How do you deal with your wife leaving you while deployed?

This may sound cruel, but guard your heart and mind as you need to focus on the mobilization and your future career / income and being safe. Protect your assests!!!! She's not leaving because you are mobilizing, it's not the career that's in the way, it's other things that you may or may not be able to focus on at the moment. She has to find her way and her ability to cope with whatever problems plague your marriage. I've seen many soldiers give up their career to save a "rocky" marriage... just to have the person leave them anyway. Don't make a decision that will cause you to suffer bigger losses. Good Luck. Chin up, eyes forward.....you will get through this. Seek counseling, talk to a chaplian if you need to, help is available. A bruised heart will heal. Take care.

In the British Army, when the unit deployed to Northern Ireland some of the wives put detergent boxes in the window. The soap was called OMO, and was a code for Old Man’s Out.

I'm sorry buddy. There's no easy way around it. I hope you get the legal aspect worked out as quickly as possible. It's not entirely the same, but my fiance at the time left me 7 months in to my deployment. I found a lot of reconciliation in talks with my Chaplain and friends. I also let my First Line know the next day. I kept up with work around the FOB and wasn't given any leniency, but my First Line was plugged in to what I was going through and helped me through it.

Run her down to the border, cross over and pay the judge.
Viola! You're divorced.

This a hard answer but in the long run you will be better off. It hard to believe this but in a few years you will see how much better life is. There is no time for a cheater. There will never be trust!! Good luck to you. I wish there was a better answer!!

Many people got Dear John and Dear Jan Letters, some people cannot deal with the separation of a family member who goes off to war!

Be the good husband as best you can be and if she does you have a clear conscience, and she isn't worth wasting the brain cells on. With kids involved. be the good ex-husband and Dad. Just my opinion.

As bad as it may sound, count your losses and move on. Try to focus on your job and protecting your team and yourself. Consider it a lesson learned and make better choices in the future. Protect yourself legally and if necessary seek out a professional to talk to. Let her go.