How do you deal with the loss of a loved one while deployed and can't go home?

I had a Soldier once when we were deployed to Afghanistan got the happy news his wife was in labor. We expedited his paperwork and got him moving on e-leave. As I was preparing his paperwork, I noticed the concerned look on SSG G's face. I asked him and he said, "she is only 6 months along". Uh, oh.
We got him down to the ADAG waiting for his flight.
Then a second Red Cross message came down. His wife had died during an emergency C-section. The baby was in trouble. I found the Chaplain and went with as the news was delivered mere moments before boarding a flight. No doubt, it must have been a harrowing 24 hours in the air, in the dark, not knowing all the way to Texas.

He had two weeks to make arrangements to settle his wife's affairs, plan and hold a funeral, fix a family care plan he didn't know he needed, and tend to his premature daughter hanging on in the NICU.
Realizing he needed more time, he requested an extension. It was denied. He had to return to Bagram and request a release from theater.
This was eventually granted, but you can imagine the rage. He was alternately dispondant and furious.
Eventually, he was released early and went home to tend to his family. His little girl pulled through, but had real issues that she will always have to deal with.

I lost track of him and never heard what became of the situation, but I think of him often.

Our Chaplain Corps is trained in bereavement counseling, SSG VNicia Young, I suggest you (or whomever is going through this crisis) find a Chaplain that you trust and talk with them.

The thaught of that happening to a Soldier that is deployed is absolutely heart wrenching. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. I have had Soldiers while deployed in Bosnia and in Iraq that had terrible personal problems on the home front. As a leader in the United States Military while deployed it your primary task to achieve mission success. If you have a subordinate that has significant issues on the home front it is your duty to take the extra time and go the extra mile for that Soldier
If that means something as simple as showing compassion and being that person that is willing to listen and give good advice even if it takes all night every night for a week. YOU MUST BE THERE FOR YOUR SOLDIERS IN THEIR TIME OF NEED, no matter what it takes. This is not only an act of compassion, while deployed it is a life or death necessity. It is your absolute responsibility to ensure that their head is in the game and on a swivel when your team goes outside of the wire.