Posted on May 10, 2014
Scenario Question: Soldier says he's separating and wants help getting his stuff out before wife comes home from work? Action taken?
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I want to start a series of scenario based questions that you think could or have actually happened. This is great development for officers and enlisted. If you want to start one I recommend starting off as I did with "scenario question" so they can easily be found. Also tagging them that way.
Also comment on this one as if the guy was one of your peers and not your Soldier.
Also comment on this one as if the guy was one of your peers and not your Soldier.
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We actually had a young female Soldier who was in an abusive relationship back at Ft Bragg. Our entire platoon went to her apartment with our trucks (yes, we all had one), loaded up her stuff, and moved her out. He showed up about half way through the process, never said a word.
I don't know if we were legally right or wrong. But as Brothers in Arms, I feel that we did the right thing that day.
I don't know if we were legally right or wrong. But as Brothers in Arms, I feel that we did the right thing that day.
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MAJ (Join to see)
In that situation, MSG, I would agree with that assessment. However, the situation is changed: your scenario--"she" is leaving "him" because of a crime "abuse." Each situation is different and can/will be responded to its own merits. As the original question, "he" is leaving "her" and no indication of criminal/abusive activity.
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Sir, I do agree that every situation has to be handled based on its own circumstances, however, I do not see that gender plays a role in any way! Regardless of male leaving female or vice versa, it is the situation that warrants thought and actions, not the gender of the people involved.
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MAJ (Join to see)
BLUF: If you were to approach me for support on your recommended COA, I would sign off on it, and possibly assist (mission allowing).
I would agree that gender should not play a part in the decision; I was merely pointing out the two discrepancies between your response and the original question--the gender swap and the abuse caveat. I acknowledge that females can abuse males, but I would also expect that abuse happens more frequently the other way around. Because of the abusive nature of the situation which you provide, I feel the compelling nature to assist the Soldier in any reasonable manner, to include the assistance in moving out. Many hands make light work, provides a lot of witness if something happens, and a lot of peer pressure to keep the "lid on the kettle" if he does show up. Thanks for your response!
I would agree that gender should not play a part in the decision; I was merely pointing out the two discrepancies between your response and the original question--the gender swap and the abuse caveat. I acknowledge that females can abuse males, but I would also expect that abuse happens more frequently the other way around. Because of the abusive nature of the situation which you provide, I feel the compelling nature to assist the Soldier in any reasonable manner, to include the assistance in moving out. Many hands make light work, provides a lot of witness if something happens, and a lot of peer pressure to keep the "lid on the kettle" if he does show up. Thanks for your response!
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Sir, thank you for the input. I think we are all of one mind on this situation and I absolutely agree with your assessment.
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The process should be supervised by at least a Senior NCO so that if the wife DOES come home in the process, it remains professional and doesn't turn into a brawl - and so that the Soldier will have someone with some rank to bolster the truth of the story if it turns into a "he said," "she said."
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PO3 Jody Wangen
base housing or out in town? having police or security present to have non-partial witness available is good in some situations.
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I would give the Soldier time to go talk with a lawyer that could advise him on the appropriate actions that the law would allow.
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