Posted on Feb 3, 2016
Do you take your military mindset out on your family? Does it help or not. What traditions do you bring home to the family??
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My Spouse says that I need to lighten off the military mindset sometimes. I bring too much of work home with me. Without being particular, do you think that having a military mindset at home, brings together a more resilient family when changes arrive? What obstacles have you overcome?
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I try to instill the Army values in my kids. I don't test my family like troops though because they are not.
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That's a good point CPT (Join to see)... Im working on getting the kids to do a bit more DUTY... liek the dishes... and selfless service, like cleaning up toothpaste spit from the sink... They are 8 and 3. Thank you for the reply Sir.
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I did my best not to over the years SSG (Join to see). Sometimes It was more challenging than others to separate military duty requirements from family life. Unfortunately the most difficult times where when my sons were very young.
By the grace of God I changed before it was too late. Now i have a great relationship with my adult sons. One of teh most important things I learned was to ensure my sons knew they wee loved by both parents. I learned to listen more and speak less which yielded many benefits and helped to temper my responses.
By the grace of God I changed before it was too late. Now i have a great relationship with my adult sons. One of teh most important things I learned was to ensure my sons knew they wee loved by both parents. I learned to listen more and speak less which yielded many benefits and helped to temper my responses.
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LTC Stephen F.
SSG (Join to see) - In the mid-to-long run the changes in me did help the entire family - thank God.
FYI ,I adopted a military mindset about 10 years old in 1966.
I developed a mean temper which I wouldn't say was necessarily part of a military mindset. Getting my temper under control required me first to realize I had a bad temper which got out of control when I drank - sometimes. I did some things I regretted early on [I joined the Army in 1974 and married in 1987 when I was Captain in the Infantry]. Being stationed at Fort Benning it was difficult to turn off the military mind when i went home 10 miles north of post. so much of the town was associated with the military it was difficult to switch back and forth. One challenge for me was my new family included a year old son who I adopted after a battle with non-supportive birth father who refused to pay child support or even see his son.
FYI ,I adopted a military mindset about 10 years old in 1966.
I developed a mean temper which I wouldn't say was necessarily part of a military mindset. Getting my temper under control required me first to realize I had a bad temper which got out of control when I drank - sometimes. I did some things I regretted early on [I joined the Army in 1974 and married in 1987 when I was Captain in the Infantry]. Being stationed at Fort Benning it was difficult to turn off the military mind when i went home 10 miles north of post. so much of the town was associated with the military it was difficult to switch back and forth. One challenge for me was my new family included a year old son who I adopted after a battle with non-supportive birth father who refused to pay child support or even see his son.
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So being 10 years old, what your temper the result of other military family members?
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LTC Stephen F.
SSG (Join to see) - upon reflection my rage was response to being molested and threatened with death in crowded swimming pool before I was 9. My military mindset was separate and distinct from my rage. I didn't take out my anger on my birth family I took it out more on myself - doing my best to die young.
As things would have it I survived and enlisted in 1974 as a 12B, got into West Point in 1976 and graduated in 1980 as an Infantry 2LT. I was in trouble regularly from 1972 to 1982 including receiving two article 15s - a company grade in 1975 and general grade in 1982. I had exhausted much of my anger and disgust with myself by the time I married in 1987. I had recognized my need for a savior and accepted the atonement of Christ just prior to marriage. It took some time for my anger to get tempered.
As things would have it I survived and enlisted in 1974 as a 12B, got into West Point in 1976 and graduated in 1980 as an Infantry 2LT. I was in trouble regularly from 1972 to 1982 including receiving two article 15s - a company grade in 1975 and general grade in 1982. I had exhausted much of my anger and disgust with myself by the time I married in 1987. I had recognized my need for a savior and accepted the atonement of Christ just prior to marriage. It took some time for my anger to get tempered.
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Front-back-go, front leaning rest, parade rest, and the 30-minuet ranting speech. All work when they want to act crazy. LOL.
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Try doing a 30 second speach to a 3 year old!!! Althou he does listen better then some privates!!!
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