What's the best advice on leadership you ever received from a leader?

2016-03-26T20:14:31-04:00

I'm reading a number of books on leadership and trying to gain opportunities to lead and be a good leader in government service. I'm wondering what's the best advice you've received either in your military or civilian career on leadership and how to lead?

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 8:22 PM

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The one advice that was given to me and I have used and it works for me....is take every leader you had/have. You take their good traits and bad traits, figure what can/will work for you and then mold it into your own style of leadership. The only drawback is that this is an investment in time type of advice......as you will always adapt your style as time goes on.
But, one solid piece of advice that does not require time.........Whatever leaders you have, whatever it is that you hate it when they do..........be sure not to do that.

Response by CW5 Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 8:22 PM

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Focus on others and think about how you can enable your followers (serve them, in other words).

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Mar 26 at 2016 8:22 PM

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Some of this is strait forward and others make sense depending on your experience:

Love and care for your troops. Train and work hard. Be the connective tissue to the CO. Create a culture of trust, loyalty, fairness, equal opportunity. Ensure senior NCOs help you monitor the platoon. E-5s are important because they are where the rubber meets the road with the soldiers. Say thank you and have some fun. Fight for your troops. Get your hands dirty. Don't waste soldiers time. And have some damn fun with the platoon. Use TLP and OPORD for complex operations, and visualize and describe the operations from Motor pool (MP) to the AO and back to the MP.

Response by SGT Richard H. made Mar 26 at 2016 8:25 PM

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Probably the best is also one of the simplest: If you're doing what you're supposed to be doing, it doesn't really matter who's watching.

Response by CPO Amb. Terry Earthwind Nichols made Mar 26 at 2016 8:30 PM

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THE best advice: be you first, don't order someone to do something that you have not or would not do yourself. Great question!

Response by SSG Warren Swan made Mar 26 at 2016 8:37 PM

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This and the Creed. It really is amazing how many think they do one or the other, but don't. You'll never be perfect, but if you TRY and put forth an honest effort, no matter what is said, you gave it your all. Folks will see you trying and normally try to give you a hand.

Response by COL Jon Thompson made Mar 26 at 2016 8:49 PM

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It did not come to me directly from a leader but in a book. Many years ago, I bought a book called, GENERAL PATTON'S PRINCIPLES FOR LIFE AND LEADERSHIP. It is a compilation of many of his saying as recorded by a young officer who served with him as we prepared for WWII. The first lesson in the book is one that always stuck with me. That lesson is, "we can always learn from each other." Throughout my military career and continuing civilian service, I have lived by this probably more than anything. My rank and experience did not give me all the answers and I always looked and listened to my subordinates for answers. I have found that people will surprise you if you listen to them.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 8:51 PM

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Never ask your Soldiers to do anything you would not be willing to do. That doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to "shovel poop" with them every time, but you should participate in it at least once.

Response by SSG James Elmore made Mar 26 at 2016 9:05 PM

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Learn to read... I know that sounds silly but when I was an AIT a SFC kept telling me to learn to read. For the longest time i didn't understand until a different SFC try to get me in trouble… Then I read the commanders policy letters, SOP, as well as some regulations and found out that she was in the wrong! So I will never forget that Sfc Price taught me to read!

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 9:06 PM

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Reward in public and criticize in private. Never lose your professionalism in front of your Soldiers and never ask them to do anything that you would not do.

Response by CW3(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 9:23 PM

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When i first really became a leader i really didnt know what kind of leader i wanted to be, so i looked back at my not so effective leaders and knew what kind of leader i didnt want to be

Response by Capt Tom Brown made Mar 26 at 2016 9:29 PM

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Best tactical advice I remember came from Col Adolph Schwenk, CO, 27th Marines when he stopped by the JO hootch one night while making his rounds of the area. Surrounded by a bevy of admiring Regimental and Battalion Staffers, he regaled us with tales of WWII and Korea where he was a company commander. The only thing I remember him saying were words to the effect that "In combat the safest place to be is on the objective. So get your ass on the objective as fast as you can." While what he said may not have been new then or now, it seemed to sum up a thousand hours of tactical training, reading, field exercises and the real thing. It has always stuck with me as practical words of wisdom leaders of all ranks could profit from.

Response by Sgt Aaron Kennedy, MS made Mar 26 at 2016 9:47 PM

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"It ain't about you" Tops the list, but there are lots of others.

Response by Capt Seid Waddell made Mar 26 at 2016 10:16 PM

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My best advice was in the form of the example Col Andrew Beveridge set for us. There is nothing we would not do for him.

Response by SGT David Emme made Mar 26 at 2016 10:26 PM

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A bad plan is better than a no plan...never give a bum a third chance.

Response by Maj John Bell made Mar 26 at 2016 11:02 PM

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"Sir, if you cannot be calm, cool, and collected when your unit is screwing up and in need of your correction in peacetime, how can they expect you to keep it together when your in the middle of a combat crap sandwich?". --- SgtMaj Kacjewski to a highly pissed off 1stLt Bell after said 1stLt delivered, a high volume, foaming at the mouth Company ass-chewing. It was the last time I raised my voice in my career, except to be heard over background noise.

