I am concerned that my platoon sergeant is having a relationship with the spouse of one of the Soldiers in his platoon. What to do?

If you have solid evidence that your Platoon Sergeant is having an affair with the spouse that is not theirs...then you have two choices.

1) Do/say nothing and let things be.

2) Report this affair to Leadership. BUT. I caution you to have your feet on solid ground when presenting this accusation (and this is what the Leadership will see it as) to Command

These choices represent the Hard Right or the Easy Wrong. Option 2 can be done is several different ways. You can drop an anonymous letter to your unit command or do it face to face with them. You can do the same thing as previous, only do it with the BN Command Team (if you are concerned of blowback from Company Command Team). If you want to send an anonymous letter, write it up on a computer out of sight of everyone, print it off and regular mail it to your Command address (Company and/or BN) without providing a return address nor signing it. In that letter, include all accurate evidence that you have.

IG is out of the question because they would not touch this issue.

I would also caution to NOT inform the Soldier that is being cheated on. This could lead to something bad down the road. As much as you want to tell them, refrain from. Let Command take care of this.

Do you KNOW or do you SUSPECT?

What is your relationship to the PSG? You created an anonymous account, so it is hard to say. Are you a private in the Platoon? Squad leader? A private in a different Platoon?

You saw this happen to another Soldier - what were the circumstances? Because circumstances change things, a LOT.

Schwarzkopf said that we almost always know what the right thing to do is; the hard part is doing it. I suspect this is true here.


But, regardless of how you move forward, make sure you don't compromise your own integrity. Don't lie for this PSG. But also don't lie against him. If you only suspect, do not pretend that you know.

You better have some pretty solid proof because if you just have rumor and gossip, that's not enough and could potentially be untrue.

If you have SEEN the PSG be inappropriate with someone's spouse, report it. Honestly first I might say something to him or bring it up to one of the other SNCOs to go talk to him and maybe they can get him to end it before a lot of people get hurt.

If there's not any concrete proof though, nothing will happen because nothing can be done without proof like text messages, emails, photos of them together inappropriately.