Posted on Jun 8, 2014
Cpl David Garcia
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Not to be biased but I used to just say, “Lonely Marine Syndrome”. From what I noticed throughout my two terms as an enlisted grunt is that the those who have not peaked in high school have an easier time through boot camp but not so much afterward. Townies such as black widows, strippers, and scallywags prey on young warriors whom suffer the disease of loneliness and promise a good life that is plagued with nonsense and bull-spit. My old command used to say, “Did she pass the float test?” in regard to a young fiancée brought into the unit’s presence. This meant if the warrior has at least gone on one deployment while in a relationship with said fiancée.

Is it up to a command to interfere with the marital decisions of a junior enlisted warrior? When do good intentions become a line crossing into a “grown” individual’s career and life? What are the boundaries?
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Cpl David Garcia
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Sometimes the old cliche, "If the Corps wanted you to have a wife they would have issued you one" makes sense.
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"Joe" loves dating strippers and buying new cars. I have seen and heard both. And we all know someone who got married RIGHT before deploying. I have yet to meet one that came back to a faithful spouse. Some did not even make it past mobilization site before they got a divorce. I think as leaders we need to tell these stories to advise these Soldiers, BUT it is ultimately their call. Many of them (and some of us) think well that will never happen to me.....
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Cpl David Garcia
Cpl David Garcia
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I presented the topic through experience and on my second deployment I was filing for a divorce along with a half dozen or so Marines whose wives did not pass the qualifications of a model spouse. It was sometimes embarrassing for the 1st Sgt to tell "boots" to go speak with Cpl Garcia before getting married but he was on to something. Although I was going through a failed marriage that was affecting my military career it was good to at least guide young warriors of the larger cons than pros of getting married.
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SSG (ret) William Martin
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CPL Garcia, Let me get this straight, you are speaking of providing our young service members (SM) with pretty much life experience advice? I do that all the time. As a 37 year old man, many of my young soldiers are young enough to me by nephews and nieces and the advice I give them is one coming from a leader, two, I am giving them advice and looking at them as if they are my own flesh and blood. I am not talking about how to shoot a rifle or how to read a map. I want to make sure if I am available that they are making the right choices when buying a car or if I am aware they are dating a person who is known to be a library of STDs and a barracks whore.
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Cpl David Garcia
Cpl David Garcia
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Then SSG you are a proper role model. Not many Staff NCO's provide guidance when it is needed. Then again not many junior enlisted listen when advice is given too. Most times I only speak for myself as opposed to a general sense and when I was experiencing my failed marriage the advice I received was to pay child support because it would easier and cheaper. Granted that it was an easier route but not the right one. No other pros or cons were given and if I took that easier route my son, who I have full custody of today would be stuck with my ex-wife who makes the wrong decisions at all times.

I believe that if you take strong interests with the junior ranks as you do then the minds of those who you are in charge of will be clear for mission orientation instead of what sally-rotten-crotch and Jody are doing.
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