Posted on Nov 3, 2016

Divorced, moving to the barracks, have visitation rights. How did you deal with this situation?

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MSgt Lisa Silva

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So many of our honorable service members falsely accused and convicted. Thanks for sharing Maj Martin, it's a damn shame what you had to go through, I hope you get True JUSTICE in your case!

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Quick facts: Divorced, Split custody, stationed in Germany, ex-spouse local national, ex and son live in the same area, housing denied ETP for housing, moving out of house and there is no available storage. Honestly it's not looking so bright right now. I won all of the furniture in the house and I have 8 years worth of stuff that is in there. I have a week and a half to move out and there is my major problem. No storage available. Local storage is possible but I am having a hell of a time finding any. Second is housing denied my ETP to keep my house in order to keep my visitation rights. My divorce decree states that I have split custody but does not specifically say 180 consecutive days. Housing said it needs to say that but my lawyer said they do not put that in there. No clue why besides him just saying that. So my only option right now is to pay for a hotel room off post here in Germany every other weekend. This is gonna get expensive as I will be paying in Euro and not Dollars. So every other weekend I have my son plus the one day a week I get to visit him also, I have him on holidays since my ex works a security job. So it seems as if the future is looking gloomy right now because of the child support and costs of renting hotels to see my son. Not looking for sympathy but just wanting to see if anyone can shed some light on what I can go about doing to help ease the situation.

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SPC Erich Guenther

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OK, I realize I am an old guy thats been out of the Army for decades but have been online for a while and have read other Soldier posts. I ran into another Soldier that was online but stationed at Ft Eustis about 4 years ago and he was able to retain his off post housing allowance because of the visitation rights deal (same rank as you). Did you ask your Chain of Command about this and lay it out as a financial hardship to yourself? Ask your Chain of Command how exactly they expect you to rent a hotel all the time or have the kid in the barracks? I think if you make a case your 1SG should support you.

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SSG (Join to see)

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Yea I made them aware that it would cause hardship on me but Housing are the ones who denied it. My CoC knows too so they said there was nothing we could do

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SPC Erich Guenther

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SSG (Join to see) - OK I think I understand better now that I read your first post again, Housing is rejecting it because in the divorce decree it does not state 180 days visitation rights? If that is the problem, there has to be a way around that via your lawyer (probably the way the Army Housing wants you to go). Why can't your lawyer negotiate adding the clause? (that's his job). Did you explain to your lawyer the repercussions to you? You know seriously, this is one of these issues you need to push back on either via your Lawyer or informing your CoC your going higher up the chain. Up to you though. I would not bring my kid into a Army barracks environment, first thing they are going to pick up on is the profanity. Seems to me you have the leverage in your hands with a fairly clear argument this is not right.

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Pretty much everyone in my CoC says I'm SOL. Housing in Germany is hard to come by I guess. I'm in the NCO barracks so it shouldn't be too bad for him. Also my lawyer said to my point blank that he cannot out in the decree that I have my son 180 consecutive days. I think thats BS. The divorce is done and I am not sure how I would change the paperwork now.

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