Posted on Mar 3, 2015
If your teenager decided not to go to school, "just because" how would you respond?
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Well I was bullied a good deal in school and wanted to be home schooled or transferred or something, I hated going. I would be inclined to believe that there was something deeper.
Sadly with the state of our schools these days I would likely encourage my child to leave of their own accord if they felt they were not learning anything except how to pass a standardized test or were being bullied and nothing was being done. The schools of today are not great and I would be open to hearing the opinions of my teenager.
Sadly with the state of our schools these days I would likely encourage my child to leave of their own accord if they felt they were not learning anything except how to pass a standardized test or were being bullied and nothing was being done. The schools of today are not great and I would be open to hearing the opinions of my teenager.
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SGT (Join to see)
My parents never had that problem because I wasn't a disrespectful little shit. If I was, I wouldn't be for long...they would have kicked my ass.
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SFC Christopher Perry
@CPT B, we will have to agree to disagree on this one. I too was bullied quite a bit in school. Unfortunately, in my school my skin was considered the wrong color in the eyes of the majority of the kids attending. Heck, I semi-jokingly say that I did not know I actually had a name until after I left the school. It took some pretty serious determination on my part, but I did manage to finish. It is my opinion that it is harmful to a child to allow the concept of quitting on oneself to creap into their mind. It could possibly become a part of their personality.
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CPT Zachary Brooks
SFC Christopher Perry I can agree with that point of view, but walking away from bullies (where retaliating is all they would know and gets you nothing) is not losing, in my opinion it is winning. They can go at graduating school and succeeding in life instead of letting these people beat them down.
Interesting point about the bullying, I actually never saw racism until I was in high school, and all of it was being hurled at me.
I plan to teach my kids proper martial arts and self defense and when to use it properly.
Interesting point about the bullying, I actually never saw racism until I was in high school, and all of it was being hurled at me.
I plan to teach my kids proper martial arts and self defense and when to use it properly.
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SFC Christopher Perry
Understood completely CPT B. I took way more than my share of beatings throughout high school. If I beat one they brought two, beat them and they bring five. In my mind however, I won in the end, because they did not beat me. I know for a fact a lot of them are dead, in prison or still running the same streets they were back then. My success and happines in life are my win!
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I have gone through 3 boys, only my youngest one is left at 17yrs old and well they were raised regardless too bad so sad you are going... Part of life's lessons is we have to do things whether we like it or not, no excuses get up and do what has to be done... It is preparing them for the responsibilities of being an adult and having a job or having children, paying bills etc... It has to be done so get up and get it done... The only legitimate excuse is you are sick otherwise suck it up... Bullying, we can discuss and we will deal with but you are going because you have to just like you have to go to work to be a productive member of society, you have to pay your bills and support your children... It teaches responsibility for yourself... Our boys were told they have 3 choices when they graduate high school... Go to college, get a job, or join the military... That is it.. There was no break or well I am trying to find myself BS... Maybe we were harsh by today's standards but my 2 oldest are productive members.. My oldest is in the Marines and my middle one has a full time job, paying his own bills and plans on joining the Marines this summer because he wanted to get all his bills paid off before he went so no one one would be burdened with them while he was gone... He has a car payment so he wants to pay off his car first... My youngest is a junior and already has plans to join... We did not endorse the military mind you, we taught our children to make up their own minds and that we would endorse and stand behind them whatever their choice regardless... They just had to do something.... Living with mom and dad was not an option if not working or going to school...
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SPC Nicholas Cureton
Life is taught to us in phases, when we are young, we are taught to be away from parents bit by bit, then school, just being in school all day is tough in the beginning, then school teaches us how to do our work and produce results by deadlines, that trains us for jobs and college. Each thing is harder than the last (generally) but it is all to train us to be better in whatever comes next in life. Thank you.
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SSG (Join to see)
Yes but those lessons don't hold if you don't enforce them... And that is where parenting comes in... Teachers can only do so much, it is up to the parent to hold to it... The lesson's are there meant to teach us, but they won't learn if you don't enforce it....
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CW5 (Join to see)
What a GREAT response, SSG (Join to see)! If I could give multiple up votes, I would. Congratulations on raising three sons the way you did (/are). Really commendable.
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Sounds like a teaching opportunity to me...
Time to discuss what is going on and help the child reach the "proper" decision.
Of course, this option requires a lot of groundwork. Open lines of communication and trust build over the years. Practice making small decisions before tackling the bigger ones.
After all, parenting doesn't just happen at a single point in time or at the occurrence of one crisis. It's a continuing effort...
Time to discuss what is going on and help the child reach the "proper" decision.
Of course, this option requires a lot of groundwork. Open lines of communication and trust build over the years. Practice making small decisions before tackling the bigger ones.
After all, parenting doesn't just happen at a single point in time or at the occurrence of one crisis. It's a continuing effort...
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SPC Nicholas Cureton
It could absolutely be a teaching experience and I think that it should be. I think if it where an out of the blue situation, time for a chat, lets work it out. But if it where a habitual situation, or just laziness, it's time for some corrective action.
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