Posted on Jan 3, 2017
Does anyone out there have a VA paid caregiver who they are in a relationship with?
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would you like to elaborate on the word... relationship...
One of the guys from the respiratory therapy units that came to the House to take care of the CPAO and O2 Concentrators, was a medic in a supporting Unit years ago and we have been going Hunting and Fishing for Years...
One of the guys from the respiratory therapy units that came to the House to take care of the CPAO and O2 Concentrators, was a medic in a supporting Unit years ago and we have been going Hunting and Fishing for Years...
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TSgt Dawn Premock
My fiance is my 24/7 caregiver. I have both physical and mental problems. He is in control of my medications so I don't attempt suicide. He also goes with me to all medical appointments. I am having trouble with the relationship due to his constant anger. I have approached him many times about going to anger management but he refuses. My psychologist also recommended it.
I don't know how to handle it if he is fired by the VA. I don't have anyone else to be my caregiver.
I don't know how to handle it if he is fired by the VA. I don't have anyone else to be my caregiver.
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CDR Kenneth Kaiser
I am not sure about VA, I do know that when we were looking at Long Term Care coverage the question of reimbursing family members who acted as caregivers. That was a legitimate charge although I think the billing rate was less than a commercial source but it made the benefit extend further. The same applied to my brother who has early onset Alzheimer's. Of course now he is in a facility because his disease advanced to the point that he was a danger to himself and others (not physical danger but from a health and safety standpoint. As an aside LTC insurance is something many should look into especially if there are any health issues in the family history. I know that for dementia care givers if the patient is not eventually put into a home where they can get care 24/7, the care giver pre deceases the patient in almost 50% of the cases. An no I do not sell insurance, it is just a factoid I picked up from our support group.
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SFC Wesley Arnold, Jr
TSgt Dawn Premock - I too have seen it referenced to family members as care givers; but I'm not a good source for the details. If your fiancé is soon to be your Ex; than VA "should" be able help you get another caregiver. Other good sources for information are DAV ( Disabled American Veterans ) or WWP (Wounded Warrior Project )
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No. I can tell you, however, that my husband and I applied for me to be his caregiver through the VA and were quickly denied. He's 80% disabled, combat injured, deaf in both ears (wears hearing aids), has a TBI and PTSD that are both combated related as well as having had knee reconstruction surgery and shoulder surgery pending for a torn labrum. The reason he was denied? He is able to remember to eat meals when he's hungry and use the restroom unassisted and holds a job. (You think I am kidding. I am not.) I do however have a friend who's significant other is his caregiver through the VA and is far less injured and has a very low rating and was approved because of sheer luck. It's worth trying/looking into. Just don't get your hopes up.
Edit to add: He joined in 01 and just got out this year. Was an FMF corpsman. During our phone and then in person interviews the questions were very intimate and thorough. It was brought up that I have to leave sticky notes around for him to remember to feed his dog, put gas in his truck, take his medication etc. They didn't care.
Edit to add: He joined in 01 and just got out this year. Was an FMF corpsman. During our phone and then in person interviews the questions were very intimate and thorough. It was brought up that I have to leave sticky notes around for him to remember to feed his dog, put gas in his truck, take his medication etc. They didn't care.
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Kelsey Chlovechok
TSgt Dawn Premock - Good! I hope you have a good experience and get the care you deserve and your caregiver gets the money y'all need as well. He meets all of the qualifications for a caregiver according to the VA guidelines and application process. We got denied anyway. I just wanted to share our story. Good luck!!!
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