Posted on Apr 22, 2016
SSG Bethany Viglietta
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I am an Army Recruiter and it would be great to share.

As we gear up to ship out some of our first female Future Soldiers in combat jobs, I ask of the members of RP, what is your advice for these young soldiers?

Please keep it constructive and nothing along the lines of they shouldn't be able to serve in these positions because that ship has sailed and opinions about how they should not serve in these positions are not going to change anything.

Edit: The conversation among RP members about mentoring these service members is amazing. Honestly, I did not know what to expect when I started the thread, because this is a subject many feel strong about. Thank you so much for all of your advice thus far, I cannot wait to share it with our female and male recruits and hope you share it in your ranks/communities as well. Together we are molding the future of the military.
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MSG Tony Reilly
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Well the best advice you can give them is if they are willing to die in service for their country and able to meet with and defeat the enemy head on then go infantry! If they can meet the same standards as infantry men and can carry a wounded soldier with his/her kit on and still return fire while maneuvering to safety than by all means they are welcome to join. If they don't expect special treatment because they are female and if they don't mind humping a 60+lbs ruck and not being at the rear of the formation/movement than go infantry! If their not there just to prove some PC point and to actually want to kill the enemy then go infantry. If their just for the college fund than they are in the wrong place. As a recruiter, don't lie or try to make the job sound more exciting or better than it actually is, you might want to have a packed ruck in your office and make everyone do a mile for time (guys and gals).
Hope this helps,
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SSG Bethany Viglietta
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MSG Tony Reilly This definitely helps. Thank you! The ruck in the office is a great idea.
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1SG Force Protection Ncoic
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As a 28 year veteran I have seen strong Soldiers and weak Soldiers. Regardless of gender, those who have the determination and skills to succeed will. Don't give up, when you think you are about to break, dig deep and pull that last ounce of strength to reach the goal and don't look back.
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SSG Bethany Viglietta
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1SG (Join to see) Thank you 1SG for your response. You are right about gender not being a factor for strong/weak soldiers
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MSgt Roger Hoyle
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Being a combat veteran myself I would welcome female soldiers that pass all training and accept the same conditions their male companions have to live by. No favortism.
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SSG(P) Brian Kliesen
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Initially, the female soldier needs to be in top physical condition. Being physically fit from the beginning will give you a step up on all those others that may not be prepared and will give everyone else (male/female/cadre) one less thing to complain about. Be mentally prepared and become as knowledgeable as possible on your future job and the Army Basics. Know that you will be surrounded by a lot of young, immature males who are likely to not know how to treat women as their peers. Grow some thick skin but don't take crap from anyone. There will be some comments, some joking, some stares and it will be difficult. You will be pushed and you will be challenged. Be professional, be cautious but be ready to do everything. Watch out for your fellow female soldiers and hopefully they will do the same for you.
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CPL Mathew Parris
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As a former 19d (cavalry scout) and platoon c.a.s trainer I can say this when you are in any class c.l.s, fire support/artillery and or any of many others PAY ATTENTION your platoon will be counting on you do what you are told take notes learn every facet of your MOS. For those of you wanting to become cavalry carry on the tradition carry the sabres with Pride and earn your spurs
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CPO Rafael Tirona
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It's one thing to see our men being killed in action and being subjected to torture and abuse as POWs...but to see our military women go through the same ordeal plus the potential sexual assaults and rapes in these POW camps will exponentially sway American public opinion on this issue. I don't believe America is emotionally ready to see that ugly reality of war and combat for our military women - I personally know, I am not. Having said all these, I wish our military women good luck and shoot for the stars and just be cognizant on the realities of combat.
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SFC Russell Shaw
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Create an inner circle of friends that you can turn to for support, encouragement, and to help you learn your job, maybe even help you when others are criticizing you. I heard some today tell so else they were an overachiever. I told them there is no such thing as an over achiever those who love average lives see everyone who excels at all as overachievers. You and your inner circle hold each other to a higher standard.
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PO2 David Welch
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My recommendation, encourage the go-getters to become bigger, faster, stronger - seems moot to think about the already existing expectation, but challenge them to focus on meeting the physical standards of their male counterparts so that the transition doesn't shock them or the military as a whole.

