Posted on Jun 13, 2016
Take needs of the Army assignment or keep my daughter? What to choose.
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I am faced with going Needs of the Army, or get out. If I go NoA, I lose my daughter. If I get out, I may not be able to support her. The judge presiding over my custody case told me that the only way I will get custody of my daughter is to get stationed at Bragg. But in order to do that, I need Airborne School. I can only get it if I reenlist for it, but HRC Retention is not wanting to play ball. What would you do, RP? Because I don't want to lose my kid, but I also don't want to get out, only to risk not being able to get back in.
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So when are you going to Airborne School?
It is not really that bad. In my Airborne class we had some that were afraid of heights. They made it through just fine. You are doing all your post out the door checks and insuring all is fine once you exit the aircraft, you do not realize your height for a few seconds. Then your landing procedures start and then you are on the ground. Then you get extra jump pay if you get a airborne slot at your new Bragg PCS duty station.
It is not really that bad. In my Airborne class we had some that were afraid of heights. They made it through just fine. You are doing all your post out the door checks and insuring all is fine once you exit the aircraft, you do not realize your height for a few seconds. Then your landing procedures start and then you are on the ground. Then you get extra jump pay if you get a airborne slot at your new Bragg PCS duty station.
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I would look at going Army Reserve or National Guard then later look at going back active it is easier to go back that way than if you get out hope it all works
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The Army is a service that pays you a wage. Don't confuse the needs of the army with the needs of bettering yourself or family. Sometimes the two streams coincide. All the accomplishments and sacrifices you give in service are minimal compared to the impact you could have in your child's future. Your unit will forget about you in year while your friends and family won't.
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Not sure the not play ball issue, but the army is temporary and your family is forever.
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That's a tough one, another option is talk to your Chain of Command and maybe they can work with HRC to switch your MOS so you can stay in the army. Another option is start going to veterans job fairs and try to secure a job before getting out. Good luck!
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I have reenlisted for NOA and nothing major changed. They are not goig to do major changes unless your MOS requires it. There's a small chance something would happen but if it were me I would do what was needed for my family. Talk to retention.
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God, Family and Profession in that order. Start preparing to exit the military by going to SFL Tap. Make a few resumes and look for jobs in the place you plan to reside.
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Okay, say you do maintain custody, but then can't sustain a family care plan. If you can't deploy, don't stay in. And I'm not trying to be indifferent, I've been a single dad in uniform. Don't squander your time with your kid. Get out. When your situation improves, you remarry, etc. come back in the Guard or Reserves.
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You don't have to be Airborne to go to Bragg they have a battalion or two of legs there
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Everyone I called said that they no longer had slots for 11B outside of the 82nd (who will no longer take legs on the line), because they disbanded the three LRS units.
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I'd never ever put anything between me and my daughter, he'll no. You'll make it if you get out, family always helps family. Daughter first.
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