Germany during the Cold War days, my first Holiday season was decided for me. I was the newest single officer, so I was assigned duty on Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years. I didn't mind at all that the married guys, and especially those with kids, got to spend time with their families. I had made friends with them in the months prior, and they had invited me over for dinners and so forth. A fair trade. The best news is that I'm still friends with most of those that are still living...55 years later !

Response by PO3 Lisa Overton made Dec 15 at 2021 8:06 PM

2021-12-15T20:06:23-05:00

It is important to me to reach out to whoever is close. Neighbors may be lonely and alone, away from their families as well as I am. Kinda a "love the one you're with" approach. Here in Kentucky I ususally gather strays, people who have no where else to go, and I invite them over for a meal, or maybe take a meal to them. I always feel better when someone thanks me for remembering them.

Response by CPT Jay Bank made Dec 15 at 2021 8:06 PM

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Keep in contact with distant family and friends through skype, facetime, or some other similar type of video-conferencing application. If you don't have access to such services even a simple phone call will help cheer up your holiday season.

Response by SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 8:06 PM

2021-12-15T20:06:37-05:00

The best thing I can say is to get together with your close friends that are in the same situation as you, chances are they wanted to go home to and by being together you both get to cheer up and enjoy the holidays for what they are. It’s always better to have someone around in those times and even better if they needed somebody too

Response by LCpl Jimmie Hall made Dec 15 at 2021 8:06 PM

2021-12-15T20:06:51-05:00

This Christmas, we are our time with family small but enjoying memories of past Christmases by calling family members. We aren’t going to dwell on what can’t be but instead be thankful for what we do have.

Response by Sgt David Branham made Dec 15 at 2021 8:11 PM

2021-12-15T20:11:19-05:00

Accept where you are, what you are doing and who you are with

Response by Daniel Ochoa made Dec 15 at 2021 8:14 PM

2021-12-15T20:14:03-05:00

Spend it with other people or volunteer

Response by SN Brian Evans made Dec 15 at 2021 8:14 PM

2021-12-15T20:14:11-05:00

Stay in prayer!!.....give it all to the LORD and He will see you through

Response by PO2 Jay Stotler made Dec 15 at 2021 8:15 PM

2021-12-15T20:15:05-05:00

The thing I told myself was this is my family to so we had a great meal and sang some Christmas carols we even exchanged gifts. The USO helped with a place with a tree and lights and stuff to put on it all that helped.
Thanks to all that help make memories .

Response by SPC Justine Blankenbeckler made Dec 15 at 2021 8:18 PM

2021-12-15T20:18:15-05:00

I really miss my older Sister. Since we are 3,000 miles apart, and most likely to work on the Holiday, I try and focus on what I can do to help others. The lady downstairs is not well, so I am Making something for her. Her daughter said not a meal as they have that. I am doing some banana Breads. The last three years I helped to give out lunch at the Church. This is my first year I am putting secret Christmas Cards to neighbors who have no one. I am doing what ever it takes to get me through the end of the year. If I hear of someone who needs something , and I can help, I will try. Merry Christmas to all and a Blessed New Year. Justine

Response by SPC George Allen made Dec 15 at 2021 8:21 PM

2021-12-15T20:21:03-05:00

Pull duty any you can get. Then get out and do something. Go to a museum a zoo, go watch airplanes.....just don't lay around your barracks room.

Response by SSG Gary R Peek made Dec 15 at 2021 8:24 PM

2021-12-15T20:24:25-05:00

I always kept my mind on our reunion. It is extremely hard enough to be without the ones you love. Remember that the soldier next to you, in the next room, or on duty with you are going thru the very same feelings.

I always remembered my very first squad leader took his time to come around and talk, ask if we needed anything, or just brought cookies/treats during the holidays. I learned well and as I moved up in promotions to follow his lead. My wife always wrapped up cookies and treats for everyone on duty that day. Talk, ask, and bring many smiles for my soldiers.

Merry Christmas all and May God bless our Soldiers/sailors/Airmen/Coast Guard/ Marines, Veterans, their families, and our Sovereign Nation.

Response by SPC Tamica Thompson made Dec 15 at 2021 8:26 PM

2021-12-15T20:26:31-05:00

My best tips for getting through the holidays away from your loved one is a new technique, face time. Face time is the best thing that can help at times like these. Though, you can’t physically be with your loved ones at least you can see and talk to them and that is a second best.

Response by PO2 Thomas (Rocky) Watson made Dec 15 at 2021 8:27 PM

2021-12-15T20:27:07-05:00

Thank you for contacting me regarding the prescription of marijuana to veterans. I appreciate hearing from you. Let me begin by expressing my sincere appreciation for the members of the Armed Forces who have answered the call of duty and sacrificed for our nation. I firmly believe that those who serve our country with honor, courage, and distinction deserve our nation’s enduring gratitude.

I am proud to be a cosponsor of the “Veterans Medical Marijuana Safe Harbor Act” (S. 1183), which was introduced by Senator Brian Schatz (D-HI). This bill would lift the prohibition on VA physicians prescribing marijuana, create a safe harbor protection period for veterans who use medical marijuana, and require the VA to report to Congress on the effect of medical marijuana use and the potential for its use to help reduce opioid abuse. S.1183 is currently awaiting consideration by the Senate Committee on the Judiciary, which has jurisdiction over marijuana legislation.

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Response by Lt Col Mark Johnson made Dec 15 at 2021 8:28 PM

2021-12-15T20:28:36-05:00

I would exercise, playing some games with battle buddies, write some letters to family, and try to help out wherever I could.

Response by SR Justice Caswell made Dec 15 at 2021 8:29 PM

2021-12-15T20:29:13-05:00

Journal and try 2 stay GRATEFUL

Response by Cpl Michael Powers made Dec 15 at 2021 8:29 PM

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Volunteer! Stay busy, VERY busy!!! If you’re state side or in any large urban area, volunteer. Volunteer to take duty for anyone who has family in the area, volunteer off base to serve meals for the elderly or needy. If there’s a toy drive or a Christmas party for local kids or family's that are homeless, VOLUNTEER!!! You will be rewarded a thousand times over

Response by PO1 Matt Sullivan made Dec 15 at 2021 8:31 PM

2021-12-15T20:31:50-05:00

Do what you can to make time for your family. Enjoy your military family wherever you are too, they are all in the same situation. It's not for everyone, but Christmas in Iraq I went to church, it really helped me.

Response by TSgt Ken Richter made Dec 15 at 2021 8:32 PM

2021-12-15T20:32:57-05:00

My tip for getting through the holiday away from loved ones is to just keep yourself busy all the time.
In my particular case, I had a house fire a week ago that devistated my place. I've been too busy with all the details to worry about Christmas.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 8:33 PM

2021-12-15T20:33:12-05:00

Honestly for me just understanding you away was fine, I always focused on the wife and family and making sure they were OK which made me better

Response by SSG Benjamin C. made Dec 15 at 2021 8:34 PM

2021-12-15T20:34:52-05:00

When I was CONUS I would always take my friends that couldn’t go home to my parents house and let them enjoy home cooked meals and a real Christmas. When I was in Korea I had a huge group of friends in my room and we threw a big party for everyone (one of the parties we threw in the picture). Best way to get through holidays away from family are to get together with others and make your own celebration for the holidays

Response by Cpl Jeff Ruffing made Dec 15 at 2021 8:34 PM

2021-12-15T20:34:53-05:00

I never focused on myself during the holidays. I focused on others. If I knew a married person had duty on a holiday, I would take the duty. You don’t know how many times those guys would come to me on that day with a plate loaded with holiday meals and treats. That’s my Thanksgiving and my Christmas.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 8:36 PM

2021-12-15T20:36:14-05:00

I made through with video chats and phone calls, with technology today it's alot easier than with past generations.

Response by CSM Edward Litherland made Dec 15 at 2021 8:39 PM

2021-12-15T20:39:39-05:00

1. Celebrate with others that are not with their families
2. Give of yourself volunteering at a "soup kitchen"
3. Go to a church service for spiritual celebration and joy
4. Skpe, Zoom or hang time with family to celebrate

Response by SGT Kirk Bonanny made Dec 15 at 2021 8:40 PM

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Stay as busy as possible with your friends. Go to parties, go out with your friends. Socialize every chance you get. Do everything possible so you don't have time to dwell on being away from your family.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 8:43 PM

2021-12-15T20:43:39-05:00

I was lucky, I never spent the Christmas holiday in theater. During my first deployment my boss used a deck of cards to determine the order we would pick when we went on leave. I got the ace of spades and got to pick my dates first, and naturally I chose to go home at Christmas! I have spent two Thanksgivings in theater, and luckily I was able to share that holiday with the Iraqis and the Afghans I advised. That was a lot of fun sharing something so American with them.

Response by Sgt Susan Mcneely made Dec 15 at 2021 8:43 PM

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Cook everything you can the day before then just heat it up so you can spend more time enjoying the family and not stress about getting it all done in one day. Myself the only thing I actually prepare on the day is the turkey, gravy and mashed potatoes.

Response by SSG Robert Betty made Dec 15 at 2021 8:44 PM

2021-12-15T20:44:05-05:00

I remember as a young corporal in Vietnam and Christmas was slowly approaching the thing that made me closer to home was sitting around with the guys and thinking about home and telling the stories about my childhood Christmases and listening to other guys tell stories about theirs he's almost as if we were back home and I could see the Christmas tree star on top and my dad Christmas was his time he made a big deal out of it when you're far away and you can't go home go to your memory banks pull up those memories that you are fond of always remember to smells the taste of your favorite foods the smiles on your Mom and Dad's face and your brothers and sisters I used to tease them about Santa Claus see I was the oldest remember soldiers if you're away from home it's what makes our world free you're doing a great job be proud but most of all be soldiers God bless America and God bless those who protect America and their families have a blessed Merry Christmas

Response by CWO2 William Stephenson made Dec 15 at 2021 8:44 PM

2021-12-15T20:44:57-05:00

Just trust in God, help others and be at peace with yourself, Chin up, don't follow, LEAD. MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 8:47 PM

2021-12-15T20:47:15-05:00

My wife and I like to make our own traditions! We’ve started going to get sushi for Christmas Eve when we’re not with family.

Response by SrA Jeremy Divers made Dec 15 at 2021 8:49 PM

2021-12-15T20:49:34-05:00

Friendsgiving or similar get togethers with folks in similar situations is a great way to go. Everyone can relate to being away from loved ones and y’all can have a blast playing games, drinking, or blowing stuff up. Not necessarily combined though, just gotta find what works for your group.

Response by Cpl Mike Collier made Dec 15 at 2021 8:54 PM

2021-12-15T20:54:13-05:00

Getting together with a few close battle buddies watching holiday movies and speaking of previous holiday debauchery when you were home....

Response by SGT Mark Haugen made Dec 15 at 2021 9:01 PM

2021-12-15T21:01:26-05:00

I spent 1970 Christmas in Korea. We volunteered at an orphanage. Lend a helping hand wherever possible and take your mind off what you're missing out on.

Response by MAJ Matthew Thomas made Dec 15 at 2021 9:08 PM

2021-12-15T21:08:40-05:00

The best way for me to get through the holidays away from my family is to call them if possible but if not then to look at pictures/videos of them and think about the wonderful times we have had in past holidays. It also helps to look forward to the reunion with them and future holiday celebrations.

Response by PFC Tiffany Sparks made Dec 15 at 2021 9:15 PM

2021-12-15T21:15:57-05:00

Honestly, just surrounding yourself with who you have. So if it your Battle then make the holidays as special as possible together. If you are missing some family members then call them and include them with a facetime or zoom call

Response by CH (CPT) Ephraim Travis made Dec 15 at 2021 9:16 PM

2021-12-15T21:16:53-05:00

Plan, participate, lead events for your Battle-Buddies and/or if you're of a particular faith, your friends and fellow congregants.

