Posted on Dec 1, 2016
Has anyone ever been in a screaming match or any altercation with their superiors?
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In my opinion yelling and getting into altercations like that show immaturity and a lack of confidence in your own self. This projects outwards from yourself in a show of force because you can't handle it mentally.
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Yes, I am ashamed to say that I DID exchange heated comments with my Supervisor (Branch Chief, actually!), and in front of witnesses! Our Captain came out of the office to see what the ruckus was about! It had to do with (Mandatory) Club Membership, in order to get Awards, Decs and Performance Reports, all needed to get promoted! One other time, just as I was retiring, happened when a rather obtuse E-9 (sorry, this a-hole was NOT a Chief!), didn't share my rather truthful opinion that "he", a Cop, shouldn't have control of a Civilian Small Arms Weapons Instructor, who was not only smarter, and more skillful than he, but much better looking, as well! I lost ALL respect for this a-hole when he picked up the phone, and disobeyed a direct order from HIS supervisor, that cost me a nice job!
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Yes i hit my e6 in the helmet with butt stock of my weapon because he was trying to stop me from going to my counseling session while in Iraq. I WAS PISSED. Not my proudest moment but again pissed.
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I have never been the one to hold my tongue that is why I am a civil for over 30 yrs, and I still tell my bosses they are wrong
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I have. I was an E6 on recruiting duty. An E7 I worked with was pretty lazy. He was supposed to put the records together before he left the day before. When I came in at 0600 the applicants paperwork was supposed to be ready for me to start looking at their birth certificates, diplomas, etc and start their paperwork. After a few times of asking him to please have everything put together so I could start my job (he didn’t come in till 0730) and this became a real problem I jumped all over him. He jumped right back. He wasn’t my supervisor. The guys I supervised all congratulated me on doing what needed to be said.
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Public head space and timing adjustments are to be avoided. I was involved with only two.
One occured due to a safety violation, where the the NCO essentially refused to let me do it privately, the other was just before we went into combat and an NCO got a bit stupid during an OPORD Briefing.
One occured due to a safety violation, where the the NCO essentially refused to let me do it privately, the other was just before we went into combat and an NCO got a bit stupid during an OPORD Briefing.
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One time, when I had just gotten my SPC. I was a team leader in a Commo unit (they were fast-tracking me to E5), and I was tasked with a retransmission operation; which, I was shit-hot at, and that's what my team Did. Well, I was up on an OP with my section sergeant, scoping out where to set up my antennae, and dude starts talking mad shit! When we were setting up the antennae, he kept trying to tell me how to do it, and trying to show me how to do my job, calling me a dumbass, and saying that I didn't know shit. So, I squared up on him, and said, "look here, sergeant, you and me are the only m*****f*****s up here on this mountain. So you better watch how the f*** you talk to me." (He was a short, Scrappy, Irish guy, and I'm damn near 6ft, and used to be a PT stud) His face turned red, and he looked like he wanted to say something, but he just stormed off and started setting up his own antenna.
When I sorted out all the stuff that he had been throwing everywhere, and got my antenna set up, and then went over and helped him put up his.
Now, I realize that my situation was a bit of a special case, especially since it was never spoken of again, but this SGT actually had a bit more respect for me after that.
When I sorted out all the stuff that he had been throwing everywhere, and got my antenna set up, and then went over and helped him put up his.
Now, I realize that my situation was a bit of a special case, especially since it was never spoken of again, but this SGT actually had a bit more respect for me after that.
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When HTCS(SW) Aaron Beebe got to my (second) ship, he was big on EVERYONE getting ESWS. I was bitter about the pin, because on my first ship I had the entire qual book finished, ready for the board, and they denied me a board because I was "transferring soon" which was just them giving me a big "fuck you". So I just decided I would never work on it ever again. When he first got there, I said, "Fuck ESWS." "Is that your final answer, Petty Officer Janiec?" "Yes, that is my final answer. Fuck ESWS." "Okay then." He sort of nodded and got that schemer look in his eye.
