What is the best source to use when looking for military friends? Especially female who may have married.

Your just posted on a great site to look for friends! Stay away from my wife!!! LOL

If you consult the VFW and American Legion chances are you can get someone who knows about where they are or can locate someone who can find them. Service organizations are the best for supporting troops after active duty enlistment ends.

I think this might be it. Many female military personnel have at least retained some part of their unmarried name.