Response by CSM Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 11:03 PM

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I was in 19 years (the first 10 on active duty) and on my first mob/dep. My BN CSM gave me the best advise that I've tried to uphold since. I wish I could've learned/applied it sooner. "Do the hard right, not the easy wrong" You'll be surprised how many situations/scenarios that it'll point you to success.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 11:30 PM

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If you don't have anything for your soldiers to do, send them off... But tell them to keep their phones on.

Response by CPO Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 26 at 2016 11:33 PM

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"You'll have some good ones(leaders) and you'll have far more bad ones. You'll learn what to do and how to treat your people from both of the types. Don't f**k it up Noell, you're not a complete retard, as far as i can tell." This was told to me my first day as an E4 by one of the saltiest Chiefs(Navy E7) i ever met.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 27 at 2016 12:38 AM

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I have been fortunate to be influenced by many good leaders from different areas and as a result I have many thoughts on this subject, however I will share a few very simple and basic ones that I teach to my students-

1) "There is a reason God gave you 2 eyes, 2 ears, and only 1 mouth.... Listen and Look TWICE as much as you talk!" (Some leaders do too much talking without actually listening to what their troops are trying to tell them!)

2) "Don't let the rank on your collar blind you from the reality in which you live and operate." (Yes, you got promoted. You are in charge. You don't have to remind everyone of it all the time! Also, just because you are higher rank doesn't necessarily mean you are right.)

2 of my favorite quotes from others on the subject:
1) "Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it's amazing what they can accomplish. High expectations are the key to everything."
- Sam Walton

2) "People who are unable to motivate themselves (and others) must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents"
- Andrew Carnegie

and Finally.... Lead by EXAMPLE! Be the standard you expect from your soldiers and do not expect others to do things you are not willing to do yourself.

These are just a few that I've picked over the years. I hope they help.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 27 at 2016 1:05 AM

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The army is like a gumball machince full up color(which is different emotions) but when the army is mastered you see no color in the bubble gum and you've become a transparent leader.

Response by SGM Eric Lobsinger made Mar 27 at 2016 1:18 AM

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PV2 Wilcox,
This is a great question. I met my first platoon sergeant, SFC Phillip Bottoms, in February 1985, during my first assignment in (then) West German. SFC Bottoms was the type of man you would easily forget - but would always remember: quiet, unassuming, thoughtful - and he truly cared for Soldiers. He shared his (what we would now consider to be a fairly simple) philosophy with me when I was a PFC, and I have claimed it, owned it, and shared it with every Soldier I have supervised since becoming an NCO back in September 1987:
1. Be where you are supposed to be.
2. Do what you are supposed to do.
3. Keep your supervisor informed.
Do those three things ... and you cannot fail. You will be a success.
A couple of years later, I would meet SFC Sherman Miller, who would counsel his soldiers on:
1. The first time is on me.
2. The second time is on you.
3. The third time, we have an issue ... which means YOU have a big issue.
I learned so much from these leaders. Among those lessons is to keep your messaging simple and something your troops will always remember. I have since developed a variety of 3-step messages designed to provide guidance and assistance for the success of my troops.
No two leaders are alike. No two leaders have the same messaging. No two leaders have the same approaches to success. Find what works for you - and share your knowledge and experience with those with whom you serve.
Best of luck.

Response by SGT Aaron Atwood made Mar 27 at 2016 1:44 AM

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I commend you on taking the initiative to seek knowledge on this. That alone already puts you ahead of your peers who aren't doing the same thing. Here in the Marine Corps we have an acronym called JJDIDTIEBUCKLE. It covers all leadership traits expected from any Marine in any leadership position; from the fireteam leader to the Commandant himself.
Justice
Judgement
Dependability
Integrity
Decisiveness
Tact
Initiative
Endurance
Bearing
Unselfishness
Courage
Knowledge
Loyalty
Enthusiasm
From my limited experience compared to those who commented here's what I have to say on each word here:
Justice: do not ever confuse this with personal vendetta.
Judgement: understand the situation, and the consequences of all possible actions.
Dependability: you're a team player. You don't have to be the star player or most-skilled. Pay attention to the tasks assigned to you. They are a pretty good indicator of how your command is willing to depend on you for something.
Integrity: do not ever violate the trust of others. You will likely never get it back. This applies not just here in the military but in life in general.
Decisiveness: for this I will give you advice I was given from a senior Corporal, "If you make a decision, follow it through. Even if it is a bad decision." The worst thing you can do, especially when lives are at stake, is make no decision at all.
Tact: again here is some advice from another Marine, this time a SSgt, "Tact is getting your point across without creating an enemy." Don't be disrespectful, but don't kiss ass either. It's a fine line that takes experience to find since the line is relative.
Initiative: don't be afraid to be the first to do something especially if it means bettering your team.
Endurance: as a leadership trait this has more to do with mental as opposed to physical endurance. Don't let bad things get you down. I usually don't have bad days at work, but when I do I tell myself at the end of the day that tomorrow is a new day; a chance to start fresh, and a chance to redeem myself assuming I messed up.
Bearing: goes along with mental endurance. The ability to keep professional when others don't, or have difficulty doing so.
Unselfishness: put others before you as long as doing so does not hurt you physically or mentally. Know the difference between needs versus wants. Putting others before you will pay off in the long run far better than any fruit salad on your ribbon bar. Always put your team's welfare first.
Courage: acting upon a difficult decision that may not necessarily benefit you, but benefits your team. Getting your team to work together is another form of courage as well.
Knowledge: know your job, know your teammates and leaders. Kind of going along the full cup saying: if you find your cup full, then take a drink so you have room in your cup again.
Loyalty: the obvious God (obviously not applicable if you don't believe in a higher being), country, branch of service, family, etc. Following all of the above will naturally show your loyalty to your teammates and your leaders. You should have a loyalty to yourself as well. In this aspect I mean your morals and ethics.
Enthusiasm: energy, both good and bad, is contagious. Don't acknowledge something sucks because that will make it click in one's mind that it sucks, and the experience will only feel worse. The mind's weird like that. Urge those who struggle in PT to keep going and finish strong. Encourage others to better themselves as you are currently seeking to do. Do your job the best you can, and then strive to do it better. Seek the advice from those with more experience on how to do a job better, or simply how to do it at all. Believe me they will notice.

