Am I a bad NCO or just inexperienced?

They dont feed your or pay you so.....you're there to do a job

This is a good thing! Your CPL and SGT are supposed to be your bulldogs. You want SGTs that you have to reel back in from time to time. As they start to mellow a bit they learn to step back as SSGs. It's better than the alternative, having to push your NCOs to enforce standards and be leaders instead of buddies.

Inexperienced. Just remember that you were chosen over your peers because you performed and had potential. Best advice a platoon ever gave me was this, " Train and lead these soldiers in way you were and help them get to the point you're at." Hard lessons will come as a result. Remember that there are many ways to effectively lead soldiers and being flexible with your style will help you grow. No particular style will ever meet the one size fits all approach. Be fair, hold thier feet to fire, and be willing to learn and grow yourself.

The problem with young people today is that all their life they have been given everything and did not have to work for it. Now they are in the military they think that it’s all fun and games. You must remain consistent in your enforcement of regulations and don’t back away just because some whine about it. Hang in there and know there are those who do support you completely.

I earned my E4, and people thought I would still be average. I didn't get a chance to work with the staff Sgt. He left me on my own. They laughed at me until I told them I was not comfortable, I put one person on report when he told me to go to hell. after that we did unite as a unit and our C.O. gave his approval. Be that bitch,stand your ground,you earned it.

I had a female DS that I looked up to very much. She was small like me but the strongest person I had ever known up to that point. She was not just strong as in physically fit(she was really strong though), she was strong in knowledge, strong in cadence call, she was strong in heart and the list goes on. Anyway, she told me something one time that has always stuck with me. She said “ there’s 2 things you can be as a female in the military, you can be a slut or a bitch.” I always had guys that wanted to date me or do a one night stand kinda thing but I always remembered “you can be a bitch or a slut.” I chose to be a bitch, a strong, independent, don’t need a mans help bitch. When I became an NCO, it was a lot different because those people that were your friend 10m ago are now jealous and are acting like idiots, spreading rumors and wondering if I slept my way to the top. I didn’t let it bother me too much because it wasn’t true. I just kept my cool and basically killed them with kindness. Once they saw that it wasn’t getting to me it drove them bat shit crazy! Hahaha!! So I’d always pick being a bitch rather than a slut any day. I’m not saying that’s all a woman can be in the military, please don’t take it that way. I took the advice and still practice it in my civilian life now. Everything will get better. To me, it’s just like having a bunch of kids that are pushing you to see how much they can get away with, just pushing your limits. I have 2 kids so I knew what I was up against. Lol. You got this grl!!! BTW, congrats on your promotion.

As an NCO, your job is to know the standards and enforce them. At the same time, you have a duty to train - coach - mentor and at time discipline your Soldiers to ensure that your troops are capable of meeting both Individual Tasks and Team tasks... ensuring that when in a crisis situation - your Soldiers will rise above and exceed all expectations in order to accomplish the unit's mission. Should you and your team ever find yourself in a crisis, battle, or wartime situation - they will need a leader more than a friend! However, to wrap this up - the best leaders know how to be professional and friendly, while balancing the time to serve up a boot on someone's backside when they step out of line and do something that brings heat on the team!

Not at all in my eyes(insert rank here) you have standards to uphold as well as the soldiers who are under your command. At times be there buddy but defirentiate between the two n when to be which. So a bad NCO no. Keeping the standard n earning maintaining discipline yea

Being friends with subordinates can affect critical decision making in dangerous situations.

Remember to never make it personal. There will be attempts by subordinates to make it personal, if you let them then it becomes emotional and you start to scorn guess yourself. You are doing the job a particular way because it is the right thing to do.