Posted on Feb 27, 2016
Doug Macdonald
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America is experiencing a "Crisis In Trust". Just look at our current political cycle as 1 example. As a civilian veteran advocate, who seeks to understand to be understood, what do you look for in a civilian veteran advocate so you trust them?
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Although trust is earned, you have to have faith that the people you meet are trustworthy. if you don't give them a chance, how will you ever trust them.
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Doug Macdonald
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Cpl (Join to see), Thank you, well said.
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I trust someone until they give me reason not to. If I am talking face to face, I can usually tell if someone is trust worthy. My gut instinct is correct 99% of the time. I listen closely to what the person is saying and if it is correct, a level of trust is built. I will check out what the person is telling me to make sure it is correct. I had a friend who went to a so called "veteran benefit assistance company" for help with her father. He was a WWII era veteran that she was trying to get Veterans Aid and Assistance money. The guy wanted to tie up all of her father's money in an annuity except for 80 thousand dollars. Her father lived on 20 acres of land which was worth quite a bit. I researched the rules and made several calls. A house is exempt from the income limit, but the land can not exceed two acres. This guy had told my friend that the 20 acres were allowed and did not need to be listed. He was a crook, and I finally convinced my friend not to trust him.

I will listen to what a person says, and if it checks out as correct after I research it, a level of trust is built.
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Doug Macdonald
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Sgt (Join to see), That last sentence tells me a lot. Thank you. sir.
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As a civilian who works daily in the veteran community, I am trying to further understand why the veteran community trusts my insights and information. The more I understand the more I can help.
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Cpl Mario DiPasquale
Cpl Mario DiPasquale
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I am a very trusting person. I believe most people who offer to help are truly there to help. However, there are always exceptions. I've had people tell me my military experience means nothing in the civilian world. This is a naive statement and if you truly believe that, I don't want help from you. I've also been told to never say my degree is from the University of Phoenix, because it is an online degree. Again, this mindset can be detrimental to being successful as a mentor. One of these statements was from a manager, another was from a Employee Development Consultant.
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Doug Macdonald
Doug Macdonald
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Cpl Mario DiPasquale, Thank you. I am trying to better understand the veterans I talk with. Communication is critical and to be a good communicator you have to understand who you are talking to. That's the purpose of the question. Thank you as this is valuable input.
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