Response by MSG(P) Rafael Aguilera made Mar 27 at 2016 6:26 AM

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Rule 1: No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care - T. Roosevelt
A great book on leadership is: Above The Line by Urban Myer. I recommend this book to everyone!

Response by SGM Mikel Dawson made Mar 27 at 2016 7:53 AM

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Never ask your men to do anything you cannot, havenot, will not do yourself.

Response by LTC Kevin B. made Mar 27 at 2016 9:27 AM

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Best advice? You need to be flexible and open-minded when it comes to leadership style. Be true to yourself, but also realize that one style doesn't work in all occasions.

-Different followers require different types of leaders. Adjust for the person.
-Different organizations require different types of leaders. Adjust for the culture.
-Different situations require different types of leaders. Adjust for the scenario.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 27 at 2016 12:41 PM

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Mission first people always, if you take care of your people the mission will be successful. If you mistreat or ignore your people the mission may be compromised. Many companies in the civilian world could also learn from this lesson!

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Mar 27 at 2016 6:53 PM

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Take a knee.

Response by SSG Jesse Cheadle made Mar 27 at 2016 10:36 PM

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I have adapted this through my military career. There are 2 types of leaders

Lead through fear and your Soldiers will do the bare mininum and pop smoke. Out of sight out of mind. Enough said.

Lead through respect and your Soldiers will fear to fail you. They will exceed the standard and always be there to help out.

The ladder knows what it means to be a leader and exudes wisom and welfare for their subordinates. Always grooming them and mentoring them to lead his position. Never afraid to take a stand for his subordinates and does not gossip about their shortcommings. Respect is earned, not given. It goes both ways as a leader.

Response by Capt Brandon Charters made Mar 28 at 2016 9:31 AM

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As simple as it sounds, just take care of your people. It applies to every situation as a leader and this advice has helped me more than anything else.

Response by 1LT William Clardy made Mar 28 at 2016 11:45 AM

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"There is no more democratic institution than an infantry platoon in combat. When those guys follow you, it's a vote of confidence in you and your judgment. You can't force them to follow orders, nothing you threaten them with will be worse than what they'll face following you."

That was the most lasting advice I ever received, and it came from my ROTC PMS (an infantry lieutenant colonel) as I was leaving UVA to spend a few years as an enlisted infantryman.

Response by MSgt John Taylor made Mar 28 at 2016 11:48 PM

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"Make a decision!" Worry about it being right or wrong later.

The best advise I can give, is that if it;s going to sound stupid coming out of your mouth tomorrow morning, while you're explaining it to your commander, then you probably shouldn't be doing it tonight.

Response by COL Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 1:29 AM

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Leadership is not about wielding authority, it is all about empowering people. Real leadership is about leaders recognizing that they serve the people they lead. Leadership is about action, not position. If you take xare of your people and ket them know (by your actions) that you truly care, you are on the right path of leadership.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 6:18 AM

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The best advise I received was..."You can't lead from behind". Simple, but true.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 8:07 AM

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As an E-4 (2008) I was contantly failing my APFT. Some E-6 not in my chain told me: "PT is the only time of the day you're doing something for you. Everything else during your day, you're doing something for someone else". Never fail a PT test since.

Response by SFC Daniel Griffith made Mar 29 at 2016 8:42 AM

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I had a CSM in 3rd Brigade (Broncos)/25th Infantry say that you are always being watched, when you decide to bend or break laws, regulations, or policies, you are giving your subordinates the same liberty but you cannot control which law, regulation, or policy they decide to bend or break. Simply put do at all times what you expect from others as others are watch at all times.

