Posted on Mar 24, 2019
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If a childs mother doesnt let you put child on DEERS is it a problem in the long run? Will the soldier get in trouble?
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Child's mother won't let you? That's not an option. The child is your dependent, and youre responsible for it. You take that birth certificate to DEERS and enroll the child. Then you enroll your child in tricare and tricare dental. Whether you'll get in trouble should be the least of your worries, you need to provide medical coverage for your child. The only time this doesn't apply is if the child's mother already has them enrolled in DEERS under someone else.
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Spot on advice from everyone here.
If you are on that birth certificate which if you pay child support you are go to the town he was born in and get a certified copy of the BC then SS card. You need ID ect the town will tell you what you need. I am not a lawyer, But I would document everything that happens save money up and get yourself a lawyer. I did that back in 2003 and have had full custody of my daughter since. Go to your NCOs ect for some advice but first and foremost remember this is your child do what is right by them.
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Thank you all for the solid advice. I already made an appointment for the naturalzation Office in downtown and all I have to bring is a state ID and answer a few questions about the child and they print a Copy. and i just called the Social Security Office and all they need is his BC and they send me a copy of his SSC. now the question is am I going to need the child for photo purposes at the DDERS office?
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LCpl Ferdinand Hughes
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to piggyback off of the comments. you are the father and your name is on the BC, I have copies of all my children's BC. You pay child support and if you have a visitation order through the courts then she can't refuse/deny you to see your children.
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LCpl Ferdinand Hughes
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Jus remember, the courts will always look out for what's best for the child's interesst/well being.
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So the childs mother has no say in letting you put your child into DEERS. If you are on that childs BC then it is your right to put that child into DEERS she cannot tell you no. Now if you don't have an official certified BC and SSN then you wont be able to and then that is where the COURTS will come into effect. But that is absurd especially with medical ect for your child. Get a lawyer and fight for your Child's rights.
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Thank you Ssg, I just dont understand why she is so agaisnt me when it has nothing to do with me and her.
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Yes... it could come back to haunt you at a later date...
A Security Background investigation Would Throw A monkey Wrench in The Gears... as If You were Trying To Hide Something...
Go To Jag Or Legal Affairs For Best And Most Up to Date Rules Regulations And interpatient Of The Laws...
This is A Serious CYA … Call Your attorney... The Mother Has No Authority If You Are In The Military And the Father... Just Went Thru This With My Daughter...
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i already went through an interview. And have another one coming up. I definately want to get an attorney because shes very petty and doesnt know how to act like an adult.
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