Response by PO3 Myles Post made Dec 15 at 2021 9:23 PM

2021-12-15T21:23:31-05:00

What ALWAYS worked for me was just knowing that all my loved ones, although not physically with me, were always with me in my heart & soul. Just knowing that I had people who love me & prayed for me & who, no matter was always there for me. Just knowing you have people that care about you will be there for you.

Response by SGT Kevin Taber made Dec 15 at 2021 9:24 PM

2021-12-15T21:24:49-05:00

Stay busy. Hang out with friends. Make the best of it

Response by Capt Francisco Briseno made Dec 15 at 2021 9:26 PM

2021-12-15T21:26:31-05:00

Get drunk.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 9:26 PM

2021-12-15T21:26:58-05:00

I focus on plans for when I come back, little things like what I want to eat and what books I want to read with my daughter. To remind me that its the little day to day moments not just big holidays that are important.

Response by Sgt Christopher Jackson made Dec 15 at 2021 9:27 PM

2021-12-15T21:27:46-05:00

I like to write down my thoughts on cards and mail them. I'm horrible at saying things in the moment, via phone, Skype or in person. So when I hang up, I put my thoughts in a card and send it. Holding things in hasn't been a healthy way for me

Response by MAJ Hugh Blanchard made Dec 15 at 2021 9:31 PM

2021-12-15T21:31:14-05:00

I found it was best to send a small present to everyone in your family, along with a letter describing how things were going. When I was by myself overseas I did as much as I could for the unit at Christmas, sending Christmas cards, helping decorate, and going to Christmas services at the Chapel.

Response by SSG Eric Blue made Dec 15 at 2021 9:31 PM

2021-12-15T21:31:59-05:00

I'm not sure if my answer works, but here goes: Immersing yourself FULLY into something worthwhile and helpful to others. I can't say that it helped me get past the rough feeling of being separated from my family, friends, and loved ones during the holidays. But taking the focus off of myself and putting it on someone else, even for a brief moment, helped me move forward while the pain and disappointment I constantly felt was eating away at me. So I volunteered for KP shifts, TOC shifts I wasn't scheduled to assume, extra patrols, supply runs, and guard duty to give Joe or Jane time to relax, contact their loved ones, and the whole nine. I even forced myself to go caroling on whatever FOB or CAMP I was on so I would be around other people and NOT be alone, even if I didn't want to be there. I felt it was better for my sanity and survival to be around other people instead of surrounding myself with my own misery. Otherwise, I may not be typing this right now due to a self-inflicted tragedy. But as you can see, it worked. The thank-yous I received from Joe & Jane helped a little bit as well.

Response by MSG Tony Pendley made Dec 15 at 2021 9:32 PM

2021-12-15T21:32:12-05:00

Before you could FaceTime, instant message, CHAT, etc. I would just drop a hundred dollars worth of 5 DM into a German phone booth and talk for 30 minutes. So much easier and definitely cheaper today. I wonder if you can even find a phone booth today in Germany? It was the late 80s

Response by SrA Michael Combs made Dec 15 at 2021 9:33 PM

2021-12-15T21:33:07-05:00

The best tip and what always worked for me was writing a letter home for the holidays. My folks always enjoyed receiving one and I always looked forward to their reply. It was something to look forward to during the holidays. Also getting together with anyone that you are close with wherever you are stationed and celebrating the holidays with them is always heartwarming. They become your family away from home.

Response by SGT James Bradley made Dec 15 at 2021 9:33 PM

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Leave the melee of family and relatives and go pray with all your heart and soul. Such a practice leaves you refreshed and close to Jesus Christ.

Response by SGT Tim Fletcher made Dec 15 at 2021 9:36 PM

2021-12-15T21:36:46-05:00

When I was on active duty I was almost always away from family but I didn’t let it get me down and I did this by doing my normal holiday activities. When I had access to cooking facilities I would cook a big Thanksgiving and Christmas feasts and would invite all soldiers and Airmen in my group who were not going to share the day with family to drop by and shard the holiday together! Usually I had as good turnout! Also, always decorated for Christmas and made sure to get gifts to
Loved ones in the mail in time to be there for the holidays!

Response by Cpl Douglas Wuenschel made Dec 15 at 2021 9:40 PM

2021-12-15T21:40:48-05:00

Do the best that you can, with what you have and celebrate

Response by Sgt Scott Colcord made Dec 15 at 2021 9:42 PM

2021-12-15T21:42:08-05:00

enjoy music with your brothers and sisters you re with now.

Response by CAPT Frank Nice made Dec 15 at 2021 9:44 PM

2021-12-15T21:44:58-05:00

Celebrating my Polish Christmas traditions, especially eating all that great Polish food. Smacznego!!!

Response by Capt Francisco Briseno made Dec 15 at 2021 9:45 PM

2021-12-15T21:45:13-05:00

get drunk

Response by Capt Francisco Briseno made Dec 15 at 2021 9:45 PM

2021-12-15T21:45:34-05:00

get drunk

Response by PFC Sandy Cleary made Dec 15 at 2021 9:50 PM

2021-12-15T21:50:02-05:00

The best way is to think of the memories. Look at your pictures of your family and it will take away the loneliness

Response by SSG Joshua T Long made Dec 15 at 2021 9:54 PM

2021-12-15T21:54:14-05:00

Family, Friends and lots of good food!

Response by SSG Michael Kellam made Dec 15 at 2021 9:57 PM

2021-12-15T21:57:29-05:00

Spend time with Seniors in a Senior Center, or Children in the Hospital or children's home.

Response by 1LT A. Hays Town III JD made Dec 15 at 2021 9:58 PM

2021-12-15T21:58:56-05:00

First, with todays technology you have several ways to connect with your family; second, have gifts delivered to their house. Third, send a photograph of you in the holiday spirit. Finally, pray for them.

Response by PO3 Gil Dominguez made Dec 15 at 2021 10:00 PM

2021-12-15T22:00:16-05:00

Even though I had Family at home in my years away in Service , I never came home for the Holidays...even though I was told to take my Leave or work their shift...not a bother . Hearing my Department Shipmates stories of how much they wish they were Home...Merry Christmas , I'll work your Shift .

Response by MSgt James "Buck" Buchanan made Dec 15 at 2021 10:07 PM

2021-12-15T22:07:10-05:00

For those who are on isolated tours, participate in anything the chapel offers throughout the season; while those activities may bring a tinge of sadness for being away they will also give you a time of peace as you can expect your family to be worshipping also.

Response by SSG Stewart Ritchey made Dec 15 at 2021 10:14 PM

2021-12-15T22:14:38-05:00

As a disabled veteran, though not service connected, my family is with me in my heart, and my God is with me always.

Response by Sgt Paula Bright made Dec 15 at 2021 10:17 PM

2021-12-15T22:17:18-05:00

Three things:
First: if you’re single, swap shifts with someone who needs to be with their loved ones, especially if children are involved
Second: If you end up working Christmas, look at it as any other day. It’s a way to keep self pity at a distance
Third: If you’re writing the schedule, try to give the ones with families off Christmas and single folks a little extra time at New Years.
Keep in mind, Christmas is more than just a single day. It’s often easier to say what Christmas doesn’t mean than to try and briefly describe one of the greatest mysteries in history.

Response by SPC Sherrie Chapman made Dec 15 at 2021 10:18 PM

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Spend some time crafting a few gifts for friends and family. They'll mean more to your loved ones and you'll keep busy with the creating, so there's less time to be lonely.

Response by PO2 Charles Williams made Dec 15 at 2021 10:19 PM

2021-12-15T22:19:11-05:00

just because they are related by blood isn't the only thing that makes them family. you decide who is family and who isnt. so go hang out with your new family and enjoy the time you have off to do that. I miss my hana'i family in Hawaii (hana'i means adopted) but i did 3 tours there so i got attached. i had the honor of knowing some of the finest people from all over because i was in the military and i'm pretty sure there are a lot of other veterans that can say the same thing.

Response by SFC Byron Perry made Dec 15 at 2021 10:20 PM

2021-12-15T22:20:57-05:00

Stay calm, and ignore most of their comments.

Response by Lt Col Dan Janning made Dec 15 at 2021 10:22 PM

2021-12-15T22:22:47-05:00

Keep busy with friends and new experiences, don't just sit home alone

Response by SSgt Kathleen Fleitz made Dec 15 at 2021 10:25 PM

2021-12-15T22:25:31-05:00

I Zoom with my son and his family. I know it's not the same as being together, but at least I don't feel so alone.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 10:30 PM

2021-12-15T22:30:35-05:00

Being with your friends/battle buddies. I’ve spent, luckily, only 2 Christmas away from family while in Vietnam. I had my unit and friends. That didn’t replace being home but it let me survive and at points enjoy.

Response by SFC Charles Diers made Dec 15 at 2021 10:31 PM

2021-12-15T22:31:26-05:00

All things considered and especially the mission; try to plan something that’s totally out of the ordinary. Make the best of the situation and or circumstances for yourself and others. Something that’s equally enjoyed and memorable for all. It’s the unexpected little things that make a big difference. For example while stationed in South Korea 78-81 our Cook Sergeant at Camp Mercer always planned, prepared and baked a full complement of huge delicious cinnamon rolls and other popular holiday entrees. Unfortunately and inevitably the only thing to do is burn the clock, focus and carry on. Despite all that my Army career was the most fun, mud, cold and misery I ever had. I wish I could do it all again. I’m definitely blessed to be American and more appreciative of my home, holidays and family. ESSAYONS and Happy Holidays!

Response by FN Steve Heglmeier made Dec 15 at 2021 10:32 PM

2021-12-15T22:32:29-05:00

Forgiveness. Whatever they did, forgive them. Show everyone, regardless of what they do, the love Jesus showed you. He died on the cross for our sins. He loved me when I was unlovable. So if I just forgive, smile and say pass the turkey please, the holidays go so much better.

Response by LCpl Michael Downing made Dec 15 at 2021 10:35 PM

2021-12-15T22:35:21-05:00

Not being able to spend the holidays with my family. I worked with the toy for tots on base giving gifts to the kids and families that couldn't afford them.

Response by SGT Marc Grote made Dec 15 at 2021 10:37 PM

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Hang out with friends; keep each other company, try not to spend them alone if at all possible.

Response by SP5 James C Maher made Dec 15 at 2021 10:38 PM

2021-12-15T22:38:57-05:00

Stay in contact through zoom, email, etc.

Response by SSgt Bryce Hartford made Dec 15 at 2021 10:42 PM

2021-12-15T22:42:05-05:00

My best #1 tip of all. Stay busy, but take moments

Response by SSG Franklin Briant made Dec 15 at 2021 10:42 PM

2021-12-15T22:42:18-05:00

I have retired several years ago. But while I was serving I would take part in any and all of the different programs offered on post. Later when I married my wife and I would host holiday dinners for troops I was in charge of who did not have anything to do or no where to go. Little things like that help more than one would think. The thing is don't get drunk and feel sorry for yourself. While I was single several of us in the barracks would get together and have a spread.

Response by SPC Edgar Jordan made Dec 15 at 2021 10:42 PM

2021-12-15T22:42:26-05:00

Best to have friends around

Response by MAJ Christopher Nachand made Dec 15 at 2021 10:44 PM

2021-12-15T22:44:54-05:00

I wrote letters/cards during the holidays to my family and friends. It allowed me to express how much I loved them and share a little of my deployment experience. I was fortunate to have access to an MWR phone and could call home as well, but if that is not available, ask your loved ones to send you pictures. Look over those pictures when things are tough and remember that those fine folks are waiting for you at home and miss you as much as you miss them - and that's why you do what you do.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 15 at 2021 10:45 PM

2021-12-15T22:45:40-05:00

One of the best tips I used myself was not to be a loner. Get with Soldiers or civilians who you're are closed to. They may not be "family" but they are the closest thing to it. Second tip, if someone is extending a hand to be friendly take it. They're just being nice and have probably been in the same situation. I met a retiree in 2004 this way and we have been friends ever since! Last tip, if you have a supportive family reach out to them and enjoy time with them virtually. People were using Skype before the pandemic anyways.