Response by SSG Ken Gilder made Mar 29 at 2016 9:06 AM

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Never be afraid to ask for advice from both superiors, and subordinates

Response by WO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 9:09 AM

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"Don't expect what you don't inspect"

Response by SSG Charles Jordan made Mar 29 at 2016 10:09 AM

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Don't ask people to do something you won't do yourself. They will respect you more and be more responsive to you

Response by MSgt J D McKee made Mar 29 at 2016 10:21 AM

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"You do really good work when you want to do the work. You should learn to do the work you don't want to do just as well". From one of the best leaders (commander) I ever knew, to me. It did sink in. He probably never realized what an effect that had.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 10:25 AM

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Mine came from my Bn Cdr, LTC Spigelmire, later a LTG. He told us to do our jobs as we were trained, take care of our troopers, KNOW you WILL make mistakes, learn from them and never repeat them. Do not let your boss get blindsided by one of your mistakes, tell them before they get that call about your mistake. Learn from it, do not repeat it and take care of your troops. If you are not making mistakes then you are not doing your job.

Response by SFC Antonio Nieto made Mar 29 at 2016 10:44 AM

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Always say no take time to analyzed the situation after doing so come back and change your answer or give further information on why you say no

Response by MSG Jan Glock made Mar 29 at 2016 11:15 AM

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From CSM Betty Rice: "Surround yourself with excellence; push yourself up from below; train your replacement; and network, network, network!"

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 11:23 AM

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One of my Chiefs told me a long time ago... Get to know your people. Find out what motivates them, find out who they are leaving behind and make sure they are communicating (be mindful of OPSEC), remember that it is ok to be friendly outside of working hours without being their friend (be mindful of fraternization.)

Response by LCpl David Haskett II made Mar 29 at 2016 11:25 AM

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"You argue with a fool, you get what you deserve"

Response by CPL Mark Mitchell made Mar 29 at 2016 11:44 AM

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Don't ever try to make your subordinates do things you yourself would never do-meaning if the task is something that you would not do ever do not expect others to do it. And do not belittle them as negative reinforcement does nothing but create problems later.

Response by GySgt Ken Norwood made Mar 29 at 2016 12:09 PM

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When I was a you g Sgt and was getting promoted to SSgt I understood I would become a professional Marine Ora career Marine, if you will. I sought out the counsel of Marine SNCOs I knew whose leadership wS obvious to me. I received all kinds of advice but none struck score with me. Then a MGySgt said, "Do you think SSgt A is a good SNCO?" I said yes I did. "Do you think SSgt B is a good SNCO?" I said certainly not. "Good. Do what the good ones do and don't do what the bad ones do!" You have seen good & bad leadership in action. Follow the examples set by the good leaders and do not follow the example set by the bad ones.

Response by CPO S Raulerson made Mar 29 at 2016 1:05 PM

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A good Master Chief once told me you are entitled to a bad day, what you are not entitled to is to share that S#!+ with your Sailors.

Response by SPC Alex Yukna made Mar 29 at 2016 1:45 PM

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The greatest piece of advice I have ever received you can not shove a square peg in a triangle hole with out some serious damage to the peg or structure. Always think outside of the box. I have noticed soldiers including myself at one time struggling, then caught in bad leadership which creates toxicity. From thier it's human nature a spriral out of control, overwhelming and placing a target on thier back from all angles multiplying issues. With leadership thinking that tough love and making that person the gopher wearing down making that target larger. Greatest success I had and i have tested on soldiers later on was to remove them from that AO to a different section no bulls eye on the back, visited often reinforcing the value of a second chance passing on the knoweledge you gained when once standing in thier boots.worked for me, than 3 others so far that I noticed and persuaded the powers that be to try my theory. Glad to say they flourished and later returned to thier section redeemed and successful to awards standing out to become the pride of that section. I can only hope this gains traction through tradition from those whom I got helped from, whom I helped and the ones who need this help.

-Yukna Alexander
E4 Mafia vice chairman

Response by SSgt Joshua Drobil made Mar 29 at 2016 2:21 PM

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I think Sun Tzu has a few good quotes on this question -- "A Leader leads by example, not by force." AND "Treat your men as you would your own beloved sons. and they will follow you into the deepest valley."

HOWEVER, he also has great advice for predicting outcome of battle, which I believe is just as important for a leader to recognize. "If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle."

Response by SFC J Fullerton made Mar 29 at 2016 2:49 PM

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When in charge, be in charge. Leadership by example. Sometimes, the hardest person to lead is yourself.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 4:51 PM

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If I were to only allowed one piece of advice to pass on, it would be to never forget what it is like to be a lower enlisted soldier. As in, uninformed, talked down to, looked at and treated like you are incapable of accomplishing things based on the rank you wear. Remember how it feels to be you, right now, and do your best to improve the lives of those that fall into your charge when you get there. If you can make it so your soldiers actually want to put their boots on in the morning, you're doing very good. If they dread tightening the laces, you've entered a portion of leadership that you don't want to be in and is very hard to get out of.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 5:56 PM

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Always remember where you started. Lead by example, never expect those under you to do something you can't do yourself. Always listen before making assumptions. Know your job.

