Posted on Jan 6, 2016
SPC(P) Delcina Myers
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UPDATE 02/12/2021

WOW! This thread really blew up! And people are still commenting (some ruthless) for the past 5 years, so an official update and hopefully this thread dies down, like, completely.

I finally obtained an IST after a year of trying. State of Indiana never sent my paperwork to Missouri, so I had to call IG to figure out what was going on (that's how I found out that Indiana never sent my paperwork - I wasn't showing up on Missouris' roster, and Indiana wasn't showing me on theirs either, just that I had been discharged from Indiana NG). 3 weeks after the phone call, I was officially in the Missouri ARNG. I drilled faithfully for the remaining 4-5 years, and ETS'd in February 2020. I also had a hysterectomy that same month, and I do feel much better now. The previous November I had my miracle baby, as you can read in the update following this one. He is now 15 months old, and my pride and joy.

To clear the air a bit: No, I was NOT receiving pay while I was AWOL - that comment meant I didn't want to lose the money I COULD BE EARNING while drilling faithfully.

I plead my case to my Commander, 1SG, PS and new SL (he was team leader before this stupid mishap). The NCO that told me I was being discharge DID own up to his mistake. A case of mistaken identity (there was another girl in the unit that it was meant for - we looked a lot alike. A unit of that size, I can understand the mistake, however, I guess I should have stated who I was and maybe all of this wouldn't have happened). Also with that being said, I was never previously discharged before, so I didn't know about the paperwork needing to be signed. ALSO with that note, I still haven't received anything about my recent discharge/ETS as of yet, and it has been a year.

Since I had paperwork with me upon my return, it helped my case. Everything from the miscarriage until my doctors release. After the miscarriage, I did supply my unit with a doctors note - that must have been lost in a pile and never submitted, therefore my unit couldn't process an "in-house medical leave" as some could call it, profile, whatever the case. My then Squad leader didn't even pass on the message of my being in the hospital after my miscarriage, as it was the Friday before drill. One would think he would have the brain capacity to do so - no.

I had a very large fibroid on my uterus. I lost my baby when I was 14 weeks pregnant, but registering as I was almost 20 weeks pregnant. 2 weeks prior to the miscarriage, the tumor, as I called it, and the baby were fighting each other for survival. For those who don't understand fibroids, it's basically a mass of cells (benign, non cancerous) that survives off of blood flow, and so does a baby/fetus. The tumor was dying, and so it was trying to fight to survive. It caused excruciating pain, almost paralyzing pain, and honestly, the way Indianas' healthcare system is set up, I couldn't receive the treatment I needed. I had already known about the fibroid a good 3 years prior to this, and upon being assigned a General MD (until 36 weeks pregnant, then the pregnant woman gets referred to an OB/GYN for the remainder of her pregnancy - no choosing a doctor in this instance), but no one was listening to me when I stated that I would be high risk until it was too late. Due to this nature, my uterus wasn't shrinking like a normal one would - prolonging my healing. I did communicate with my SL during this time, he would say "Just keep me posted", not knowing he wasn't passing the message on. Finally I received release paperwork from my doctor, and I immediately went straight to my unit to give them said paperwork, and that is when the NCO told me the "bad news". I was being discharged. So, what I'm curious about, is why you all say I should have given them my phone number or address after being told about the "discharge"? In my mind, I was getting out. No need for future correspondence. Thank god for Facebook, huh? A non-acceptable form of communication really did work out in the end. I honestly don't know why it took the new SL to get ahold of me, I still wonder to this day, but I'm honestly not going to lose sleep over it.