Response by PFC Tia Lorta made Dec 15 at 2021 10:56 PM

2021-12-15T22:56:01-05:00

Make plans to celebrate the missed holiday on a day when the family is back together.

Response by SGT Frank Barnes made Dec 15 at 2021 11:03 PM

2021-12-15T23:03:11-05:00

I always volunteered for duty, so I could remind myself that I was there so my people (family and friends) could be safe during the holidays. I missed them, they missed me, but I was the one with the gun so they could celebrate in safety.

Response by SSG Leonel Cantu made Dec 15 at 2021 11:15 PM

2021-12-15T23:15:14-05:00

We had a barracks pot luck while at training school. Shared a family traditional meal item or activity with other soldiers to show what meant so much to each of us and what we missed while being away from our families. Some members shared these traditions with their families after leaving and going back home.

Response by SA Sacheen Weston made Dec 15 at 2021 11:16 PM

2021-12-15T23:16:54-05:00

Something as simple as a phone call and hearing your loved ones voice can go a long way. Nowadays there are video chats that bring families even closer.

Response by AN Ron Wright made Dec 15 at 2021 11:29 PM

2021-12-15T23:29:20-05:00

currently in different states from my wife as she is playing grandma with new grandson
So i stay busy with my other families CVMA and the American Legion (where i had thanksgiving)
It is truly a family with our Combat Veterans Motorcycle Assoc
and today i am with my daughter sharing time with THE family that is close

Response by AN Deborah Jones made Dec 15 at 2021 11:29 PM

2021-12-15T23:29:46-05:00

Spend time with others that would otherwise be alone for the holidays.

Response by Sgt Rowena Howard made Dec 15 at 2021 11:41 PM

2021-12-15T23:41:00-05:00

I often found being around my family during the holidays just as difficult as being away from them because I carried so much stress and too many secrets but when I was away from them, I could journal. I'd put on a pot of coffee, turn the shower on for the sound of rain in the background, put on that pair of socks I could never throw away from my childhood, find that comfortable position on my bed and re-live the good times. While they were fresh in my mind's eye, I write about them. Before I knew it, I'd enjoyed my family just like we were together.

Response by MSG Robert Weston made Dec 15 at 2021 11:48 PM

2021-12-15T23:48:48-05:00

Get involved with volunteering and help others in need

Response by Sgt Frank Hupp, DTM made Dec 15 at 2021 11:51 PM

2021-12-15T23:51:01-05:00

As I am a Christian I rely on God for guidance in those times.

To properly answer your question I need to make some assumptions and state some qualifiers.
Assumption 1. If you are in an active combat situation it would be different than if you are stationed CONUS or non-CONUS.

Qualifier 1. You have the ability to have your own Zoom (or similar service) account. Zoom accounts are available for free with a certain time limit. If you have your own paid for account it usually come with unlimited time.

If you are in a combat zone are you actively involved? If yes, you need to be paying attention to the mission at hand. If not, if you can get phone service call you family for a phone visit. If you have a Zoom account and you can get service you will be able to see them, send all of your family members, that is the ones that you want to visit with, an invite with the login info incluiding the date and time of the meeting. You will probably have limited time availability and access.

If you are not in a combat zone and have a Zoom account, send an invite to the ones that you want to get in contact with a few days before Christmas, or any other holigay, and send them an invite with the date and time of the meeting.

When you are not able to physicall be present with them, a Zoom meeting is the next best thing. The face time, laughs, jokes, shared hopes and dreams, and plans for the future help you forget for a time that you cannot be present in person.

Sgt. Frank E. Hupp, Retired

Response by SrA Barbara Johnson made Dec 15 at 2021 11:52 PM

2021-12-15T23:52:55-05:00

While stationed at Osan AB, Korea in one of the marriage dorms, we all decided to share a pot luck meal together. Each couple prepared a meal unique to their hometown. My husband and I arrived to our Korean assignment in July, so by Christmas we'd gotten to know the other couples fairly well. Christmas dinner was phenomenal...each couple proud of their hometown food specialty. There is absolutely nothing greater than the comradery among military people on foreign land. It was a Christmas I will remember forever!

Response by CPT Michelle Morgan made Dec 15 at 2021 11:56 PM

2021-12-15T23:56:21-05:00

Some best tips include:
1. Have an Ugly Sweater Christmas Party & invite all your neighbors - can’t go wrong with an ugly sweater Christmas party.
2. Start a Cookie Exchange - invite neighbors or peers to make a dozen cookies to exchange with others & plan a time/date to exchange cookies with all who participate.
3. Stay busy & give of your time in helping others. For example, help serve a Christmas meal at a community homeless shelter.

Response by PO1 Edgar Rodriguez made Dec 16 at 2021 12:02 AM

2021-12-16T00:02:01-05:00

The way to get thru the Holidays if you are not going home to family and friends. Is count on your fellow shipmates, marines, soldiers and airmen that are at your active command. Cause we all need a shoulder and we can make each other stronger by looking out. We depend on each other while deployed why not when we are in homeport.

Response by PO3 Lily Robertson made Dec 16 at 2021 12:17 AM

2021-12-16T00:17:48-05:00

Here's what you don't do... listen to FEN while stationed at Misawa because way back, someone thought it was a brilliant idea to play "I'll be home for Christmas if only in my dreams" over and over and over. Gah! (Also, do not "relocate" "Frosty Snowman The") But seriously, while you're away from your blood and bone family, remember you're with your new brothers and sisters. Do fun things together. Decorate base trees. Sing carols. Have meals together. Tell funny stories about who has the family member least invited and why. Besides, later in the year when you're tempted to poke Ensign Greenheels in the nose, a good memory of them being warm and silly at a Christmas party might keep you out of the brig!

Response by Sgt Michelle Evans made Dec 16 at 2021 12:19 AM

2021-12-16T00:19:41-05:00

My first Christmas in the Air Force was an interesting one to try and spend it with my family since my parents had divorced. My mom was in Colorado and my dad was in California. And I was at tech school in Illinois. Had to set up flights to do a major excursion across the country, and because of weather problems everything was upended. Then, to top it all off, just before I was to leave Denver to head back to Chanute AFB to pick up tech school, I came down with the measles and couldn't even travel! Today, both my parents are gone, so the only family I need to make sure I spend time with is my wife. Makes things a lot easier with regard top traveling.

Response by SGT Trish Woodbury made Dec 16 at 2021 12:24 AM

2021-12-16T00:24:10-05:00

with technology the way it is today email pics from home and vs take pics in the holiday spirit and send those goofy sentimental rocking a Santa hat pics home.

Response by SPC Tom McDermott made Dec 16 at 2021 12:36 AM

2021-12-16T00:36:01-05:00

Rely upon and trust in your buddies. You're all away from what you know, and thus you all have something in common. It's not ideal for your family, but it's ideal for getting to know the folks who are in the same situation as you. It'll keep your mind further from focusing on the isolation, and it'll also foster a better understanding of the people you serve with.

Response by SPC John Tsutsui made Dec 16 at 2021 12:39 AM

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I spent two Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays deployed. To get through the season we would spend time the best we could with our Brothers and with those that had families.

Response by Sgt Jerry Genesio made Dec 16 at 2021 12:55 AM

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Concentrate on the fact that you may well be saving them from contracting Covid. Most carriers experience no symptoms for the first three days, and those who have been vaccinated can still carry and spread the virus. You may even be saving the lives of senior family members.

Response by SPC Gilberto Castillo made Dec 16 at 2021 1:46 AM

2021-12-16T01:46:21-05:00

If you live alone try to occupy yourself with doing good deeds and stay in touch by text or phone.

Response by PFC Michelle Gauthier made Dec 16 at 2021 1:56 AM

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Thanks to th3e shortage f everything, most of our Christmas shopping for chlldreen was sone at our nearby Super Walmart either online or in person. Adult shopping was done using Amazon Prime so they could not see the presents. I have invited fellow elderly Marines BAM's WVOP sand USVets.org's and Navy Swabbies to Christmas diinner and gift opening.

Response by PFC Charles Rankin made Dec 16 at 2021 2:22 AM

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Alcohol, lots of alcohol.

Response by SGT Barry Wilson made Dec 16 at 2021 2:42 AM

2021-12-16T02:42:44-05:00

Don't know if this will help anyone now, but while I was in Viet Nam, I departed for R&R in Sydney, Australia on Christmas Eve. It was a great way to get through the holidays.

Response by PO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 16 at 2021 3:13 AM

2021-12-16T03:13:07-05:00

Turn your home into a staycation wonderland.

Response by PFC Andrew "Tommy" M. made Dec 16 at 2021 3:15 AM

2021-12-16T03:15:02-05:00

The three B's always help me, Beer, Bikes, and Bit##s

Response by SP5 Alex Lee made Dec 16 at 2021 3:20 AM

2021-12-16T03:20:56-05:00

I gather donated blankets and scarf. Walk down to downtown and hand out to local homeless vet. Nothing beats giving the gift of warmth to others who are less fortunate

Response by SPC Patricia K. (Williams) Elliott made Dec 16 at 2021 3:28 AM

2021-12-16T03:28:23-05:00

When I was in Germany and Korea I would decorate as if I were at home! Went out and got a small tree and either made the ornaments or used whatever I had on hand. When I was in Tucson, Az I went out and found some tumbleweeds and used those as a tree. All of the Christmas cards I got were attached to ribbon and hung. It was pretty sparse at times, but it definitely made it festive. The single personnel would be working shifts or would have duty so that those with families could be home with them. I don't remember being homesick.

Response by SPC Amina Higgs made Dec 16 at 2021 3:52 AM

2021-12-16T03:52:06-05:00

Have special time to call family video calls if possible. Spend time with your platoon. When I served our unit had cookouts for the holidays or ate dinner in the cafeteria together.

Response by LT John Chang made Dec 16 at 2021 4:02 AM

2021-12-16T04:02:59-05:00

When I was away from home, I found a family run Chinese restaurant to eat at on liberty. Turned out that the waitress was from the same home town as my dad. They insisted on making a "off menu" dish of dumplings, saying (loosely translated) that eating dumplings is a holiday tradition.

Now when I eat dumplings around the holidays, I remember the kindness of strangers in a foreign land who made a guy feel at home.

Response by PO2 Gordon Compeau made Dec 16 at 2021 4:14 AM

2021-12-16T04:14:11-05:00

Stay involved, group activities and as closed a contact with home as possible.

Response by LTC Stephen F. made Dec 16 at 2021 4:27 AM

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Last century we relied on the US mail and landline telephone conversations if available.
1. Communication is incredibly important especially when young and teenage children are involved. Writing letters to spouse or significant other. Sending pictures including hand-drawn pictures for children with notes to explain is an example of something children will treasure as they grow up.
2. Learning to listen thoughtfully without overreacting in anger or focusing on ourselves.
3. Volunteering time, talents and treasures to aid those in need helps to take our mind off the loneliness and bless those who need human comfort and interaction.
4. Volunteering for duty to allow others to use the time to write or call their loved ones.
5. Reading, listening to music,
6. Sharing food and drink
7. Being able to laugh at ourselves can be a great way to reduce stress.
8. Laugh with others and never at anybody.
9. Prayer - especially intercessory prayer

FYI CWO4 Terrence Clark CPL Ronald Keyes Jr LTC Joe Anderson SPC Carlton Phelps COL Thomas McGrath SPC William Wilson CSM Bob Stanek SFC Russell ShawSSgt Joseph BaptistMSgt Private RallyPoint Member PO3 Edward RiddleA1C Mike AllenSPC John Bryant Maj Maria Avellaneda Sgt Larry Irvine SMSgt Lawrence McCarter Maj Bill Smith, Ph.D. MAJ Dale E. Wilson, Ph.D.

Response by PO1 Carlos Xochihua made Dec 16 at 2021 4:32 AM

2021-12-16T04:32:26-05:00

Get with friends and start new traditions. We were all in the same boat and getting together with shipmates was the way to go!

Response by SP5 Steven Smith made Dec 16 at 2021 4:49 AM

2021-12-16T04:49:30-05:00

Practice acceptance in one's general mindset.

