Posted on Jul 4, 2014
When did bullying, degrading, & shear embarrassment became a form of communication?
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I am so tired of seeing 'so call' leaders bully, degrade, & embarrass others & think it's a form of communication. We are at a lost if this continues to happen. Just because you have the rank or left in charge does not mean you're a leader. When we speak to others who are lower ranking than you with disrespect think to yourself, "Would I speak like this to a higher rank?" At the end of the day, I would rather someone respect me for who I am than the rank I wear.
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Edited 10 y ago
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I will only say this: Praise in PUBLIC. Chew ass in private. Bullying is not chewing ass. Demeaning is not chewing ass. Embarassing.....there's a time and place to embarass someone with the results of their failure...but again, time and place.
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It is not and it never has been ok. The old axiom of praise in public and punish in private is as relevant in the military as it is in the public sector. The degrading and embarrassing language that is reinforced by the movies and TV is part of the reason we are having an issue with recruitment. Few parents want to send their kids into the military with that in their heads. Respect goes along way.
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I completely agree. I have seen soldiers complain about being corrected for a failure. This is not the civilian world. I don't care if I hurt your feelings nor should I. I care about the mission and that soldiers failures to accomplish it.
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MSG Sommer Brown
I don't know, but I think people think that it is perfectly ok these days. I am not sure if it is a change in parenting, morals, values or something else. I truly don't know what has changed in society but I feel that several things have suffered like respect for others, manners, acceptable media, acceptable vocabulary, work ethic, selfless service, servitude, and just general sense of what is right or wrong. This is hard to measure since it can be somewhat personal views/interpretation but just wondered if others saw the same lacking communication skills. Glad to see someone things it has diminished over time.
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I've been on the receiving end of this sort of treatment, SGT(P) Gloria Francis, so I know just what you mean and I agree. I think people resort to that sort of behavior when they are "in over their heads" or when they are challenged in some way. When I was last treated like that, I think it was because my "leader" felt intimidated by my expertise in a particular area, an area in which he fancied himself an expert.
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SGT(P) Gloria Francis
Wow, CW5 Scott Montgomery, that is so unfortunate. A true leader understands that everyone brings something to the table. With your experience, I would think your leader really missed out on your expertise. The best mentors I've ever had were Warrants. They challenged me everyday.
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I know from experience that there are NCOs and Officers who lack the ability to communicate effectively. I suppose their shortcomings as leaders cause them to overreact and come across as aggressive and abusive. With better training and mentoring early in their careers this can be avoided or at least minimized in its severity.
Or maybe they are just jerks who were promoted into leadership roles. I knew plenty of those, too.
Or maybe they are just jerks who were promoted into leadership roles. I knew plenty of those, too.
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