Response by SSG Greg Rivera made Mar 29 at 2016 6:01 PM

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I was wha used to be called a "fast tracking NCO" E-5 in 2 1/2 years, E-6 in 4 1/2 and E-7 list at 10. I took great pride in taking care of soldiers and have them follow me but I was under the wrong impression that I had to make a scene and yell in front of everyone to validate my "toughness" and my leadership until one day at around 2002 when I was an E-5(P), I was stationed in Bamberg Germany , I went to the thrift shop and was going through the books being sold and ran into a book called "Leadership Secrets of Colin Powell" I bought it and read it and from that point it changed my life. One of the biggest things the book said was not to belittle my soldiers or make "scenes" in front of people and instead use the principle of "Praise in public, punish in private" immediately I applied it because I kew it was my biggest issue as well as applying many of the principles in the book and quickly I noticed that my soldiers respected me more, did more for me and had my back much better than before and would follow me anywhere I asked to and I quickly learnedI was on my way to a much better career. I told you this long boring story to tell you that if you can find that book on Amazon or anywhere, get it. I will absolutely help you in all phases of your civilian and military leadership.

Response by SSG Greg Rivera made Mar 29 at 2016 6:03 PM

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I was what used to be called a "fast tracking NCO" E-5 in 2 1/2 years, E-6 in 4 1/2 and E-7 list at 10. I took great pride in taking care of soldiers and have them follow me but I was under the wrong impression that I had to make a scene and yell in front of everyone to validate my "toughness" and my leadership until one day at around 2002 when I was an E-5(P), I was stationed in Bamberg Germany , I went to the thrift shop and was going through the books being sold and ran into a book called "Leadership Secrets of Colin Powell" I bought it and read it and from that point it changed my life. One of the biggest things the book said was not to belittle my soldiers or make "scenes" in front of people and instead use the principle of "Praise in public, punish in private" immediately I applied it because I kew it was my biggest issue as well as applying many of the principles in the book and quickly I noticed that my soldiers respected me more, did more for me and had my back much better than before and would follow me anywhere I asked to and I quickly learnedI was on my way to a much better career. I told you this long boring story to tell you that if you can find that book on Amazon or anywhere, get it. I will absolutely help you in all phases of your civilian and military leadership.

Response by PO3 Maria Flasher made Mar 29 at 2016 6:28 PM

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I was in the Navy for about 10 years and was one drawn into a conversation by a command level master chief (CMC/E-9) who once gave me the best advice I have ever had. He told me, simply, that "a good leader struggles with you." I didn't understand what that meant until my chain of command changed. Until then the only "leaders" I had met were the "do as I say, not as I do" sort. After the turn over was complete I found myself surrounded by people who truly card about me, about my ability to be successful and obtain rank, who challenged me and supported me, and who showed me every day that I was someone worth their time and effort. That is the kind of leader I have always made the effort to be and the kind of leaders I challenge others to be.

Response by MSgt Eric Viebrock made Mar 29 at 2016 7:26 PM

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"Inspect what you expect". Give the young Marines a mission then follow up and check their work. If they screw it up show them how to do it right. Make sure they understand. And always lead by your own example.

Response by SFC Mikael Boyd made Mar 29 at 2016 7:32 PM

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I had a old school 1sgt that told me to be a good leader you have to be a good soldier first

Response by SSgt Hal Longworth made Mar 29 at 2016 7:59 PM

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The best advice that was given to me was, "Take care of your people and they will take care of you," and, "Never ask them to do something that you wouldn't do yourself." Yeah, it's Old School, but it works. It worked well for me in military life and civilian life. Respect is earned; only respect for the rank is a given.

Response by CSM Richard Montcalm made Mar 29 at 2016 8:00 PM

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Never let the sun set on an unpaid or unfed Soldier.

Response by SFC Espi Espi made Mar 29 at 2016 8:46 PM

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You are never as good as you think or as bad as others believe

Response by SGT James Bretney made Mar 29 at 2016 9:22 PM

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You learn more from bad leaders than you do from good leaders.

Response by SGT Tim Fridley made Mar 29 at 2016 10:08 PM

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Best advice I ever got was never asks your people to do what you will not do yourself and treat your people the way you would like to be treated

Response by SPC Jerry Corwin made Mar 29 at 2016 10:27 PM

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if you are the one in charge Be in charge But not do it a way that shows that you are a ass hole You have to learn it watch other People in charge & learn the right way

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 10:28 PM

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Don't believe anything a leader tells you, read the regulations so you can know what's truly right or wrong.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 29 at 2016 10:30 PM

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My retired BN CSM once told me: "Do not believe anything a leader tells you, including me, read the regulations to know for yourself what is truly right and wrong."

Response by PV2 Glen Lewis made Mar 30 at 2016 12:56 AM

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I never was in a position to use this while in the Army but I was once told by one of my bosses to never require anything of anyone that you wouldn't do yourself. It proved to be very valuable to me when I went into business for myself.

Response by CAPT Michael Kennedy made Mar 30 at 2016 6:55 AM

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Two 3 liners that may stick with you:
First
1 - Be worthy of those you lead
2 - Be a corporate asset
3 - Prepare the next generation
Second
1 - Mission First
2 - People Always
3 - All with a heavy dose of humor!

Response by SSgt Tommy Brown made Mar 30 at 2016 7:10 AM

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To mind my own business comes to mind for me.