Response by PFC Dennis Jihnson made Dec 16 at 2021 4:56 AM

2021-12-16T04:56:49-05:00

Lots of Christmas movies.

Response by SMSgt Charles Olson made Dec 16 at 2021 5:05 AM

2021-12-16T05:05:17-05:00

I do most of my shopping on-line so that I don't have to face the store crowds. I also get plenty of exercise and ensure I take my rest periods.

Response by PO2 Kenneth Davis made Dec 16 at 2021 5:29 AM

2021-12-16T05:29:46-05:00

I have Covid...

Response by SPC Sharon Wolfe made Dec 16 at 2021 6:24 AM

2021-12-16T06:24:23-05:00

Initially, I would cry and miss them like crazy (I had 2 kids under 5 when I went in, the week of thanksgiving no less). I tried to rationalize that I was sacrificing my time with family to serve my country and give them the freedom and that was really what mattered. It makes you cherish the holidays you do get to be with your family. Now, even though I have been out since 2003, we are gate guarding at an oil rig so we will not spend time with our kids but with computers and smart phones we can share opening gifts and it will make it easier. Merry Christmas everyone!!

Response by SP5 William M. Davis made Dec 16 at 2021 6:35 AM

2021-12-16T06:35:25-05:00

Using Face Time is a big help

Response by Sgt William Meiers made Dec 16 at 2021 6:45 AM

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If we are talking about those deployed, remember what you are doing, is what allows all your family and loved ones at home the ability to have a safe and healthy holiday. Sometimes sacrifices for the better feel very hard and sad at the time. However the job you are doing needs to be done, and later down the road you will understand why, and how important it really is. God Bless all our men and women over seas, and thank you for your service. With out you there would not be a holiday to enjoy. Semper Fi brothers and sisters.

Response by CPL Larry Monkus made Dec 16 at 2021 6:47 AM

2021-12-16T06:47:19-05:00

face it do it its your job

Response by Pvt SanJuana Méndez made Dec 16 at 2021 6:51 AM

2021-12-16T06:51:16-05:00

I grew up in close-knit family that began unraveling when my dad died & unraveled almost completely 5 yrs later when my mom died, one wk after I reported for duty at Boot.

After I was discharged, things only got worse. Tho my family had exchanged visits when I was younger, I saw them in later yrs mostly only for funerals, & even then it was mostly because I found way to get there; family found routes to visit other family members that bypassed me, & I saw them for the holidays whenever I could convince my spouse to take me to see my family.

After a while, I found comfort in having children I could spend holidays with; but that only lasted as long as they were little. As they grew older, they also began to distance themselves from me--thanks to how their other parent (2 daughters from 1st marriage, son from another; both, veterans) alienated them. I married a 3d time (yet another veteran) & my children--already grown, with children of their own--hardly even remembered their mom lived less than 50 miles from them...even for Mother's Day or for birthdays.

My husband made up for my children's "neglect" as we found ways to stay too busy to think about children's apathy. It took my husband's death, followed shortly afterwards by pandemic, to remind them that I had nobody else to worry about me. Since my husband died (9 Aug 2019), all my children have remembered me at least once each yr; I believe they'll all remember me this yr.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 16 at 2021 6:54 AM

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I would suggest some of the same strategies as mentioned, relieving the CDO/duty NCO, even for part of the shift, or reaching out to a USO or local VFW. I am sure there would be a family within your command that is hosting a holiday gathering for those not able to go home. The big step would be to just accept the invite and attend. Don't be shy since you may be passing up an opportunity to meet some great people and having a really good time. If you are uncomfortable, you can bow out for other commitments.
As far as downrange, if a USO is available, this can be a good choice. Visiting your duty station is great too. Ask your battle buddies what they are doing. You may find a few that are unsure or have nothing planned and maybe all of you can get together and celebrate. I remember doing "cigars and guitars" at the flight line in Afghanistan, an impromptu gathering of anyone. Things usually work out if you make an effort or take an opportunity.

Response by TSgt Patrick Robertson made Dec 16 at 2021 7:04 AM

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Call loved ones, physically exercise and have your holiday where ever your located.

Response by TSgt Patrick Robertson made Dec 16 at 2021 7:07 AM

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Call loved ones, physical exercise and recognize and have Christmas where ever your located.

Response by SGT Israel Burks made Dec 16 at 2021 7:09 AM

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It takes lots of meditation to make it through the holidays.

Response by SGT Fred Flick made Dec 16 at 2021 7:15 AM

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Celebrate with your military family. Take pictures. Will be good memories down the road

Response by SFC Jesus Garcia made Dec 16 at 2021 7:46 AM

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I used to voluntary duty during this time

Response by SrA Glenn Belson made Dec 16 at 2021 7:49 AM

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I worked and let those with families take the time off.

Response by TSgt Bob Meloche made Dec 16 at 2021 7:55 AM

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Photos, Videos, and sharing
“In my family, we…” stories with my comrades.

Response by AA Loreen Silvarahawk made Dec 16 at 2021 7:57 AM

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I had several Jewish Friends and we would help each other out over the holidays by taking each others watches.

Response by SMSgt Alex Medina made Dec 16 at 2021 8:03 AM

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We would invite our troops over, not just for the holidays but throughout the year for family gatherings! Our troops are the one that made it possible for us to advanced our careers!

Response by SSG Chris Gursky made Dec 16 at 2021 8:04 AM

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I know how I handled the holidays. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday and when away from home I made the effort to express my thankfulness to my military family, my brothers from another mother. I was fortunate enough to always be able to spend Thanksgiving with someone’s family if we weren’t in the field. For Christmas I was in the habit of buying small gifts for the children of my married friends, I’d throw on a red shirt and a Santa hat and drive around Junction City and Manhattan delivering.

Response by SGT Steve Hummer Sr. made Dec 16 at 2021 8:04 AM

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Deployed in combat or states side, Hanning with you buddies. Now 53years later the best is meeting with my peers weekly. Holidays are made easier hanging with your buddies, they speak the same language Veteran.

Response by Susan ONeil made Dec 16 at 2021 8:04 AM

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Find a local Yin (resting and restoring) yoga class near you or on line and let it all go. You will be refreshed and all the days' stressers will be gone. Good Luck! Happy Holidays.

Response by SSG David Gomez made Dec 16 at 2021 8:25 AM

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They usually kept me busy when I was in, so there was not much down time to think about missing others. That is the military life, at least based on my experience. A call home really meant a lot to me and my family.

Response by PO2 Craig Loomis made Dec 16 at 2021 8:28 AM

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Your military family will support you through the holidays. Get with your buddies and find an activity you all enjoy.

Response by MAJ George Blankinship made Dec 16 at 2021 8:31 AM

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It is never 'easy' to be away from your real family at any time, especially during holidays, but remembering the reason you are there with your 'second' family helps.

Response by MAJ George Blankinship made Dec 16 at 2021 8:34 AM

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It is never 'easy' to be away from your real family, especially during the holidays, BUT remembering the reason you are gone and sharing with your 'second' family helps. A safe and Happy holidays to alll.

Response by PO1 Dee Lee made Dec 16 at 2021 8:40 AM

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My hardest Christmas was when I was first stationed in Germany. I spent the day with a friend of mine. We ate all 3 meals in the chow hall. My family members had sent me 8 presents. I opened one gift every hour and told my friend about the member of my family that bought that gift. It actually made me feel so close to my family that I really enjoyed the day. This was in 1978 before all the modern forms of technology could entertain you. Merry Christmas and wishing y’all a blessed 2022.

Response by CW5 William Gasaway made Dec 16 at 2021 8:40 AM

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Use video calls. Seeing and being seen by family is a great pick me up!! AND YES IT IS FREE!!!!
How you ask? Two ways.
1. Go to your local computer hub - e.g.Army library, USO, or even your desk in some cases and make a zoom call. It is over the internet that is already being paid for.
2. Even easier if you have a cell phone - Go to a free WiFi hot spot, download What'sApp, its free. Load your family members as contacts and call them. Once they have What'sApp on their phone and you as a contact it is free.
All my family members have Whats APP and even calls to the US from Germany are free that way

Response by SP5 Gary Perrine made Dec 16 at 2021 8:58 AM

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Service to someone who is down because of the Holiday. when they feel better so do you!

Response by SGT Ronald Mitchell made Dec 16 at 2021 9:00 AM

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The most important thing I did was volunteer. I helped out wherever I could. I also kept close to my battle buddies, because I realized they were going through the same thing. However, I didn't stop there, I increased my writing of letters to loved ones back home exponentially. I'm sure they were like, "oh yeah, he's definitely ready to come home!" So, the key is staying busy and refusing to allow your mind to be too idle, especially during the holidays! Stay safe and God bless! Whua!!!

Response by PFC Robert Reathaford made Dec 16 at 2021 9:01 AM

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The best way that I have found is to just keep yourself distracted by doing things that keep your mind away from wondering about family members and what they could be doing

Response by PFC Robert Reathaford made Dec 16 at 2021 9:04 AM

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The best way that I have found is to just keep yourself distracted by doing things that keep your mind away from wondering about family members and what they could be doing there at home because you already know they are thinking about you as well

Response by PFC Robert Reathaford made Dec 16 at 2021 9:04 AM

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Response by SPC Thomas Nicholls made Dec 16 at 2021 9:07 AM

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In iraq, I was able to use the phone for a few a minutes and it meant the world to me.

Response by MSG Fred Heffernan made Dec 16 at 2021 9:09 AM

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happy hour 3 times a week

Response by SrA Thomas McClellan made Dec 16 at 2021 9:09 AM

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For me first having a picture if possible because you have something tangible to see and feel the love next phone cards or cell phones to try and call as much as you can so you still feel that connection. Then making sure you setup emails so you can email often to stay connected and share photos.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 16 at 2021 9:12 AM

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Copious amount of booze, of course. Just remember, in vino veritas.

Response by AB David Werner made Dec 16 at 2021 9:25 AM

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The best tip is to pray. With all the turmoil, strife and challenges in life, there is still One who has all power. Trust Him with all your issues.

Response by SFC Louis Willhauck, MSM, JSCM, and ARCOM made Dec 16 at 2021 9:26 AM

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Get in the "spirit" and be positive. Things are probably very different than when I was in, less freedom to travel etc. I was fortunate to be in places where there was enough going on around that the separation didn't hurt much. I remember that just a couple days after arrival in Turkey the unit had set up a sunrise Easter service in the very amphitheater where St. Paul preached at in Ephesus. I took pictures and shared them with my family and my girlfriend back home. It elevated interest and sustained me rather than depressed me. I guess the cliché, "keep a positive attitude" can still help. Good luck dealing...

Response by PVT Elaine Robinson made Dec 16 at 2021 9:33 AM

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It always helps me to have pictures up to be able to reminisce you have to cook something that is traditional for you to eat with your family so you can get that feeling I love from the food another thing you can do is nowadays you can have your family members on the internet FaceTime or something but I think most of all is to remember those precious times and to reassure yourself that you will get that back again one day but you still need to call them eat traditional food practice any other Traditions that you grew up with and it kind of helps when you're alone I'm always alone so I know how it feels

Response by SPC Dorsey Sullivan made Dec 16 at 2021 9:38 AM

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With today's technology I would suggest Face time , zoom calls or Skype call if possible , If not a regular call and warm thoughts and prayers .

Response by Charlotte Rose made Dec 16 at 2021 9:44 AM

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Another awesome tip, especially for those with deployed or far away family, is to try your hardest to give them something special for the holidays. I completely understand that the holidays are not about the gifts you give or receive, but when you are facing difficult times that accompany deployment, or even isolation as we have been experiencing since the advent of the the COVID-19 pandemic, sometimes a little extra something special can put the biggest smile on your loved ones face.

Response by SSG Gregg Mourizen made Dec 16 at 2021 9:46 AM

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Just love the ones you're with.

Find something to do.
Invite some friends along.
Remind yourself, "No matter where you are, or what you are going through, it could always be worse
Most important, don't forget that family and friends are only a phone call away.

