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Let's say I have a 'friend' that is in therapy for PTS issues. This 'friend' feels like he is drowning still, even though he has a wife and two little daughters that adore him. He feels like there is so much going on in his head that compartmentalizing isn't even an option anymore...his decision making abilities are diminished because he only sees beginning problem and end result and forgets to clarify along the way - in doing this he gets bogged down with everyday tasks and has problems unless there is a strict schedule to follow? Has anyone else had these issues, and if so, how do you cope? How do you stay a productive member of a family and a worthy employee? How do you find worth in yourself when it seems like you are more of a burden than anything else?
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Here's a few lessons I learned:
1. Avoid the advice of people with little personal experience in whatever struggles you may have.
2. People get most moralizing from Facebook or TV. They package cliche sounding phrases in an effort to save face if they don't know what they are talking about.
3. Most people are truly do-nothings that will not act to do the right thing. Its well documented most people do not confront aggressors they see, like in the cases of rape or assault. They will walk by and pretend not to notice. Worse still are people that know bullying and malfeasance are happening and yet turn a blind eye. Remember, see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil. Keep that in mind.
4. Be extremely careful about opening up to veteran related issues.
5. Humanity is fallen. The ranks of society are filled with people that make a living by saying good things, and then doing the exact opposite of good when no one is looking.
Employer 'issues' about 50% of the time are not the employees fault. 'Employers' are not better, more holy souls than the people they interview for hire. Often times, veterans get attached to the uniform and they fail to recognize most people do not abide by anything remotely similar to the Soldier's Creed. It helps to communicate this at times if the veteran, hinted at in this post, has this issue. We are making progress here but there is still a lot more work to be done.
I just make sure to heed lessons learned. The therapy industry is full of con artists and wolves that prey on veterans. When people will wake up is another thing.
1. Avoid the advice of people with little personal experience in whatever struggles you may have.
2. People get most moralizing from Facebook or TV. They package cliche sounding phrases in an effort to save face if they don't know what they are talking about.
3. Most people are truly do-nothings that will not act to do the right thing. Its well documented most people do not confront aggressors they see, like in the cases of rape or assault. They will walk by and pretend not to notice. Worse still are people that know bullying and malfeasance are happening and yet turn a blind eye. Remember, see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil. Keep that in mind.
4. Be extremely careful about opening up to veteran related issues.
5. Humanity is fallen. The ranks of society are filled with people that make a living by saying good things, and then doing the exact opposite of good when no one is looking.
Employer 'issues' about 50% of the time are not the employees fault. 'Employers' are not better, more holy souls than the people they interview for hire. Often times, veterans get attached to the uniform and they fail to recognize most people do not abide by anything remotely similar to the Soldier's Creed. It helps to communicate this at times if the veteran, hinted at in this post, has this issue. We are making progress here but there is still a lot more work to be done.
I just make sure to heed lessons learned. The therapy industry is full of con artists and wolves that prey on veterans. When people will wake up is another thing.
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