Is it wrong that I would like to join a VFW or Legion that has a bar or at least allows alcohol.

I'm not talking about going and getting plowed everyday or night. Just being able to get together with like minded folks, with similar experiences for a beer or two. I've found that you really cannot discuss military "stuff" with civilians, they have no frame of reference or understanding (or they think that going on a mission to Peru with the church is the same as going to Afghanistan with the PRT for year)....anyway just looking for thoughts.