Response by CPT Sharon Lobb made Dec 16 at 2021 9:46 AM

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Times, they have changed. Harness the technology and be there albeit virtually for the family traditions. This way you do not feel left out at the next gathering because you were "there". Bring along a friend who does not have a family or does not have the resources to connect with them this year.

Response by PO1 Angel Green made Dec 16 at 2021 9:49 AM

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Pray. Just pray.

Response by SP5 Marianne Toohey made Dec 16 at 2021 9:52 AM

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I always feel more in the spirit when I send personalized xmas cards. It just lets all of those you love and miss know that you are thinking of them and holding them close even though you can't be together. Also facetime is an awesome way to connect, see each other and have conversations when it can't be in person!

Response by SP5 Marianne Toohey made Dec 16 at 2021 9:53 AM

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I always feel more in the spirit when I send xmas cards. It shows those you love and miss that you are thinking of them and holding them close even though you can't be together. Facetime is also an awesome way to connect, see each other and have conversations when it's not possible to do that in person. Happy Holidays!

Response by CSM Richard Montcalm made Dec 16 at 2021 9:56 AM

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Be engaged- with your unit, celebrating the holidays at the gatherings and not isolating yourself in self pity. Volunteer to go to local orphanages and get your family, church, NGO to assist those less fortunate. Stay in contact with your family through email, text, Facetime, Zoom, or what ever other means you have. let them know that you're thinking of them and share in their celebrations. If you can, send gifts from your area that are representations of how the holidays are celebrated wherever you are- even Christian countries across the globe have their own spin on Christmas and New Year's. Document your experience so that you can share that with your family

Response by CPT Sharon Lobb made Dec 16 at 2021 10:03 AM

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My sister sent me a motion-sensor talking tree to Germany while we were in the field preparing for an ARTEP (yes during the week of Christmas). Morale was low and any talk of Christmas was prohibited by the command. So what can you do with a ridiculous situation? We decorated the tree with items in our MREs (note to self the Tabasco with a paperclip makes a great ornament as do the Charms). We put the mini talking tree in the TOC and waited for our morning stand up. As the commander walked in, Douglas Fir, opened his eyes and began to sing Jingle Bells--the commander's face turned beet red, he grabbed a seat and in a calm voice that he declared the exercise over and we were to break camp ASAP. Sometimes, trying to avoid the holiday, only makes it worse. Embrace it with abandon-you will be glad you did.

Response by PO2 Crystal Spessard made Dec 16 at 2021 10:04 AM

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Make time for eachother and for yourself. Have activities to do with family, like go for a walk in the park, where everyone can engage as much or as little as they would like with one another. Have time for yourself when you need it, a relaxing drink and a book, a power nap, a shower. Communicate with others what your needs are, your timeline and expectations, and be sure to hear theirs too.

Response by Rachel Olson Dahl made Dec 16 at 2021 10:06 AM

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Finding others who are also alone and celebrating with them. Plan get togethers as you would with family. Or find out if there are those in the surrounding community who will be alone or need extra help. Or see about joining a family from church or other organization involved in.

Response by Sgt Dave VonAllmen made Dec 16 at 2021 10:11 AM

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I spent 72 and 73 at Osan AB and most of the married and family guys saved their R&R for Christmas so it was usually just us single guys left. We didn't do anything special did a half ass job of decorating the barracks and just hung out together so we could get the day over with as best we could. Oh I forgot they had a "special meal" prepared but none of us ate it probably the same old stuff. We did support an Orphanage through out the year and the week of Christmas we took presents out to them and that was fun.

Response by SSgt Timothy Adams made Dec 16 at 2021 10:14 AM

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There have been a few years of my life that I have been away from family during the Holidays when I was younger. The best thing i did to cope was to stay busy and connect with my religion. Keeping my mind busy and connecting with a community of people and having my spiritual faith were key to helping me be cope.

Response by SGT Erick Holmes made Dec 16 at 2021 10:28 AM

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Keep busy or stay busy during the Holiday Season. Treat your fellow Soldiers as family and do some family things. Have a bunch of chow and if your old enough enjoy a few beverages (safely of course) and try not to think about your other Loved ones. You can't change the situation on where you are at but you can make the most out of the current situation that you are in.

Response by PO2 Shawn Pambianco made Dec 16 at 2021 10:31 AM

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I have recently become an empty-nester and I find myself reminiscing on days when I was deployed away from family and the people close to me. Today with all the technology like RP and other social media, I can still reach out to most everyone but find the most value in sending letters. There is still nothing like opening mail from an old friend or getting the updated Christmas family photo. I enjoy partnering with my military families and helping our veterans through the holidays the same way by sending letters to our Troops and our veterans residing in our local VA homes. Anything to help bring a smile.

Response by Cpl Cleopatria Jones made Dec 16 at 2021 10:34 AM

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Volunteer at a homeless shelter.

Response by SPC Terry Scanlon made Dec 16 at 2021 10:42 AM

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Being near the Georgia Mountains I hit one of those beautiful trails for a lovely hike and recharge the mind.

Response by SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. made Dec 16 at 2021 10:43 AM

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You can Volunteer serving food or handing out food boxes for the Salvation Army or St. Vincent De Paul. It's always a good feeling helping out the less fortunate.

Response by MAJ Mark N. made Dec 16 at 2021 10:48 AM

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Since our moved more than 12 times in my 20+ years of service, we developed "family" traditions to practice each Christmas. These gave us a feeling of stability and legacy as we were always away from extended family and sometimes overseas. Now that the kids are grown, have their own families and moved to various parts of the country, we still observe many of those past traditions - sometimes together and sometimes apart. Great memories!

Response by SPC Richard Rauenhorst made Dec 16 at 2021 10:52 AM

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I focused on the positive while in Vietnam. Like the Bob hope show. I still remember the care package I got in the mail even though it was all crumbs it was still great and many laughs with co workers. I also had good duty in a secure location Danang.

Response by PFC Laurie Doelle made Dec 16 at 2021 10:53 AM

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Well, back when I was in Dessert Storm, we didn't have the internet as we know it now. No cell phones, no way to connect to family. At least now there's Facebook video chat, Skype, etc., so there's more ways to connect to loved ones. I know firsthand how hard it is during the holidays to not be able to visit your loved ones, but you just got to be strong and know that you'll be seeing and talking with them soon. Keep your chin up, hold on to your memories and hang tight. Happy Holidays to everyone! Thank you for your service and all be safe!

Response by SGT Greg Sanders made Dec 16 at 2021 10:53 AM

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I used to surround myself with my felliw soldiers and have fun with them. An example. One Thanksgiving, we got together and everyone cooked one of their favorite dishes and we just sat around ate good food and reminisced about fsmily during the holiday season.

Response by MSgt Phil Lipke made Dec 16 at 2021 11:03 AM

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Volunteer at the local recycling center!

Response by SGT Randall Spurgeon made Dec 16 at 2021 11:06 AM

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I'm afraid there is nothing that can replace being with your loved ones during the holidays, but We do keep in touch by phone or texts and FaceTime. family love is a bond that will not be broken by being apart. Merry Christmas to all.

Response by Cpl Michael Burton made Dec 16 at 2021 11:09 AM

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I was very young my first Christmas in the USMC. I went initially to Hawaii, no knowing in Vietnam was in my future (it was). On Christmas day, my friend and I rented surfboards, without knowing how to surf, and clowned around at Waikiki Beach. It was great - until I finally caught a wave. Did you know there coral in the sea? In 8' of water, there might a coral head 7 feet tall. I should have brought my helmet. I was lucky then, and my helmet proved it's worth later, when I did get to thge 3rd MarDiv, up by the Z.

Response by SMSgt Michael Gleason made Dec 16 at 2021 11:14 AM

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Being retired, I'm WITH my family for Christmas, but when I was stationed overseas for two Christmases, I found that the best way of coping was to VOLUNTEER to help others get through it! We were "all in it together", and had to make the best of the situation we were dealt!

Response by Sgt Skip Riffle made Dec 16 at 2021 12:04 PM

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I volunteer with Bikes For Tykes, Inc. We 're-cycle' discarded bicycles' into nice condition for children and needy adults. It makes us feel better about ourselves and to know we are changing the lives of the less fortunate in our community.

Response by PO1 Vincent Cruz made Dec 16 at 2021 12:07 PM

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Being away from family especially during the holidays isn't easy, different folks have different ways of coping with the idea that they will not be home for the holidays. How I coped with it was by thinking of the joyous times we had together and how much greater it's going to be once I return home especially since I have been on both sides of the fence.
Realizing that the group of solders you have been deployed now for several months, watching each other's six, are also family and it's ok to make the best of your time with them during this special time of the year and just enjoy. Happy holidays to all.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 16 at 2021 12:09 PM

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1) Spend time with family,
2) reduce drinking and other substance use,
3) stay on your usual sleep schedule,
4) See your mental health counselor if necessary,

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 16 at 2021 12:18 PM

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Think 'this too shall pass.' Focus on the holidays with your team away from home!

Response by SPC Floyd Hall made Dec 16 at 2021 12:19 PM

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I call if I am able. Otherwise I surround myself with their pictures and videos, remember how good it feels when we are all together and write each one a note focusing on the "Good Times" we had and will have again. Most of all I let them know how much they mean to me.

Response by SFC W. Stewart made Dec 16 at 2021 12:34 PM

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For every deployment, the family has done Christmas early with a clip from me wishing all a merry Christmas and miss them.. and filmed it so I could also watch while it went on too.

Response by SFC Charles Jenkins made Dec 16 at 2021 1:03 PM

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With all the technology available I use FaceTime, messenger, etc to stay in contact with family, although seeing them in person would be better, the distance is too far to be with them, I usually let someone set up something to see them with, it like being a fly in the room they soon forget you are their. I feel that better than nothing

Response by LCpl Kevin Bryson made Dec 16 at 2021 1:22 PM

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Get together with your buddies. You can have an awesome celebration. If possible, text, call or zoom your family just to let them know how you feel.

Response by SGT Dave Hopson made Dec 16 at 2021 1:28 PM

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Communication!

Response by CPL Raeanne Mitchell made Dec 16 at 2021 1:29 PM

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We all know how emotionally draining it is for us to be away on holidays especially. My husband, who was a civilian, always made up care packages for me with enough to share. We never had much money, so they weren't expensive, just thoughtful. Now the younger generation can have video with people at home, but letters, news, and packages from home can be shared so it isn't so lonely. Just don't forget how hard it is for our families when they don't hear from us and we cannot call or rely on getting a letter in the mail. There needs to be support for them too Go talk to a spouse worried about their soldier and help them not be as lonely.

Response by PO2 Jimmie Shelnutt made Dec 16 at 2021 1:50 PM

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Missing loved ones is especially painful during holidays. There is no simple answer to lessen that despair. But the remembrance of holidays past, even mentally cataloging them by "best", "funniest", "oddest", "coldest", even "worst", diminishes just a bit of that immediate loneliness. And from the experience of those previous good (even bad) days plan for those holidays to come when you will once again be in the company of your beloved.

Response by Cpl Frank Birkemeier made Dec 16 at 2021 1:50 PM

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Always hang out with your brother and sisters during holidays, keeping numbers while celebrating the special times of the year creates memories you will never forget and helps you avoid depression. One Christmas, a lot of us could not get leave home from California(stationed at Camp Pendleton), so we went to the beach and saw Santa decorations with sombreros on. A long way from cold Ohio, and a memory we can always say that we went "Swimming in the Ocean on Xmas."

Response by Cpl Frank Birkemeier made Dec 16 at 2021 1:50 PM

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Response by Maj Dale Smith made Dec 16 at 2021 1:54 PM

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Compartmentalize! Unless you are standing a one man post on the 38th parallel, you are with your squad, platoon, company, flight, squadron, wing buddies and if you are on liberty, have a party. Eat comfort food and watch a Christmas movie together or play pool, or a board game or poker etc.It may seem difficult, but it may be better than being stuck in a snow blizzard at Chicago O'hare and you are trying to get to your family in Phoenix.

