Posted on Jul 28, 2014
How difficult was it for you as a parent to send your child off to College?
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My daughter is on her way to Texas State University. Over the last few weeks I have been a bundle of nerves preparing my daughter for the trip. What were some things you focused on with your children?
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1SG Reyna, Are you going with her to get her settled? If so its important that you see what her support group will be and they meet and see you. Make it a point to write down POC's as you get her settled. And when she get's frustrated with some situations you keep her motivated. Do you have family who live near to provide her support? A joint bank account to track her spending will help also.
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When sending my kids to college, I mainly focused on ensuring that they understood that I would still be there to support their efforts even though they were miles away. Besides the obvious financial support, I gave them as much social advice and mentoring that I could, trusting that they would make sound decisions based on how we raised them. They made mistakes here and there, but they always knew that I was just a phone call away always willing to help them to help themselves. The challenge for me was to understand when helping them required giving them the help they needed as opposed to simply giving them the help they wanted.
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Good point. Yes, I was stateside. I absolutely agree that being OCONUS could present its own challenge, but considering that HI is one of our states, one would think that administrators would still work with parents and potential students.
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The biggest thing I had to do was trust my daughter, Although I didn't raise her throughout her teenage years due to myself and her mom getting a divorced. I knew she was raised properly. I also knew that she wasn't going go crazy once she left home. Now I'm not naive, I know, almost all kids try news things once they leave home, but I believe the foundation you set for them all while their growing up plays a key role in just how much they are willing to experiment. I would suggest that you simply trust your daughter to do the right things while in school. I suggest that simply because you raised her the way you thought you should from birth all the way up until now. Now it's time for her to leave home and become her own young lady. (I know she is always going to be your baby) Just know that you have laid the foundation for her to follow and if and when things get rough or if it's just something she is not sure how to handle she can call on you.
The biggest thing I had to do was trust my daughter, Although I didn't raise her throughout her teenage years due to myself and her mom getting a divorced. I knew she was raised properly. I also knew that she wasn't going go crazy once she left home. Now I'm not naive, I know, almost all kids try news things once they leave home, but I believe the foundation you set for them all while their growing up plays a key role in just how much they are willing to experiment. I would suggest that you simply trust your daughter to do the right things while in school. I suggest that simply because you raised her the way you thought you should from birth all the way up until now. Now it's time for her to leave home and become her own young lady. (I know she is always going to be your baby) Just know that you have laid the foundation for her to follow and if and when things get rough or if it's just something she is not sure how to handle she can call on you.
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