Be truthful: Marry for LOVE or BAH?

Been married for 11 years. I married for love. My wife and I joke that the next one will be for money...lol

I divorced when I was an E4 and moved into the barracks. It was like getting a pay raise since I no longer had a wife spending more than I made.

Marry for love, it's long term BAH is temporary :)

I think the sanctity of marriage is long lost, not just in the military but overall in America. Historically marriage, births, and deaths were recorded in the towns church, and because the town hall was usually burned (but the church spared) when the town was raided it was accepted as a legal document. Somewhere along the lines this went through metamorphosis into a legal document.

Most gay couples aren't interested in a Christian marriage (at least not a traditional one), they're looking for the same legal rights as a man and a woman getting married. They're not looking to force a southern baptist minister to marry them.

I'm a big fan of separation of Church and state. To ME that means religious groups should be allowed to follow their personal beliefs, even if I don't agree with them. After all, I can become an ordained minister in the church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster for $25 and I fit the *legal* description of someone that can perform a marriage. Does that mean anything to a person's faith? I hope not... I hope the people who join that "church" aren't serious about their "faith".

There needs to be a simple legal document that says "If I die you get my stuff, you get to make the call on my end of life decisions in case I'm incapacitated, and if I decide to renege on this agreement you get half my stuff." remove sex from the equation entirely, after all two old widows who have meth-head kids may not be sleeping together, but that legal agreement would serve their needs well.

Churches should free to support families in accordance with THEIR faith. e.g. The pope says birth control is bad, people can choose to be Catholic or not.

My ex husband actually did this shut. Slept with my best friend. Found out from her Facebook

My father in law's soon to be ex-wife (wife's soon to be former stepmonster) has two daughters. One married a guy in the Navy shortly after meeting him. In fact she was engaged to someone else when they got married!

I wonder if they married for love, or if it was for him to get off the ship and for her to get insurance as supposedly she had health issues when they met.

I don't know her or her husband, but they have been married for a while now. So hopefully it's working out for the right reasons, not extra $$$

When I get marry I will marry for love because money comes and go... I don't need no one BAH or TRICARE unlike some military spouse I work hard for what I want.

I married for love...after 20 years of unmarried service.

However, early in my career, I worked with a young airman (let's call him idiot #1) who married so he could live off base. They didn't love each other and never lived together. The girl (idiot #2) told me she married him for the free health care. I PCS'd soon after the union took place, so I don't know what happened to the happy couple, but I doubt the marriage lasted.

Be honest....Marry for LOVE or for BAH??

I got married for the BAH but I had dated her for three years prior to that and really never wanted to get married. It wasn't a contract marriage and I would be with her with or without the money but not married. ("Married" for ten years now)

Even though I know it happens it just absolutely blows me away that the sanctity of marriage is used as a tool to earn income. I guess I'm old school in that way but it is certainly something I could never do.