Response by PO2 Paul Dempsey made Dec 16 at 2021 2:04 PM

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Plan ahead. I used to bring special small food items before deployment and break them up on christmass along with a small bottle of hooch and we'd have a couple of shots while underway christmass day. Not legal but not enough to impair duty. But sure made some shipmates day better as well as mine when we missed our family. Helped us realize we where family it helped us get through it

Response by PO3 Surisa King made Dec 16 at 2021 2:05 PM

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Try volunteering at food pantries. It makes you feel good about helping others and it gives you a chance to be with others.

Response by SPC James Drury made Dec 16 at 2021 2:42 PM

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Best tip for coping with the Christmas Holiday:

Find a bathroom disposable trash cannister then roll up newspapers into small baseball size balls. Pretend the paper balls are basketballs and the cannister is the basket. Occupy your time by shooting
hook shots, layups three pointers, power dunks and last second game winning shots. Don't forget to dance a jig, whoop and cheer loudly when you make the winning shots,

Do this for half an hour and I guarantee you will have totally forgotten the holiday and your loneliness.

Response by PO3 Deb Chadderton made Dec 16 at 2021 3:07 PM

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Absolutely try to do something new or unusual, which is basically not only a distraction but also a compensation for having to miss family. I scuba dived and skydived, and went to any cute holiday focused shop that I could find. The holiday shopping might sound counterintuitive, but you’re with a whole community of people sharing the holiday with you, so to speak.

Response by SGT David Conlon made Dec 16 at 2021 3:10 PM

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I had a good buddy to keep me company back then.

Response by SFC Leon Amer made Dec 16 at 2021 3:31 PM

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Focus on the wife and fur babies, let the in-laws yell at each other without us under their roofs. Let the wife send her cards with $ inside to them if she wishes and not worry about if something is the correct color, size, etc.

Response by SN Kristi Kalis made Dec 16 at 2021 3:51 PM

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I worked to keep busy and have an excuse not to spend time with other people. I was never in a festive mood when I was alone.

Response by A1C Constance Lynne Clark made Dec 16 at 2021 4:02 PM

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Holidays are not fun without my family and loved ones. When I was away from them I was able to join friends (overseas area)!

Response by A1C Constance Lynne Clark made Dec 16 at 2021 4:03 PM

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I’d like to volunteer to help feed those less fortunate than I am.

Response by SP5 John Fitzgerald made Dec 16 at 2021 5:05 PM

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We picked this and our families and our country need us to be strong 365 days every year. When we choose the military we choose sacrifice. Our families and ourselves can be proud of our absence that we have chosen to stand for the millions who depend us even during the holidays. We stand just a little bit taller in holiday absence.

Response by 1SG Alan Boggs made Dec 16 at 2021 5:34 PM

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As someone who spent Christmas in both Iraq and Afghanistan, my advice is to celebrate with the people you are with. Talk and laugh together, share stories and break bread. In 20 years you will have a lifetime of Christmas memories with you family and 1 or 2 with your brothers and sisters in uniform.

Response by PO1 David Haney made Dec 16 at 2021 5:43 PM

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I believe the best ways of getting through the holidays away from your family or loved ones is to use the various means of media that are on the market. For example Facebook Portal, or facetime your relatives or friends. Or text them on on your PC, tablet, phone, laptop. If you don't have any of these then write them a letter. I know when I was on Active Duty and away from family on deployments I would keep in touch by writing letters. Or just to have a picture of family to glance at every now and then helped me tremendously until I could be reunited with them. Thank you for this opportunity to
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Response by PFC Teresa Rademacher made Dec 16 at 2021 6:13 PM

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I would work during the holidays so I could let someone else have time off to call, video chat or whatever they needed to do to get through.

Response by SPC Wanda Terrell made Dec 16 at 2021 6:50 PM

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Staying Prayed up and surrounding yourself with friends!

Response by SMSgt Jeff Kyle made Dec 16 at 2021 8:10 PM

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Step one, stay busy. Many constructive way of doing this. Volunteer to help in whatever endeavor is going on. Toys For Tots, USO, there’s many ways.
Step two, stay away from hitting the bottle too hard. Being drunk and being lonely at the same time is a bad combination.
Have get togethers, go exploring, check out the local towns (try to stay away from juicy friends).
Bottom line, a busy person doesn’t have too much time to get lonely, depressed, etc.
Merry Christmas!

Response by SGM Willie Sanderson made Dec 16 at 2021 9:08 PM

2021-12-16T21:08:16-05:00

Times of communication is much different now than it was in my day. Soldiers in my time looked for the 1sg of the unit to show up with the mail bag(s). You could see the faces brighten and smiles get bigger as his jeep pulled up, especially if the big gray bags were bulging. This was without a doubt the most exciting time of the day. When the bags were opened the smell of perfume would knock you over but that was the smell of love and a caring family of the soldier. Now it is to easy to pull out the phone and send a text or DM and that is important but they don't have that personal touch that a letter handwritten with the hearts and lips hand drawn and the letters were then touched with the smell of his or her perfume or colon of their girl or boyfriends or spouse. So I am sure those personal times are now gone but I know soldiers and I'm certain those simple things of a personal letter or card would still be seen and saved as a momento of the time. One thing else, soldiers read those letters and cards over and over at any point in time. Care packages were the next thing on the list but unfortunately sometimes the cookies and brownies had a whif of the same smell coming from the letters in the bag. The treats were shared with all and put smiles on their faces as they were ate despite the smell of a seductive perfume of someone else's wife or girlfriend. It just made our day.
In Garrison as leaders it was expected of us to first of all get soldiers out on leave to be with families but due to many reasons all soldiers could not take leave so we made certain that all support systems were used to make soldiers feel at home PSGs and 1SGs would invite soldiers to their homes to share celebrations with them and their families if at all possible. We also made sure I recreation rooms were decorated like home and that our Dining Facilities were fully staffed and preparing great meals for the soldiers. It was also expected for Commanders, 1SGs and officers and NCOS along with their families to be their as a part of the Unit Celebrations. It became a logistical nightmare for the Commander and First Sergeants to make this happen for our soldiers but it showed the soldiers family oriented concern and happiness for them during these times. As an infantry 1SG my soldier never faltered when I said let's go all because we did not falter when it came to supporting them during the highs and lows of their lives.
I'm not saying to stop the media style communication that is great but never forget that last smell of your spouse or significant other and try to recreate that time each and every day you are separate. that keeps the love strong and a smile on your friend, spouse or family member far away sitting on a vehicle or a rock smiling and remembering that last time and looking forward on the future times.

Response by SPC Rod Harris made Dec 16 at 2021 9:32 PM

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I spent my first Christmas in the Army stationed in Germany. At first I thought it would be alone, but my commander offered me the option of spending Xmas with a German family and I accepted. It was one of the best experiences of my life. Manfred and his wife, son and father welcomed me into their home on Dec. 23, 1978. We spent most of the day learning to communicate better, grandpa spoke no English and I had limited German(high school), but It was enough and we had some great conversations about his life in Germany and me growing up in America. I took them all to the PX to shop for Xmas dinner, little Frank was like a kid in a candy store; it was magical. I showed Marie how to use shake-n-bake, she loved it We spent Xmas eve in Amsterdam, too many good memories to tell here and it was great. Christmas day was very traditional and beautiful, gift exchange was quite emotional(yeah I shed tears). We stayed friends for the next two years of my deployment, I said good bye April '81(yeah more tears), one of the best decisions of my life.

Response by SrA Tracy Leviner made Dec 16 at 2021 9:52 PM

2021-12-16T21:52:24-05:00

If you are stationed in Germany definitely go to the Christmas Markets . Go with some friends and drink some Gluhwein and walk around and eat some good food and have fun with the locals . Germany is great and make friends with a local and you could be friends for life .

Response by SN Robert McIntyre made Dec 16 at 2021 10:09 PM

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Plan a self imposed one day away vacation via auto, bus or plane to any destination where you can travel to and from in one day, check your modes of transportation; For example, I live in Dallas and could drive easily go to:
Oklahoma visiting Tulsa and Oklahoma City Okla.and crossing the Red River using one major US Highway going and a second major US Highway to return as the two major cities are well over 100 miles apart from East and West of each other thus you would travel north from Dallas on either I-35 or US 75 North to your first chosen destination then using interstate 40 to traverse east or west to your chosen second city, So many places to see including Mountains windmill farms and etc.
The above is just an example but you can adjust it to your area remembering the time you would like to leave and return.
Look at where you live, choose an area North, South, East or West and look at a three to four hour drive one way to your chosen destination and your destination time being two to three hours then returning home
I use to rent a car just to drive three to fours just for lunch or breakfasts and even now I will drive an hour or two just for a change of scenery and hilly areas where you can watch a sunrise or a sunset is awe inspiring, pure nature. .
Life is to be enjoyed so go do i
Robert McIntyre, Retired

Response by SGT Michael Brand made Dec 16 at 2021 11:17 PM

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Stay busy, and try to focus on the fact that it's only temporary.

Response by SMSgt Kelly Canty made Dec 16 at 2021 11:38 PM

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Invite friends over, or spend the holidays with a neighbor or dorm roommates. Everybody can bring their favorite dish that reminds them of home; and explain over dinner what reminds them of home/family with the dish they made!!! After dinner, play games with your guest that you wound typically do with family if you were home!

Response by Helen Buelow made Dec 17 at 2021 12:04 AM

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The best tip is to call them and then go on with life

Response by CPT Craig Farrow made Dec 17 at 2021 1:47 AM

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I volunteer for duty to let married people have the holiday.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 17 at 2021 9:59 AM

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Having spent a few holidays in a combat zone, my best tip is to spend some time with a few buddies and talk about the best memories of the holiday you have. No one wants to admit they are lonely during the holidays, thinking it will make them look like a wimp, but if someone breaks the ice it can really help you through it. You can even talk about the bad holidays that you survived.

For me, that was 1979 and I wasn't even deployed, but my Dad was in the hospital having a double bypass. He survived, and we had 28 more years, but that was still the worst holiday I ever experienced.

Response by SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. made Dec 17 at 2021 10:14 AM

2021-12-17T10:14:19-05:00

To occupy some of your Holiday time, maybe go to the PX or BX and purchase some small toys or sports equipment and give to the less fortunate in your neighborhood or village. It would create a nice warm feeling in your heart!

Response by CPL Chris Palmberg made Dec 17 at 2021 12:02 PM

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As the sole married guy with a house in my (accountability) squad, we had my Joes over on a regular basis after my last ocean-less beach vacation. It evolved from a "we survived alive" party into a weekly communal gathering for 6-15 people including GIs, spouses, girlfriends, and flavors-of-the-week plus a few kids.

We'd huddle up waiting for closeout formation and decide what we (they) wanted for dinner, call my wife for a shopping list, and the Joes would divide the list equitably and go shopping after formation... it had a potluck atmosphere without Private Snuffy trying to cook a covered dish in the barracks.

Response by SP5 Ronald Gerhart made Dec 17 at 2021 2:58 PM

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Use all means available to communicate with family at this special Holiday Season. Phone, Social Media, etc.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 17 at 2021 6:18 PM

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Volunteer to work so those with families can be off. Maybe Santa will drop by your station.

Response by SPC Rebecca Price made Dec 17 at 2021 11:44 PM

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Talking to someone who understands helps me tremendously. The blues come and go and it helps to have someone who is there to take your call, go have lunch, or just be with.

Response by SGT Judy Swift Johnson made Dec 18 at 2021 11:13 AM

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Holidays are always difficult when away from home, especially when deployed to a combat z0ne. Fortunately for most soldiers, Marines and Air force members, nowadays everyone has a cell phone or computer to make calls, Facetime or live videos. We didn't have any of that during Desert Shield/Storm.
My thoughts as to how to get through the holidays is to know you should be there for the next one. Do your best to contact your family via phone call or Facetime on the holiday. Know that they are missing you as much as you are missing them. Try to keep your spirits up. Celebrate as best as circumstances allow with your battle buddies or friends. Know they are feeling similar to you and try to boost each others spirits. You won't be there forever, although at times, it may feel that way. Just do what ever you need to do to get through the days.
Merry Christmas to you all and have a safe, but fun New Year!!

