Posted on Jul 18, 2015
SSG VNicia Young
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PO1 Shahida Marmol
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On my last deployment, we were involved in a collision in the Strait of Hormuz. One week later a woman wrote me on facebook informing me that she was sleeping with my husband. Yes I had issues, but honesly I'm grateful she did that. I obviously left him and I've moved on with my life and so much happier. I pray you don't have to go through anything this bad, and whatever it is, I hope you can work it out.
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Too many relationships have failed due to separation from deployments. As member's of the armed services we experience separation and stresses that are unknown to the general public. Because of the unique nature of these experiences it is hard to get support from normal avenues because there is not that shared understanding or common experiences. Seek out people who have strong values and morals with similar experiences to help.

http://www.militaryonesource.mil/health-wellness/deployment?content_id=268646
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SSG VNicia Young
SSG VNicia Young
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Yes. Not saying my spouse cheated but we either barely talk any more or when we do talk or video chat we argue.
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SSG VNicia Young
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The bigger question is what actually helps you get through it when your already dealing with a lot
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PO1 Shahida Marmol
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SSG VNicia Young - I think remembering that they aren't the cause of your stress. Many times we project our attitudes onto our loved ones because we think they will get over it. Talk about things relevant between the two of you. Don't hold in your feelings either. You are more likely to blow up over something small. And sometimes it's better to let them vent as well. Yes your job is stressful, but that doesn't invalidate how they're feeling as well.
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