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Never rob time from your family to pay the Army. There will always be work left undone, learn to deal with it by becoming more efficient, not by staying late and working weekends. That's what I always tell my new Career Counselors.
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SFC (Join to see) So I originally made this post for general tips and discussion for the "community", but I actually I appreciate how succinctly you put it. As a reservist, I balanced company command and a high-stakes/high tempo civilian job, but sometimes I thought about how I am missing my daughter's bedtime routine to be on a conference call. Nevertheless, I think if we continued to keep in mind that at the end of the day (when we leave the service or retire from a civilian job), who will be there? Your family and those you love. The Army will keep on being the Army with or without us -- its just a fact of life.
Also, thanks for the emphasis on working smarter and more efficient rather than extending your workdays. I think a lot of younger folks are not quite sure how to balance that aspect of their lives yet.
Christian
Also, thanks for the emphasis on working smarter and more efficient rather than extending your workdays. I think a lot of younger folks are not quite sure how to balance that aspect of their lives yet.
Christian
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CPT (Join to see) that was exactly point. When I first became a career counselor I was overwhelmed by the workload. I worked past 6 most days and came in on the weekends. Sometimes I even worked instead of doing PT. I realized I wasn't forcing myself to adapt and get better, I was just stealing time from myself for the Army. Then my other career counselor buddy told me that he never stays late and never misses dinner with his family because the Army won't be there when he retires. I realized how smart that was
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Something I’ve noticed:
When told to go home... we hang around like kids trying to figure how adults have fun once we go to bed.
There’s nothing to see- leave! Read a book, fish, play PS4, sleep, go to the movies, hang out with friends, family, by yourself, sleep... just get away from the command post once you are cut loose. The rest will figure itself out.
When told to go home... we hang around like kids trying to figure how adults have fun once we go to bed.
There’s nothing to see- leave! Read a book, fish, play PS4, sleep, go to the movies, hang out with friends, family, by yourself, sleep... just get away from the command post once you are cut loose. The rest will figure itself out.
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Every time people see this question, they immediately jump to spending time with family. Which is important, don't get me wrong. BUT, equally important, but almost never mentioned in the worm-like balance equation is "me time." Have one night a week where you can have time AWAY from the family - poker night with the guys, drinks and dancing with the girls, game night at the hobby shop, bowling league, whatever. (And if you have kids, obviously reciprocate so the spouse gets their one night a week, too. If you don't have kids, you can both have the same night.)
Thus is especially hard with the military, as who knows how many nights will be robbed, but it is one of the single greatest things you can do for long-term happiness, AND for maintaining a healthy marriage and avoiding resentment/bitterness over how many things you can't do anymore because of "the old ball and chain."
Thus is especially hard with the military, as who knows how many nights will be robbed, but it is one of the single greatest things you can do for long-term happiness, AND for maintaining a healthy marriage and avoiding resentment/bitterness over how many things you can't do anymore because of "the old ball and chain."
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