Sgt (DV) Judy Johnson

Response by SP5 Dan Fahrni made Dec 18 at 2021 7:33 PM

2021-12-18T19:33:49-05:00

I joined a church youth group. it was a very nice way to get thru the holidays. these young men and women became fast friends. it was nice to be around people in a clean and whole sum environment. I still think of some of the good time had with a really nice group of people.

Response by Ashish Kumar made Dec 19 at 2021 2:41 AM

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Response by A1C Michelle Pagan made Dec 19 at 2021 7:15 PM

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Get involved withlocal events such as giving out children's gifts or delivering holiday meals or visiting other vets who stay at the local VA grounds or who are in hospital.

Response by SGT Debra McDonough Travis made Dec 19 at 2021 10:23 PM

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Get together with a bunch of coworkers who are in the same boat and everyone bring a dish that they love.

Response by SSG Earl Corp made Dec 20 at 2021 12:01 AM

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It depends on where you’re stationed. My service predates personal computers and cell phones so my experience was a lot different from today’s soldiers. We lived or died by mail call. Senior NCOS would take us to their homes for Christmas dinner. In Germany we were given every other day off that turned into a two week long trash can party. I don’t ever remember being homesick at Christmas because the people I was with were my chosen family. The worst Christmas I spent was in the states when my first wife and I drove to see her folks wintering in a Florida. It was a miserable time had by all, and 14 months later we were divorced. Times now should be easier for troops in the barracks with face time and cell phones.

Response by Sgt Tim Greenwalt made Dec 20 at 2021 12:57 PM

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Organize a gathering in the dorm/barracks. Either have individuals make some or collect money from people and get several people to do the cooking and organizing, others for cleaning up. These people are part of your family now and are dealing with the same feelings now. Organize a secret Santa gift exchange and leave the present at their door so no one knows who each other have.

Response by SSG Robert Waddell made Dec 20 at 2021 10:24 PM

2021-12-20T22:24:47-05:00

I hope to win the $100

Response by SSG Robert Waddell made Dec 20 at 2021 10:26 PM

2021-12-20T22:26:39-05:00

The $100 would really come in handy

Response by MSgt Michael Ashby made Dec 21 at 2021 1:49 AM

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While on a remote tour to Osan AB in the early 2000s, I made sure to get out of the dorm room and attend unit and base parties celebrating the holidays. I arrived a few weeks before Christmas and had to adjust during the holidays. Being in Korea, I would usually talk with my family when I would wake up Saturday mornings and talk before, they went to bed on their Friday nights. Spending time with others and keeping in touch with family helps make the best of the holidays away from home.

Response by SrA Shane Clark made Dec 21 at 2021 11:13 AM

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Volunteer to feed the homeless, or hand out gifts to families in need . Helps to develop right perspective .

Response by SPC John Williams made Dec 22 at 2021 8:33 AM

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In the times I was away from home, it seemed to get better if I kept myself really busy.

Response by SPC Floyd Hall made Dec 22 at 2021 5:59 PM

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Remember that we are humans and emotional beings. Remember that they miss you as much as you miss them. Change that empty mental moment to pride and the love that exsists between all of you. Use that as a time of joy, happiness and pride, not one of negative feelings. Hey, it helped me...

Response by SrA Mark Hodge made Dec 22 at 2021 6:05 PM

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To go out and help in your community and staying busy and having fun and joy throughout the holidays and playing games and watching football. Happy holidays everyone, mark.

Response by LT Leon Heselton made Dec 22 at 2021 6:07 PM

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Keep in touch with Messenger and Facebook.

Response by A1C Joseph Copeland made Dec 22 at 2021 7:11 PM

2021-12-22T19:11:33-05:00

When i lived in Spain a hundred years ago you just don't think about it. Go and party and find women and get invited to their homes for

Response by PFC Luke Clark made Dec 22 at 2021 7:22 PM

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I'm all alone and read the Bible and try to stay active

Response by SrA Theodore Dobbins made Dec 22 at 2021 8:01 PM

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Share and get involved with people around you. You're not the only one dealing with the Holidays. Help each other get through this time together.

Response by SPC Martie Vandry made Dec 22 at 2021 8:33 PM

2021-12-22T20:33:38-05:00

I spend a lot of my free time during the holiday season catching up on light hearted Christmas movies. It always helps to put me in a good mood & to remember fun times.

Response by SP5 Timmie Kittleson made Dec 22 at 2021 9:05 PM

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Christmas 1969 in Cu Chi, Vietnam I went to the Bob Hope show. This was a great distraction from being away from family. Connie Stevens and The Golddiggers were among those that put a smile on our face during the holidays away from home.

Response by Sgt Phillip Carroll made Dec 22 at 2021 9:06 PM

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Pick something else to focus on like working toward a promotion. Dial in and do the work no one else is willing to do. SF

Response by SrA Tim Walker made Dec 22 at 2021 9:18 PM

2021-12-22T21:18:00-05:00

No matter what family is always in your heart 5 miles away or 5000 miles they are always with you

Response by PO1 Richard Evans made Dec 22 at 2021 9:34 PM

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lots of nog

Response by CDR Michelle Webber made Dec 22 at 2021 10:05 PM

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Make your own holiday(s) when your service member is home. Then invite other military families over on the actual holiday so you’re not alone.

Response by SN Jereme Volz made Dec 22 at 2021 10:15 PM

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Easy to get depressed this time of year but always remember that you have loved ones everywhere including your fellow veterans!

Response by 1SG Laurie Armstrong made Dec 22 at 2021 10:28 PM

2021-12-22T22:28:12-05:00

video chat has been an awesome advancement in technology to be 'together' for all occasions; flat stanley or flat mamma/daddy have also been helpful; and planning and setting a place at the table are also effective :)

Response by SSgt John Labuzetta made Dec 22 at 2021 10:44 PM

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This year has been tough. But we are overcomers! We persevere. One way we cope is by adopting a kitty cat. Princess Coconut. She brings us so much joy and comfort! She seems to know when I am upset and jumps up on my lap. She purrs up a storm. A Turkish Van. More like a dog than a cat. I also pray and meditate. We do yoga which is an excellent stress reliever! Not to mention discipline + strength. We watch funny holiday movies. And other funny shows. It has been proven to increase white blood cells + help healing. Like Gilda Radner centers. Old SNL ones are funny. Last but not least we help to hand out food at a local place of worship. The lines are long due to pandemic. Giving stimulates endorphins in your brain! A nice perk. Happy Holidays everyone

Response by SPC Jennifer Goodrich made Dec 22 at 2021 10:59 PM

2021-12-22T22:59:36-05:00

I catch up on every show they didn't want to watch with me. I listen to my own music.plus I take time to contact my friends.

Response by TSgt Randall Toftee made Dec 22 at 2021 11:08 PM

2021-12-22T23:08:10-05:00

Just trying to invite friends or coworkers to gather and be thankful for everything we have and try to Merry and bright!

Response by PFC Joseph Russo made Dec 22 at 2021 11:10 PM

2021-12-22T23:10:43-05:00

Back when I served we were still the top nation in the world .
Now they laugh at us...

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 22 at 2021 11:12 PM

2021-12-22T23:12:00-05:00

During my last deployment in 17-18, my unit we created a New Tradition. We had a BBQ, Photo Booth, Arts & Crafts and Enlisted/Officer competition for an 3 days. No solider in my company could stay in the barracks. We even created T-shirts with nicknames just to remember the deployment.

Response by CPL Lloyd Gray made Dec 22 at 2021 11:19 PM

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since my family is out of state and its hard to connect because of finances, I try to volunteer or help another family during this time. I usually end up feeling as part of the family.

Response by GySgt Glen Silva made Dec 22 at 2021 11:43 PM

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My tips for getting through the holidays!!! Call other veterans that you deployed with, check on each other! Second tip, serve others, by giving back to your community. Regardless if that means a soup kitchen, or at a VFW or other military clubs. Giving back and helping others will put things into perspective and help ease some of the stressors. Tip number three, take a step back and asses your situation. Meaning look at the family you have, blood or not blood, they are your family. Last tip is harder, but works for me. Remember those who didn’t make it back, and live the hell out of life because you owe it to them to do so, since they can’t be here. Honor them, by doing that and your troubles will disappear. Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year!

Response by PFC Deryk Robinson made Dec 22 at 2021 11:53 PM

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For me is always helping out with others and where I live. If I see others giving out I always help by cleaning up are just doing what ever They need help not just taking. I love seen smiles on people faces. Hang out with others Vets. Learning how to live in the moment. I am Bless to cope with my illness and learning how to live today with help from family friends and help from the VA. Thank You God, then I thank god again & thank God again. Peace & Blessing & Love to all!!! Happy Holiday!!!!

Response by MSgt Lyndsey Tarin made Dec 23 at 2021 12:03 AM

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I would try to communicate with family from a phone call or Skype and then would think of 1 tradition to uphold and rally together with our crew while deployed and create our sense of family, togetherness and camaraderie

Response by CPL Rhianne Green made Dec 23 at 2021 12:05 AM

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during my service I would send my mom and daughter random edible arrangements and gifts proceeding Christmas or birthdays. Now, as a flight attendant, If I'm ever away from family during the holidays, I always have gifts set up to arrive every day, the week of Christmas, for everyone. Them knowing that I'm thinking about them, even though I'm not there really makes a huge difference for me and for them! I still bring them joy and am still a part of the festivities no matter how far away I may be.

Response by PO3 David Gonzales made Dec 23 at 2021 12:12 AM

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Give it to God keep it motivated and trust in yourself. Also eat lots of food.

Response by CPL Lisa Petersen made Dec 23 at 2021 12:34 AM

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When I was stationed at Ft. Sill, I went to eat at a boyfriends families home for Thanksgiving. But I’m not gonna lie, I still cried like a baby being that I was still homesick. It did help relieve some of my sadness being with them.

Response by CH (LTC) Dan Payne made Dec 23 at 2021 12:57 AM

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First, as a spiritual person..prayer!
Don't be a loner. Hang with buddies, engage in activities planned by the unit. Do the fun

Response by CH (LTC) Dan Payne made Dec 23 at 2021 1:03 AM

2021-12-23T01:03:02-05:00

#2) Do the fun things you've always enjoyed.
Keep in

Response by SP6 Anthony Myers made Dec 23 at 2021 1:28 AM

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i visit relatives before holiday

Response by AA Barbara Cowley made Dec 23 at 2021 1:38 AM

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When away from home during the holidays, connect via video chat, among other things. It it's Christmas, send presents home and request a video chat so you can watch presents opened by those loving children and Grandchildren. You can always have a 2d Christmas later so you can join the fun in person. I haven't seen my own beloved GGs (Great Grands) in 2 years due to their Dad holding a grudge unfairly. I have the boys images on my laptop and send them love and touch their images with kisses. I would give my life for my GGs and Grandkids. We have covered all services in my family, my husband was USMC, my Dad was Army, My daughter was USAF, and I was Navy. AS a retired RN, I've had to spend many holidays working. There are other ways to make up for missing holidays with those you love.

Response by CW4 Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 23 at 2021 2:22 AM

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Attach yourself like a leach to your battle buddy that is also without their family LOL

Response by CPL Merari Clairmont made Dec 23 at 2021 6:06 AM

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Video calls wilt family and spend time with friends on base

Response by CPO Simon Gonzales made Dec 23 at 2021 6:55 AM

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During one of my unaccompany tour oversea, one year I couldn’t fly home during Christmas, so I volunteered at a local shelter and help serve meals to folks needing to eat. Then, I’d help clean up the place afterwards, which help me appreciate family life back home.

Response by SGT Arobelle Andrews made Dec 23 at 2021 7:23 AM

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I find being in a creative space to make something keeps me busy and not thinking about the present situations. Give me some art supplies and I will go paint the town!