Times were getting tough for us, my then boyfriend/now Husband relocating for work, and us not knowing anyone, no babysitter for the older kids caused us to move to Missouri so we could be with my aging father and take care of him/him take care of us kind of deal. I didn't think giving my old unit my new forwarding address or phone number mattered, as I "thought" I was being discharged. However, if all that didn't happen, I do believe I would still be in that wretched state (can you guys tell I despise Indiana? I was born there, moved her to Missouri in 1996, and moved to Indiana to be close to my biological dad after my mom passed in 2013, AND hopefully get free of my abusive ex-husband (yes, it worked), where I met my current husband). Ironically, 2 weeks prior to our move to Indiana, I ran into my PS at the restaurant I worked at, and he didn't even seem to know about my miscarriage (which should have thrown flags up by his confused look) and he DID come back for me once he realized I was still on their roster, however we had already moved at that time. So yes, he did try.

SOOO... I think that sums it up.

PLEASE, for all things holy, do not respond to this thread.. It is very old, and it gets tiring repeating myself to new comments (which, hopefully with this update being first on the list, you guys won't need to comment).

Was I a crappy soldier? I don't think so. I always did what was asked of me, within reason. Did I stop caring after being AWOL for a year and coming back? Yes. I know I probably didn't "deserve" respect, perse as far what had happened, but there should be a line as to how to treat a soldier no matter what their APFT score is, their height/weight, etc. Some of the leadership in that unit really sucked, and some of those leaders treated others like shite no matter their stance in the unit....

For instance: a PV2 that never had a passing PT test was able to be team leader before a SPC. Doesn't make sense, does it? I'm not sure what the term is... Hazing, maybe? Bullying definitely. Belittling in front of others, etc. that happened quite a bit. Thats not professionalism. So yes, I stopped caring. Because I was the target. From my own squad leader. No matter what had happened, I didn't deserve that. I could have easily taken a dishonorable being so many states away, but I didn't. I went back and tried my hardest to be a good soldier, 12 hour drive one way. There was even a time that I VOLUNTEERED to be on door guard duty for someone so s/he could use the latrine and get something to eat, to NOT be released the entire day and watching all the other platoons and companies of the Battalion be released to go home. No relief. I got a phone call when I was on my way home asking where I was at, and that "You weren't relieved of your duties, you need to come back" My response? "We were released" to be told "No, the unit was released. You were not." Shit ass unit. Sorry for my language. Once I got my IST I never looked back. Even my new unit had to un-f*ck my paperwork that was sent over. The new unit treated me like I was family, like a unit should (IMHO).

Thank you all for reading the new update. Things are going very well for me. So well in fact, that an injury I sustained in BCT/AIT 14 years ago is now being reviewed for VA Disability. Tinnitus was approved, just waiting on the others.



UPDATE 11/15

Since so many people have been responding to this 3 year old thread, and not really reading updated comments, here is an official update:

So, when I returned to my old unit, I have medical documentation, and also provided insight on the miscarriage and baby as well. He would’ve been born with Trisomy 13, which also gives a short life span as well, so in my eyes the miscarriage is kind of a blessing. My commander and 1SG were informed of what happened, made copies of my medical documents, and asked what I wanted. I requested to stay in (since I was originally looking at a hardship discharge due to the pregnancy in the first place, since I was no longer pregnancy and physically/mentally stable, I requested to stay in). At this time, I had an actual discharge packet at state for being unsat, and my CO informed me that if she could pull it then she will, but if not then it would go through and I would receive a general discharge. The following Monday I received an email stating that she successfully pulled the packet.

From then on (that is January 2016) until August, I continued to drive 12 hours one way to drill; I had to miss in July due to family reasons, but I’m August I went up early to make up the July drill. When I was an hour away, I called to make sure someone would be there, so I could sleep in the armory. At this time, I was asked if I wanted to do an IST, I said yes. I was also informed that my July drill had been excused (more non communication from my CoC- go figure). That following September, I was drilling with a new unit in my current HOR state. That unit was scheduled to deploy to Cuba the following summer. I wanted to go. However, my transfer wasn’t complete at that time, come to find out, Indiana has discharged me from their records (so Missouri could pick me up), but never sent the paperwork. From July until September 2017, I was in Limbo - not actively drilling because “I didn’t exist” in ANY states records. I called IG, and within 3 weeks I was on the roster to a different unit (the one I was trying to deploy with had already left, so I found another unit). Currently still in said unit, and on good drilling status.