I also recommend to young soldiers, go to a training range and become proficient using firearms in a tactical scenario. That and become comfortable with spartan resources and little to no creature comforts.
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1stSgt Edward Jackson
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The US Military Forces are not the place for social experimenting. These social programs, women in ground combat roles, gays and transgenders in the military, etc. have done nothing to further the #1 mission of the US Military...to kill people and break things. None of these programs improve efficiency, and all of them have cost defense dollars that could be better spent on weapons, training, etc. Women do have a place in the military, flying combat aircraft...yes, manning crew positions (including command positions) aboard Naval surface combat ships...yes, and many, many others. But in direct ground combat roles? No. Women, in general (yes, there are exceptions), are weaker and smaller than men in general. They do not have the muscle mass men have (men have about 40% muscle mass, women have about 30% muscle mass), nor do they have the muscle strength men have.
http://healthyliving.azcentral.com/much-muscle-mass-male-female-1709.html
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10904038
Upper body strength is critical in ground combat. Can a woman retrieve a large wounded member of her team and bring him/her to safety? What happens if the combat situation deteriorates to hand to hand combat with a woman team member having to fight a large opponent of the enemy?
These, and many more questions need to be answered before we try another stupid social experiment. We Soldiers, Marines, Airmen, Sailors, and Coasties have all lost comrades to prior social experiments that liberal politicians have forced upon us. Those politicians may not care about the lives of my brothers and sisters, but I do. Women are great at doing a lot of things men are not good at. So why don't we recognize that men are great at doing some things women are not good at?
My advice? No, don't do this, this is just another politically correct stupid idea.
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SSG Bethany Viglietta
SSG Bethany Viglietta
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PO2 David Welch - That's a really great question about hygiene. Quick warning I am about to go in depth with women's hygiene. With proper care we can go a long time without a shower. Women just need to ensure to wear cotton panties. Pack extra! Always have extra. They are as important as fresh socks. Baby wipes work for everyone and every part of the body. Women live in 3rd world countries without showers because the vagina is a self cleaning organ. Don't do anything funky to it and it will take care of itself. There are ways to stop your period for a deployment and if you don't want to, there are a few really cool products women can use. Personally, I just ended mine on deployment. A company has created underwear made for during menstruation that doesn't require the female to use pads or tampons. I haven't tried them, but they are definitely interesting and getting great reviews. Biggest things for women to remember hygiene wise are to use unscented wash/anything, stay away from anything but cotton, and stay away from thongs/g-strings in the field because if you cannot keep clean, they are going to move around and cause infection. I really hope that wasn't too much.
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1stSgt Edward Jackson
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PO2 David Welch - Hygiene in the field has always been a problem, and that will not change. You do the best you can with what you've got. Yes, you can carry more, if that is available, but it is what it is. There is no privacy in the field, either, and in many circumstances you may need to bring someone with you to watch out for you to just go to the latrine in the field.
This is not a camping trip to a state parks somewhere. You are carrying your all food, water, an M-16/M-4, 280 rounds of 5.56, maybe grenades, a sidearm with extra ammo, radios, your bed roll, knife, maybe NVGs, first-aid kit, GPS, extra clothes, socks, and other things, and this is on top of your armor jacket. That's 40lbs to 50lbs of equipment, all on your back, and you cannot expect someone else to carry your tampons. You carry it for days, maybe a week or more as you trek through the mountains, snow, or jungles of the world.
Don't expect to get resupplied in the field, it happens, but not all the time. Don't expect the bad guys to give you a break, either. remember you are in his backyard, he knows the area far better than you do.
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PO2 David Welch
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SSG Bethany Viglietta - nope, it was a genuine question that needed clarification. I appreciate your candor and the answer explains a lot.
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SSG Bethany Viglietta
SSG Bethany Viglietta
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1stSgt Edward Jackson - No one carried my gear, tampons, panties, or even my extra sports bras on foot patrols or convoys. I can't imagine a soldier asking someone to hold on to their tampons. Have you seen a tampon? It doesn't weigh much. Our body armor alone weighs over 20lbs. Then add a full combat load of ammo. A weapon or a second weapon. NVGs are a must. First Aid kits are carried by every soldier. Rations. Water. etc. If I can hump all of that, carrying my own tampons will be easy. Put them in a ziplock baggie just like you would your snacks and toss em in your bag/pocket.
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Sgt Juan Carlos
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To be part of the unit, same treatment as everybody else. No especial ways of doing things, do the best they can just like everybody else No difference in gender.
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