A few months later, the MOOW woke me up late for my SP watch when we were anchored out in Korea. As such, I was scrambling to put on my whites and stopped by my shop on the way down to the boat to take me ashore (we were anchored out). HTCS(SW) Beebe was there, tearing into me over being late for my watch and giving our shop a bad name. So, I yelled back. Or, as I put it when asked by the JAG on board, "I continued the conversation in the same manner in which it started." So, I got put on report for disrespect to a senior (not superior, as SGT Kennedy pointed out) petty officer. When it was time for XOI, I was in my "dress" dungajams and when I got to the MAA office, they said go talk to my department head. CDR Saunders informed me that I was going to be given 30 (50? I forget) hours of EMI as punishment, and my EMI was to work on getting the ESWS qualification. So yeah, HTCS Beebe won. However, rank/friendship restrictions nonwithstanding, I like to think that he and I became good friends after that, because I got the pin and I'm glad I did.
As a side point to the story, when I was on report, awaiting the whole report process and the JAG investigation and eventually XOI like I mentioned above, I had POOW one day at the forward (Chiefs and Officers) exit from the ship. I was in a foul mood, mostly because of the whole being-on-report thing, and I sort of just paced back and forth the entire 4 hours with my hand on the .45 in its holster. HTCS(SW) Beebe came up to leave the ship for liberty, and saw me pacing and when I looked at him and he saw death in my eyes and my hand on a gun? He sort of couldn't turn around and leave fast enough. I kept pacing the rest of my watch, but I swear I had a good laugh over it later that night.
A few months later, the MOOW woke me up late for my SP watch when we were anchored out in Korea. As such, I was scrambling to put on my whites and stopped by my shop on the way down to the boat to take me ashore (we were anchored out). HTCS(SW) Beebe was there, tearing into me over being late for my watch and giving our shop a bad name. So, I yelled back. Or, as I put it when asked by the JAG on board, "I continued the conversation in the same manner in which it started." So, I got put on report for disrespect to a senior (not superior, as SGT Kennedy pointed out) petty officer. When it was time for XOI, I was in my "dress" dungajams and when I got to the MAA office, they said go talk to my department head. CDR Saunders informed me that I was going to be given 30 (50? I forget) hours of EMI as punishment, and my EMI was to work on getting the ESWS qualification. So yeah, HTCS Beebe won. However, rank/friendship restrictions nonwithstanding, I like to think that he and I became good friends after that, because I got the pin and I'm glad I did.
As a side point to the story, when I was on report, awaiting the whole report process and the JAG investigation and eventually XOI like I mentioned above, I had POOW one day at the forward (Chiefs and Officers) exit from the ship. I was in a foul mood, mostly because of the whole being-on-report thing, and I sort of just paced back and forth the entire 4 hours with my hand on the .45 in its holster. HTCS(SW) Beebe came up to leave the ship for liberty, and saw me pacing and when I looked at him and he saw death in my eyes and my hand on a gun? He sort of couldn't turn around and leave fast enough. I kept pacing the rest of my watch, but I swear I had a good laugh over it later that night.
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Had a CO who thought it was cool to swear with every breath whenever he spoke to me. I am not talking about the occasional word but descriptive expletives for every noun that came out of his mouth. He also knew that, tho I was an SSG, I was also an ordained Baptist minister. I respectfully asked him if he could try to refrain especially in the presence of lower enlistees. After one request he lost his temper and "Let em fly" directed at me and proceeded to tell me that I was not a soldier if I didn't swear like one! At the end of the confrontation he asked me if I had anything to say. I proceeded to tell him how much I respected the Office corp and how important I felt it was for officers to be an example of professionalism and military courtesy in every situation and that I expected more of my commander. When it was done there was silence and the 1Sgt, who I never saw enter the room spoke up and said "AMEN, SSG!" The CO walked out of the room but never swore in my presence again. Honestly, I understand that swearing is part of the culture even if I chose not to participate, but what the CO was saying would make the devil blush!
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Nope, never with seniors, peers, or subordinates. Combat medics should be level-headed
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