Since I couldn’t go to Cuba in 2017, there was another unit scheduled to deploy May of this year to Kuwait. I wanted to go as well. And my name was actually on the roster to deploy.

Why didn’t I?

I found out I was pregnant in february; and on 11/3 I delivered a healthy, beautiful baby boy. My miracle finally happened! I had a rough beginning of pregnancy, when I was 6 weeks I went to the ER due to severe cramping (thought I was having a miscarriage again); doctor said it was a blighted ovum (Empty sac) because my HCG/PH levels weren’t as high as they should’ve been. So I went home, waiting to pass the fetus. A week went by, and still nothing.

Come to find out, I was a week behind. So instead of being 6 weeks at that time, I was actually 5 weeks. I still have the tumor, and in the spring time everything will be taken out.

And yes, the fibroid has and still is registering me as pregnant, by the measurement guide. When I was pregnant, I started out measuring at 12 weeks; towards the end I was only a week ahead (measuring).

No, I was not receiving pay while I was absent, and the “warrant” for my arrest was a ploy to get me back, which he didn’t have to threaten with and lie about. I would’ve been back to drill that May if they had informed me of my actual status; but honestly, why would I keep in communication with a unit that is discharging me, and telling me I no longer have to show up? In my eyes, I was done. That unit wasn’t my favorite, so I’m not gonna go back and talk to people like they were my teachers from High School, post graduation.

I had a miscarriage last January, and by not healing quick enough my former Readiness NCO told me that I was being discharged (In April). This past December, My "new" squad leader had gotten ahold of me via Facebook and let me know what was going on, if I didn't show up then I was going to be arrested, et cetera.

What I don't understand, is why didn't my platoon sergeant tell me that I was still on the roster when I saw him in August? I have moved two states away since then, and now I have to travel 12+hours to go to drill.

I need help, I don't know what to do, say, et cetera. I'm in the National Guard, and I was told long ago that article 15 can't be given to National Guard soldiers due to just being one weekend a month. Honestly, I'm scared. I waited a long time to get E4, and I don't want to lose it, nor my pay because I'm hurting as it is.

Any questions, just ask. But I really need advice. I plan on showing up for drill, and I don't want to be discharged, but a part of me thinks this is a set up to arrest me, which apparently there is a warrant for my arrest, and I don't know how to look that up either.

Thankyou.
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PVT Curtis Boone
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Just WOW.lol you're asking for help from everyone, except the one you should be....CHAIN OF COMMAND.
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SFC Ernest Thurston
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Exactly correct! Even if she was a civilian and she had a miscarriage wouldn't she call her boss and explain the situation. She wouldn't call the stock clerk in the back room and expect an authoritative answer. "Gump what's your sole purpose in the Army? To do whatever you tell me Drill Sergeant. Goddamit Gump you're a goddamn genius. " Words to live by PVT Boone. You must have been listening.
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PO1 Anthony Sam
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Good for you glad it went your way
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CPL Steve Freeman
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Maybe, and I'm just spit balling here, but MAYBE you shouldn't have moved so far from your unit. Orrrrr...MAYBE you should request a transfer to a unit much closer to you. The Army didn't move away. You moved away so it's all your fault, not anyone else's. Take responsibility for your actions.
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Ok, the first thing is that your platoon sergeant should have been calling you to tell you what was happening. They told you that you were being separated, but did you actually receive something official like orders or a discharge? If not, then you are still in the NG. You need to go there and get this straightened out. The best way to do that is by being there. There is a systemic failure of leadership here, from platoon sergeant all the way through. Anyway, yes you can get an Article 15 for this. IF they try to give you one, appeal all the way up the chain. Then, you have to make a decision about whether you want to stay in the NG. If you do, then I suggest that you find a unit in your new state and transfer to that unit.
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SSG Tom Montgomery
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Are you aware that any change in duty status requires orders? If you were discharged, you would have had orders. I hate to say it but I think you are trying to play the system.
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SPC(P) Delcina Myers
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Ok, thanks SSG.