Response by PO2 Charles Bonilla made Mar 30 at 2016 7:36 AM

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None. My Chief on D-Gar was exemplary in word and deed. To this day I try everyday to lead as he did. He truly led by example.

Response by GySgt Ascencion Gomez, D.S.L. made Mar 30 at 2016 7:54 AM

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Try the "One minute manager" and leadership from a Christian perspective a book titled "Leadership is Hell, How to manage well and Escape with your soul" both books have very good advice and techniques for handling/approaching troops or civilian subordinates. As a new SSgt my Sqd--SgtMaj gave me the best advice I've received to date. He said, "The troops will follow you, even your stupid orders as long as you are teaching them something, the moment they realize you are screwing with them is the moment you lose them." He also said, "Be approachable and don't let your ego get in the way of the mission." I've done my best to keep those perspectives in mind. I teach undergraduate leadership and management classes and the foundation of my teaching has those two perspective as part of my teaching.

Response by CPO David Sharp made Mar 30 at 2016 8:27 AM

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PV2 Wilcox, Two of the bits of insight I received which stayed with me were; You have two ears and one mouth, use the equipment proportionately and remember YOUR first day on the job. There are many approaches to leadership, walk the path which works and feels correct for you. Regards

Response by SPC James Shackelford II made Mar 30 at 2016 8:40 AM

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When one leads, you must inspire & this can not be done from the back. To lead one must show the others an example to follow.

Response by Sgt Joseph Kloss made Mar 30 at 2016 8:42 AM

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Never mess with a Marines time off or pay unless it's absolutely necessary. There is usually always another way. My personnel experience is leadership is more support after you give an order than actually giving the order. Always back you people up and let them know they can count on you.

Response by CW2 Fred Baker made Mar 30 at 2016 9:06 AM

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Your subordinates should always be your primary concern. The Army always ensures two items are primary and punctual, pay the troops on time and see to it they are fed. As a Warrant, I never considered my rank made me better than my fellow soldiers, only more knowledgeable or better trained for my specialty. There were many times that I helped my crew chief pull intermediate inspection and other maintenance on the aircraft. When we flew VIP flights, we as a crew, waxed the aircraft together. Last June I was in the company of the Chief of Naval Operations, Admiral Grenert, the guest speaker at the American Legion Boys State graduation. "Honesty and integrity in leaders is essential in leadership" was his message. And finally my favorite piece of advice came from BG George S. Patton, son of the famous WW II general. I was assigned to him when he finished flight school as his Aircraft Commander. The assignment including accompanying him to several functions aptly named a "Dinning In." He told me to drink little and observe others as they drink. A person's true character is often exposed with the aid of alcohol.

Response by PO2 Gerry Tandberg made Mar 30 at 2016 9:32 AM

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LISTENING. Learn how to listen before opening your mouth. This was one of the most valuable lessons I ever learned. I can't remember exactly who first gave me this advise, but I do remember it was advise given to me often and by people who I looked up too. The second piece of advise I was given was have PATIENCE; probably because I didn't much of that too, but I eventually learned to LISTEN PATIENTLY.

When you start listening more you eventually find out your not as smart as you thought you were. Just about every opinion I had as a young adult has either changed or I determined my thought process might have been right, but for the wrong reason.

"Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen."

Response by SSG Donald Duplessis made Mar 30 at 2016 10:22 AM

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Get to know your people and always look after them.

Response by COL Mo Fenner made Mar 30 at 2016 11:07 AM

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There are several points to make on this. 1. Lead by example and never forget that the best example is to always do your best whether it is a PT Test or checking accuracy of an intel report. 2. Never criticize in public if there is any other way and never in front of a SM's family. 3. It has been said many ways but never forget to listen to your NCOs. If you let them, they will keep you out of trouble whether you are a 2LT or an E-1. 4. Soldiers first - leaders last when it is about benefits. That includes the chow line or free handouts from USO. Leaders take of their Soldiers first. That doesn't mean that you pull maintenance on their vehicle for them, but it does mean that you make sure that someone is checking on them to ensure that they are not freezing their fingers off in the motor pool. 5. Lastly, a leader's job is to make sure that when you go to war, no one dies. Take care of the things that keep your soldiers alive - like the proper training - and the admin stuff will follow along.

Response by LTC Anthony Boyda made Mar 30 at 2016 11:12 AM

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Care about the people you lead. You can't fake this. If you don't love your subordinates you will only get the minimum in return. Take every opportunity to show you are looking out for them and they will always look out for you. This does not mean bending rules or looking the other way. On the contrary, it means making sure your people get the recognition they deserve (good or bad), are provided opportunities to learn new/additional skills, and are given challenging assignments that show that you have confidence in them.

Learn how to treat people from the bible.

Learn how to do things from regulations and manuals.

Always keep learning.

Response by CAPT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 30 at 2016 11:35 AM

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"mission first, then my service, then my people, then me."

Response by CW4 Russ Hamilton (Ret) made Mar 30 at 2016 12:04 PM

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Lead from the front and set the example.

