Posted on Mar 24, 2015
Military Networking Site not a Dating Site. Thoughts?
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Ok, I have noticed this from a lot of fellow Rallypoint members. I noticed a few people said they had to change there pictures due to people hitting on them. I thought this site was about networking to help further our careers.
Should there be penalties for people that do such things? It is a form of harassment is it not? Would love to hear your thoughts.
Should there be penalties for people that do such things? It is a form of harassment is it not? Would love to hear your thoughts.
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The administrators should make it clear what the objectives and what is allowed and whats not. Networking can include different things: discussions (political military, hobby, etc), jobs assistance, (military or civilian) mentoring, or seeking friends (dating or non dating) Just make it clear. That being said, I don't see anything wrong with dating as long as it is respectful-if the person says no then its no. If someone is upset that someone is "hitting on them" then it becomes sexual harassment. In that case, the admins should immediately step in and have consequences and make it clear ahead of time that that kind of thing is not acceptable and what the consequences are.
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CW4 Larry Curtis
That is pretty much the essence of what I just posted...had I seen this post I would have passed on chiming-in. Administration is the key to keeping things on the up-and-up on any social networking site, and it can be a full time job. Establish the rules and violators receive their due, simple as that. Sexual harassment seems to have taken on a more easily-violated definition since I was serving over 20 years ago, but as long as it remains unacceptable it should be treated with severe consequences.
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Strictly dating purposes is unacceptable and unprofessional. Looking for locals as potential friends is acceptable, but should remain professional. Perfectly acceptable if some sort of romance happens later, assuming the relationship itself is acceptable by military standards (i.e. no fraternization is present). Lastly, any sort of harassment should be responded to with both action from RP staff and the chain of command.
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I don't think that the issue should be whether or not this should be allowed, but rather a way for ANY individual to feel free from harassment in any given situation. One possible way would be allowing users to block those they feel are harassing them that is somehow associated with a ticket submitted to admins so as to prevent abuse and actually weed out offenders to get them removed immediately from this community.
That's just my two cents.
That's just my two cents.
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I haven't seen what sort of (if any) moderation goes on here. If an offense was especially egregious or it became a repeated pattern, individuals could be banned from the site (possibly a temporary suspension at first).
Is it harassment? I don't think this is any different than real life. Which is to say: it depends. The unit workplace isn't a bar (usually) yet people sometimes find a romantic connection with each other. At the same time, some people don't know how to employ subtlety or can't take a hint and stop when their advances are unwanted. So yes it could be harassment, but I would say that all flirting (even on a site not intended for that purpose) is not automatically harassment.
Is it harassment? I don't think this is any different than real life. Which is to say: it depends. The unit workplace isn't a bar (usually) yet people sometimes find a romantic connection with each other. At the same time, some people don't know how to employ subtlety or can't take a hint and stop when their advances are unwanted. So yes it could be harassment, but I would say that all flirting (even on a site not intended for that purpose) is not automatically harassment.
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It is what it is. If our nations finest hook up then more power to them.
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How is this any different, in that respect, from working in an office or squad bay or whatever?
It is very unfortunate that there are a few Neanderthals who want to hit on fellow RPers and start bugging them...
Peacocks have long beautiful feathers that they spread to attract the peahens for mating. Human males don't have such a feature (at least that you can show in public in polite society...)
So maybe, if some are on the prowl, they just post complimentary pictures of themselves and make smart, wise, informed responses to questions, and if others are interested, they can contact you off line...
It is very unfortunate that there are a few Neanderthals who want to hit on fellow RPers and start bugging them...
Peacocks have long beautiful feathers that they spread to attract the peahens for mating. Human males don't have such a feature (at least that you can show in public in polite society...)
So maybe, if some are on the prowl, they just post complimentary pictures of themselves and make smart, wise, informed responses to questions, and if others are interested, they can contact you off line...
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Here's a thought. In order to get a message from someone you have to be connected to them. Then you can disconnect from them.
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SFC Steven Borders I do hesitate when I want to see somebody's profile because of the notification it sends to the RP member and I don't want to look like a creep. Thank God we don't have pictures albums here, that would take this hitting thing to another level.
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CW4 Larry Curtis
I thought it was a little odd to see when my profile was getting viewed, too. BUT, I don't care, I'm not like some awesome catch for anyone. LOL. And I am not particularly encumbered by the fact that they know when I'm looking at theirs either. However, it gives you a notice EVERY TIME someone views, not just once per person, so it CAN be a little creepy when you have someone who keeps looking at your profile up to 4 or 5 times in the span of about 20 minutes. The person who did that to me probably just thought I was someone from their past and was attempting to make an association...or perhaps a short memory was involved somehow. Like I said, I'm nothing to holler and scream about, so I'm not too concerned. In fact, if it turns out that someone is actually attempting to hit on me, I might feel a little flattered. LOL. I am strictly hetero-sexual though, and the person who was viewing my profile several times a few days ago was not female...hmmm.
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SSG Matthew Hess it is weird, but I get it because before sending a contact request I do look at their profile. TSgt Wynne Linden for being "that old" you have an awesome humor sense! love it! CW4 Larry Curtis like you, I don't mind getting the notification but when it gets creepy then I'm like, eh, didn't you find what you were looking for already?
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