Did you not read the entire post, though?
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Cpl Rc Layne
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Appointed place at the appointed time sound familiar?
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SGT Floyd Yates
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you choose to drill you should have transferred to another unit closer it is you job to stay in touch with your unit they are not your parents yes you can get reduced in pay grade
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SPC David Giffen
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The thing is your are not out of the Guard until discharge orders are cut and a NGB Form 22 is filled out.
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MSG Vrs Ncoic
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First of all, then entire first paragraph of you question is completely wrong. If you didn't heal fast enough, then you get a doctors note (I see you are NG) with the injury/illness and prognosis. It's clearly outlined in the regulation. Secondly, you're in the National Guard, they don't arrest you! If you do not show up, you will get a Unexcused Absence letter in the mail (assuming YOU took the effort to update your address with your Unit Administrator, which I'm assuming you did not).
Then you moved (YOU MOVED) nobody moved for you. LOOK AT YOUR CONTRACT. It clearly states that YOU are required to find a new unit if you move.
All of this could be prevented if you simply read. I'm really baffled with the questions on this forum.
Just because you are in the NG does not mean you are exempt from UCMJ, yes you can get an Article 15.
People keep bashing leadership.. guess what, if I don't know where you are after trying to contact you (it's evident that someone was looking for you because the finally found you on FB) this is not a leadership issue. This is a Solder who fails to look up a regulation herself issue then try to blame others. We are adults, she is grown enough to have children.. open a regulation. Be responsible.
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SFC, this is a very old thread that someone found and revived. The issue has long since been resolved in the OP's favor--turns out it actually WAS a unit issue. The OP did everything she was supposed to, and her first TL and RNCO dropped the ball.
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SGT Floyd Yates
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if she could not make drill at her unit should could drill with another unit and have them send in that you drilled i have done it before but called my first sergent and told him i could not make drill
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SPC(P) Delcina Myers
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I did actually submit my paperwork from my dr right after my miscarriage. With the fibroid that I had, healing process was longer. My uterus wasn’t shrinking like it should have; I was 14 weeks gestation when we lost little Alex (what we were going to name him) and I was registering as I was 20 weeks pregnant. I guess the paperwork was lost, like everything else, and nothing was submitted as far as medical leave or the like. My SL didn’t pass it up the COC, and when I finally got my release papers from the dr is when I was verbally informed about my discharge, which the NCO did own up to his mistake and that is why my commander fought for me. So, I WAS trying to do the right thing in the first place. Never being discharged before, how was I supposed to know about signing discharge paperwork? So yes, I could literally play the dumb card in that aspect.

However, this thread is also 5 years old. Since my last update (which I’m trying to figure out how to update again), I transferred a year after this post was created, had a miracle baby 11/2019, hysterectomy 02/2020 and ETSd the same month.

And as of 2 days ago: awarded VA disability for an injury I sustained during BCT/AIT. Not completely done as there are still some items in review, but it’s a start.
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MAJ Richard Cheek
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Well in 1972 I was in the Guard after being in the Regular Army for 2 years. I decided to re-enlist in the regular army. The recruiter filled out all the paperwork sent it to division to discharge me from the Guard. I re-enlisted and reported to Ft Campbell. My first pass that I could get home to turn in my TA50. When I went to the armory everyone said I was AWOL. Seems Division did not inform my unit. I was lucky the paperwork arrived that weekend to my NG Company.
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SPC(P) Delcina Myers
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Sir, Thankyou for your service.

It also seems like the Army has been discombobulated since way before I was even born. Lol.
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