Response by COL Dan Fuhr made Mar 30 at 2016 12:19 PM

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Reading the excellent responses I find only a couple of things to add:
- Soldiers rise (or fall) to the expectations you have of them.
- Don't counsel someone when you're angry
- Be the first one for the bad stuff and last for the good stuff as often as you can: stand in the door, break the ice when crossing the frozen creek, eat last etc...
- The old saying is "Deeds, not words, " but the truth is Deeds AND words.
- Don't talk bad about your boss even if your boss stinks, it just makes things worse.
- Soldiers take their cue from your attitude, so stay positive. That's why GOA Eisenhauer made a point of smiling in his pictures. If the boss looked worried, then there must be something to worry about.
- Good leaders underwrite the honest mistakes of their people. If the boss brings heat - stand up for your people, then you go and fix it.

Response by Cpl Paul Smith made Mar 30 at 2016 12:40 PM

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Leadership is a process of having others wanting to perform their best to help the team with a goal. As a leader, you need to excite the team to get the work done and offer some direction. But, don't hire people to tell them what to do, instead hire trained people that can do the job and even offer advice to the management. I also like, lead by doing! Never ask someone to do something that you wouldn't do yourself. Back that up with doing some tasks that build team confidence by them seeing your willingness to do the job. Go out of your way to show compassion for your team and let them know you are available to them. Finally, don't micro-manage, it really destroys moral!

Response by CWO3 Jeff Metcalf made Mar 30 at 2016 1:07 PM

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1. Never task your personnel without establishing a deadline. This equates to leading through guesswork and shifts the locus of control to your subordinates.
2. Inspect what you expect.
3. Trust, but verify.
4. When tasking, it's extremely important that you allow your personnel a degree of ownership, meaning: you might be able to perform a task better; however, in doing so, you will exhibit a lack of confidence in your subordinates' abilities when reinventing their wheel.

There is much, much more; however, the best lessons are best learned through experience. In doing so, you must take the time to evaluate a situation after it is happened if you are to garner experience from both your actions and those of your employees.

Warrant

Response by 1SG Patrick Sims made Mar 30 at 2016 1:17 PM

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Treat them like your sons-----Some sons are good---some are a problem----some are just frustrating. In the end you have to lead by example. You should always be friendly and helpful to them, but your not their buddy. Don't let them know to much about yourself. Never complain in their presence. never speak ill of superiors in their presence, regardless of how you feel. When you put on those stripes you're the guy in charge---Also keep in mind there are always a few self-centered assholes who will take advantage of you. don't let it get you down----Keep marching on.

Response by CW4 Scott Hyde made Mar 30 at 2016 1:35 PM

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You have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listening has greater importance than speaking. If you do neither well, you will certainly fail.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 30 at 2016 1:44 PM

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if i didnt care about you, you wouldn't be hear

Response by SSG Bill Cooke made Mar 30 at 2016 2:38 PM

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If you are properly trained and know how to do the job. Then get the job, lead by showing others to get the job done and then do the job and then report on how it was all done. Could take some time but then training those under you does take time for them to gain experience and get the job done right.

Response by LTC George Morgan made Mar 30 at 2016 3:04 PM

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"I am the Leader." Hmm, sounds good if it's you, but now ask yourself "Why am I the Leader?" Look back at what you went through to get where you are now and recognize the fact that you didn't do it on your own. What were the qualities of the people who trained you? What made you listen to that E5 or that O2 but not really absorb the manner of that E7 or that O5? Rank doesn't mean they know everything!
Yes you can read and learn a lot from books on "Leadership," but if you didn't read the training manuals and get the SOPs down pat, if you didn't REALLY learn your job both up hill and down, and then from the middle to the flanks, your soldiers, airmen or sailors are going to know it and you have lost from that point on.
Clichés maybe, but: Self knowledge, respect for all, always participating and Leading from the front thereby demonstrating your knowledge and self-worth are all attributes that engender respect and regard for you from your "Team."
Parade is 0600: If your not there at 0550 - You are late.
If they are not there by 0555 - they are late!
If your kit is not up to standard i.e. You are not the best dressed - You are not setting a standard.
In the field: Are you observing the level of hygiene from your "Team" that will keep them Healthy and fit to perform their assigned duties? Are you setting the standard in this regard?
When they bedded down last night - Did you walk the line and check on each individual, those who could sleep and those who are standing post?
Never discipline a "Team Member" within ear shot of his comrades, but praise openly and often.
Teach, but also be prepared to be taught, by them.
You may be the "Leader" but it will be your personal qualities, standards, knowledge, ongoing experience and advanced training that will not only keep you there, but also help you to advance!
I could go on but I feel I have made my point, except in one important regard:
Know your "Team," let them know you care about them individually and as a "Team." Never forget to socialize and have fun with them!
Good luck.

Response by SGM Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 30 at 2016 5:28 PM

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Don't F it up

Response by CPT Chris Newport made Mar 30 at 2016 5:54 PM

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Leadsby example and know their jobs as well as your own.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 30 at 2016 8:04 PM

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One of the pieces of advice I received from a very good squad leader when I was a team leader was, you can lie to your friends, your girlfriend or your wife. But don't lie to me. I have to keep you alive in combat. This was not directed at me, but at another soldier in the squad. It has stuck with me all these years, and I am now retired for five+ years!