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 23 at 2021 7:26 AM

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Build and share your community wherever you are. We were stationed overseas several times and often missed holidays with family. We spent holidays with neighbors and friends from church after attending church and having potlucks or celebrations together.

Response by LCpl Alisha Jett made Dec 23 at 2021 8:47 AM

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Getting together with other Marines, who were also alone, worked wonders.

Response by PFC Tom Vogel made Dec 23 at 2021 10:19 AM

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fishing

Response by PO1 Timothy Buckley made Dec 23 at 2021 10:32 AM

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I've missed several Christmas/New Years while deployed underwater. The way that I got through it was to promise myself that I would give the gift of a better version of myself to my family when I returned. For me that included working out every day in December while away and also reading at least one "self-help" book during that same time period.
Those times away will never be easy, but the least you can do is make it worth it.

Cheers and Happy Holidays!

Response by PFC Patrick Lacommare made Dec 23 at 2021 10:40 AM

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Connect with family with land line or cell phones. Also,connect with family using E-mail, Face Time or Zoom. Don't forget about writing letters to those you love.

Response by HN Cindy Ropprichter made Dec 23 at 2021 11:08 AM

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Have fun, spend time together. Get out and look at christmas lights, foster a dog, decorate together, go to a movie, go bowling, watch movies, and be grateful.

Response by Cpl Jack Thomas made Dec 23 at 2021 12:56 PM

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Make a list of five to ten fond memories you had experienced during your life with family and friends. Review them not only now, but regularly throughout the year. I believe you will be rewarded time and again!

Response by SP5 Bill Littleton made Dec 23 at 2021 1:34 PM

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a simple little phone call if possible, if not a handwritten card and a prayer every day

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 23 at 2021 4:05 PM

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FaceTime family during the holidays and say hello to everyone back home. It's not the same as being there in person, but it's the next best thing! Share some unique stories with everyone back home of how the holidays are celebrated overseas! I remember exquisite spreads in the DFAC for all of the holidays I spent deployed!

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 23 at 2021 4:05 PM

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Response by 1SG Luis R. Rivera made Dec 23 at 2021 4:54 PM

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Volunteer for duty in order to gat a chance to married soldiers spend Holidays with their family. After having my family invited single soldiers to my place for christmas Dinner.

Response by Andrea Gillum made Dec 23 at 2021 7:49 PM

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fly out of the country

Response by Andrea Gillum made Dec 23 at 2021 7:50 PM

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fly out of the country

Response by PO2 Joan MacNeill made Dec 24 at 2021 1:12 AM

2021-12-24T01:12:29-05:00

I wasn't during my military stint, but same-o, same-o. While on a road trip, I was going to be away on Thanksgiving. I prepared the day before, bought some turkey, veggies, tater goodies, and a piece of pie. Thanksgiving evening, I checked into a motel, and looked for a restuarant. None were open in that mountain area, so I went to work. The turkey and fixin's were perfect out of the microwave. Trail mix provided cranberries, and there was wine and desert. I had not expected much, but was hugely pleased by the results. Actually a memorable Thanksgiving.

Response by SGT David Peteritis made Dec 24 at 2021 9:56 AM

2021-12-24T09:56:41-05:00

cell phone

Response by SR Dale Stiles made Dec 24 at 2021 11:09 AM

2021-12-24T11:09:32-05:00

Getting a project done helps me to focus on the possibility of starting a new project. Wrap up something you’re working on and shift gears for one that has been waiting in the wings.

Response by Cpl Rosemarie SantaAnna made Dec 24 at 2021 12:19 PM

2021-12-24T12:19:21-05:00

Phone call.. Written letter or card, Face Time & Prayer

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 24 at 2021 1:52 PM

2021-12-24T13:52:53-05:00

Will my fellow vets share my story? Please. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rLPaBqEQML8&t=35s

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Response by PFC Gina Pitts made Dec 24 at 2021 2:17 PM

2021-12-24T14:17:24-05:00

taking care of my father who is a veteran with cancer that he got in the service makes me thankful that I can care for him and have another christmas.

Response by SPC Clay Young made Dec 24 at 2021 5:07 PM

2021-12-24T17:07:18-05:00

Praying everyday

Response by A1C Sharon Same made Dec 24 at 2021 6:17 PM

2021-12-24T18:17:04-05:00

While in technical school in Rantoul, IL at Chanute in 1979, my father traveled seven states away to visit me briefly, in a place when I saw my first ice storm, an unbelievable sight. At that time, my classmates and I studied and passed 13 block electronics exams. Never before did I feel homesick yet did so upon his departure. The only thing left to do was
emerse deeply into studies, maintaining discipline in order to pass my exams without washing backwards, avoiding losing place with my classmates. It was tough and I succeeded, plus my homesickness washed away.

Response by PFC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 24 at 2021 10:18 PM

2021-12-24T22:18:54-05:00

I remember back to the winter of 1997, deployed to Bosnia during the conflict there as part of NATO. We lived in a wood frame GP medium tent with the gas heaters. I had been away from my family before when I was in CBT and AIT, but this was different. The icy cold and snow cemented in my mind that I was thousands and thousands of miles away from my family and everything I had ever known. I was now alone with my thoughts. My advice to those who are deployed and unable to come home for Christmas is to remember why you are there and the sacrifices you agreed to make to join the 2% of Americans who serve in the Armed Forces. Without us, there is nothing to go back to. Your family appreciates you, we all do.

Response by LCDR Rebecca Singleton made Dec 24 at 2021 10:39 PM

2021-12-24T22:39:10-05:00

I cook a lot of new and different recipes that I think my family would like.

Response by LCpl John Stephens made Dec 25 at 2021 9:06 AM

2021-12-25T09:06:08-05:00

Christmas time is very depressing I lost two brothers just days apart,one sister, And my father all a couple months before Christmas ⛄

Response by SPC Aaron Priest made Dec 25 at 2021 12:20 PM

2021-12-25T12:20:21-05:00

I would trade out being staff duty driver so those with wife and kids could be home with their family.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 26 at 2021 8:11 PM

2021-12-26T20:11:29-05:00

Short & Sweet...

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 27 at 2021 12:30 AM

2021-12-27T00:30:20-05:00

My f@cking laptop!

Response by SSgt Sandra Cunningham made Dec 27 at 2021 2:08 AM

2021-12-27T02:08:44-05:00

The way I coped not having any family or friends to spend Christmas with was to sleep the day away. It was rainy, which made it perfect for sleeping, and I got some much needed rest.

Response by SPC John Tsutsui made Dec 27 at 2021 11:57 AM

2021-12-27T11:57:41-05:00

I spent two holiday seasons deployed. No smart tech back then. Phone call to home at best and that was very expensive. All we had was eachother and we made the best of it. Hanging out at the Rec Room and usually a pretty good meal in the Mess Hall on the holiday. Good memories, good buddies and some lifelong friends.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 27 at 2021 12:49 PM

2021-12-27T12:49:48-05:00

Burn an apple pie as u surf the internet.

Response by PO1 J Holl made Dec 27 at 2021 12:53 PM

2021-12-27T12:53:00-05:00

video games, cheesy holiday movies, and consuming raw cookie dough never counts -- that is how deployment was tolerable for me!

Response by Sgt Greg Fetz made Dec 27 at 2021 1:26 PM

2021-12-27T13:26:11-05:00

sleep

Response by SFC Stephen King made Dec 28 at 2021 9:16 AM

2021-12-28T09:16:26-05:00

Go to the gym in the am. Work and maintain open communication. balance is key

Response by SFC David S made Dec 28 at 2021 5:04 PM

2021-12-28T17:04:26-05:00

I do not support communism.

Response by Eric Barnett made Dec 29 at 2021 2:59 AM

2021-12-29T02:59:08-05:00

I watch my favorite holiday movies whenever I'm getting through the holidays and I'm not near family or loved ones. It reminds me of the times when we were together, laughing at specific scenes that never get old. (#1: Home Alone/Home Alone 2: Lost in New York, #2: Elf, #3: How the Grinch Stole Christmas)

Response by PVT Joseph Langevin made Dec 29 at 2021 11:36 PM

2021-12-29T23:36:02-05:00

keep a notepad with you daily, for the 25 days till xmas, write down a special memory you cherish with your missed spouse or kid, and print/frame those memories(25) as a xmas gift.....if you love and miss them, communicate it to them!!! not only is it keeping your relationship alive, but they need to hear it!

Response by SSgt Michael Pursey made Dec 30 at 2021 1:56 AM

2021-12-30T01:56:14-05:00

Ensure you involve yourself in as many activities as possible and try to be around as many people as you can during the holidays so that you can think about the good things and the good thoughts of togetherness with family and friends, even though you may not be with them physically, and can’t be, you’re in a better frame of mind and in a better holiday spirit than if you were by yourself over the holiday period…

Response by Charlotte Rose made Dec 30 at 2021 4:31 PM

2021-12-30T16:31:39-05:00

I also have learned that the more I continue to keep the holiday traditions my family and I did growing up, the less lonely and sad I feel about being gone during the holidays. Honestly, the more you can do to make yourself feel at home during the holidays, the more it "feels" like the holiday.

Response by SPC Alfred Dianela made Dec 30 at 2021 4:39 PM

2021-12-30T16:39:51-05:00

Personally, I think self-soothing, self-compassion, mindfulness, relaxation, applying breathing exercises, and guided meditation should help us cope with the holiday season from our family and loved ones. By being in the present moment, accepting, and being non-judgmental with self-awareness. Use or apply reassurance on ourselves that whatever pain we are experiencing, be it emotionally and/or physically, that things will eventually get better and the pain will eventually be erased because we have the strength to cope with challenges or pain. Reminding ourselves that we are a valuable person, that the current situation is now who we are. Loving-kindness phrases such as "May I have love and compassion for myself, be free, be safe, be at peace, be happy, be healthy and strong, be healed", especially during these pandemic seasons. Practice gratitude and appreciation, and showing an act of kindness to others would be a good practice.

Response by SP5 Rodney Burr made Dec 30 at 2021 6:26 PM

2021-12-30T18:26:33-05:00

friends and family

Response by SP5 Rodney Burr made Dec 30 at 2021 6:30 PM

2021-12-30T18:30:42-05:00

be there for each other

Response by PO2 Mark Fitzgerald made Dec 31 at 2021 11:05 AM

2021-12-31T11:05:08-05:00

Calling on the phone to hear their voice, writing to them, going thru pictures and sharing fun memories

Response by SrA Private RallyPoint Member made Jan 3 at 2022 12:04 PM

2022-01-03T12:04:02-05:00

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Response by SrA Aspir Befreier made Jan 4 at 2022 5:46 AM

2022-01-04T05:46:02-05:00

People don't do it enough these days but, simply sitting down at a desk and writing some heartfelt letters or cards to friends and family members can really bring in some inner warmth and cheer!

Response by SFC Howard Holmes made Jan 22 at 2022 12:27 AM

2022-01-22T00:27:42-05:00

Just accept that this is the job you enlisted for, and because of your service, your family and all families have the opportunity to celebrate because you took this path. As an MP I regularly worked these days, so there wasn't time to think about it. Whether you are a one-time enlistment, or a careerist, this is part of the job, but there will be times when you are with them, and they will mean that much more. This will also give you great appreciation for firefighters, police, EMT's and other medical personal and correctional officers who regularly work these days, and especially since many of them are union workers, some may go several years before they get to spend major holidays with their family.

Response by SP5 John Walters made Feb 15 at 2022 10:41 AM

2022-02-15T10:41:46-05:00

Call them on Skype so you can see everyone's faces!! It is very important to see the little ones!

Response by SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL made Sep 10 at 2022 5:56 AM

2022-09-10T05:56:43-04:00

thanks for sharing

Response by SPC James Leffler made Dec 1 at 2022 3:04 AM

2022-12-01T03:04:49-05:00

Find a good friend in the same situation. Make plans, simple ones, movies stuff like that, meet others, just keep yourself busy, and always keep a positive attitude.