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 30 at 2016 8:33 PM

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Never give up, because your going on to something better things.

Response by COL John Hudson made Mar 31 at 2016 8:42 AM

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PV2 Lisa Wilcox. I began my 30 year career as an Army PVT E-1, Infantry. I retired as a full Colonel having been Enlisted (to E-7), Warrant Officer, and Commissioned Officer. I advised my 1Lt Air Force daughter that the best way to 'lead' is to walk in other's shoes...be Enlisted first, then Officer. Also, the best 'lesson' I ever learned was to watch someone screw up badly, then promise myself that when my turn came to never do it the way that individual did. My daughter did both - was Enlisted for five years then went to Air Force Officer School and uses the lessons she learned from failures of others to find success in her own endeavors. I'm happy to report she is highly respected by all she comes in contact with. Hope this helps. JCH

Response by PO2 Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 2 at 2016 4:20 PM

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There's really no blue prints of how to lead troops there's tips and advice but my best advice is take everything you've liked about leaders you've had and try to emulate that and don't emulate things you didn't like but my number one thing when I first met my fire team is if you NEED something I'll do what I can to get you what you need you can't give them everything they want but do everything you can to get them what they need

Response by CSM David Hopkins made Apr 3 at 2016 8:22 AM

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The absolute best advice I have ever received is very simple, "concern yourself with your part of the Army and make it the best that you can". You cannot control what is outside your realm of influence so unless someone that can asks your opinion, don't waste the time and energy worrying or complaining about it. Take care of what you have control of and make it better.

Response by SGT Lonnie Patrick made Apr 3 at 2016 1:09 PM

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Lead by example, don't ask or require work from others without some form of understanding or knowledge of that work you've asked to be done. This knowledge will help you to understand what is required to accomplish the task and it will give those who are under your leadership the impression that you do not work from disregard of or ignorance in the situation.

Response by SFC Russell Shaw made Apr 4 at 2016 3:27 PM

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Leadership is a pretty broad term but what it boils down to is this. Leadership is influence nothing more nothing less. Best I advice I have received and can pass on for leaders is concentrate and develop your ability to influence others and the leader in you will begin to emerge. If you do not influence others you are just out for a walk because no one is following.

Response by 1stSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 14 at 2016 10:50 AM

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These are what Marine Leaders live by: Our leadership traits and principles.
Marine Corps Leadership Principles and Traits

Marine Corps Leadership Principles
• Know yourself and seek self-improvement.
• Be technically and tactically proficient.
• Develop a sense of responsibility among your subordinates.
• Make sound and timely decisions.
• Set the example.
• Know your Marines and look out for their welfare.
• Keep your Marines informed.
• Seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions.
• Ensure assigned tasks are understood, supervised, and accomplished.
• Train your Marines as a team.
• Employ your command in accordance with its capabilities.

Marine Corps Leadership Traits
• Dependability
The certainty of proper performance of duty.
• Bearing
Creating a favorable impression in carriage, appearance and personal conduct at all
times.
• Courage
The mental quality that recognizes fear of danger or criticism, but enables a man to
proceed in the face of it with calmness and firmness.
• Decisiveness
Ability to make decisions promptly and to announce them in clear, forceful manner.
• Endurance
The mental and physical stamina measured by the ability to withstand pain, fatigue, stress
and hardship.
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• Enthusiasm
The display of sincere interest and exuberance in the performance of duty.
• Initiative
Taking action in the absence of orders.
• Integrity
Uprightness of character and soundness of moral principles; includes the qualities of
truthfulness and honesty.
• Judgment
The ability to weigh facts and possible solutions on which to base sound decisions.
• Justice
Giving reward and punishment according to merits of the case in question. The ability
to administer a system of rewards and punishments impartially and consistently.
• Knowledge
Understanding of a science or an art. The range of one’s information, including
professional knowledge and an understanding of your Marines.
• Tact
The ability to deal with others without creating offense.
• Unselfishness
Avoidance of providing for one’s own comfort and personal advancement at the
expense of others.
• Loyalty
The quality of faithfulness to country, the Corps, the unit, to one’s seniors,
subordinates and peers.

I hope this helps. It helped me when I needed it.

Response by SSG Roger Ayscue made Dec 6 at 2016 2:09 AM

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Leaders Lead...From the Front...ALL the time...Never for their own glory, but always for their men. Never will a leader use his position to make his situation better. Never will a Leader take from his men. A Leader Eats last making sure that all the men are fed first. New equipment goes to the men first...Get the picture?
It never failed me....not one time.

Response by CWO3 Jeff Metcalf made Mar 7 at 2022 11:05 AM

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1) Strengths-Based Leadership
2) 7 Habits, Covey
3) Team of Teams
4) Leaders Eat Last

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 7 at 2022 5:58 PM

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I can get anybody to do anything by talking to them.
You only get fear and resentment by yelling at them
As in. We need to get this done, lets see what it will take. Good job.
Or
GO DO THIS NOW!