Posted on Apr 22, 2016
SSG Bethany Viglietta
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I am an Army Recruiter and it would be great to share.

As we gear up to ship out some of our first female Future Soldiers in combat jobs, I ask of the members of RP, what is your advice for these young soldiers?

Please keep it constructive and nothing along the lines of they shouldn't be able to serve in these positions because that ship has sailed and opinions about how they should not serve in these positions are not going to change anything.

Edit: The conversation among RP members about mentoring these service members is amazing. Honestly, I did not know what to expect when I started the thread, because this is a subject many feel strong about. Thank you so much for all of your advice thus far, I cannot wait to share it with our female and male recruits and hope you share it in your ranks/communities as well. Together we are molding the future of the military.
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SPC Wanda Vergara-Yates
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If women who aim to meet the same standards as their male counterparts actually meet or beat their male counterparts, then they should have the same opportunities open to them. Look at the strategic opportunities for female combat teams that can go into sensitive areas where males might not be able to get in. However, I want to see combat MOS soldiers held to standard for what the job requires. If they can meet those standards without a lowered bar, let them serve in that capacity. If not, reclassify them to a specialty where their skills and capabilities match up, just like the military is supposed to do everywhere else.
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SPC Wanda Vergara-Yates
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To the recruiter, look for the combat specialty mentality because there is one. If the person has it and can meet the physical requirements, great. If not, encourage them to look elsewhere for the best fit. There is a job for everyone. I ought to know because I did not fit the "soldier" ideal that I had in my mind before joining. To the women: Pull your fair share, no more, no less. Earn your respect and keep earning it without worrying whether you get it or not. Sooner or later, the rest of them will come around. Know where to draw lines, how to respond to sexual advances without coming off as crass, crude or bitchy. Even today, you still have to explain to males which jokes and phrases are appropriate to you and which are not. Give them respect that they earn as they give you the respect you earn. HAVE THEIR BACK! If you have their back, sooner or later, they will become your strongest defenders when you need them the most.
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SFC Jim Ruether
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Good Response SPC Vergara-Yates,
I think you are 100% correct. If they can do the same job, within the same standards and feel they have the same mind set to be in combat then go for it.
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SGT Marvin Luciano
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This is so simple, plain common sense. Just as in any civilian position, just make sure you are FULLY CAPABLE of performing the tasks related to your job/MOS. Dare not ask for special considerations, neither biological nor physical reasons. Show fairness and you will be treated fair. Immediately draw the line which NO ONE (same gender included) CANNOT cross. Equal performance will result in equal treatment, promotions, leadership positions, etc. Forget about being male or female: JUST BE A SOLDIER
HOOAH !!!
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SPC Chance Chappell
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I would tell them to nail the fundamentals of shooting and land navigation. Stay true to your fellow brothers and now sisters in arms. Be as fit and as strong as you can, as you may have to drag or carry the person next to you if injured, and always keep a motivated and positive attitude.
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MSgt Explosive Ordnance Disposal
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don't...
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SGT Hugh Bowman
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From my time in the military very few combat related job really prepares you for the outside world if it's 3 years down the line or 20. There are few but it's few. My advice is to pick a mos that will prepare you for a unforgiving world especially if your time is during peace
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PO1 Aaron Baltosser
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I would be the wrong one to ask. I was forced to warch 36 out if 40 in my Field Medical Service School platoon blatantly cheat to 'pass' because they were physically unfit for duty as FMF Corpsman assigned with Marines. The instructors looked the other way because it was easier than explaining a 90% failure rate. The same lowering of standards has happened in the F-14 training program, the Blackhawk training program, and every other military role where there has been a rigorous training standard. That standard has always been lowered for females to pass and often resulted in deaths, destroyed equipment, and wasted billet space.
Having females in a combat billet is acceptable in one case only. The instructors actually hold them to a training standard, AND that standard never gets lowered to tailor the school for females to pas with an unrealistic opportunity. Combat is the great equalizer. There are no shortcuts.
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CPL Brendan Hayes
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SSG Bethany Viglietta This is the advice I give anyone when they ask, "What should I expect?" Be ready to be treated poorly. This is not (or rather should not) be due to gender. Rather it will be due to the fact that these soldiers are trainees. As such, they will be treated poorly. From speaking with those outside combat arms, it seems like the treatment lessens after BCT. Going through AIT was not a whole lot different from boot (I wasn't in an OSUT unit either). The reason for this is the DS and cadre are trying to prepare civilians for some of the most stressful jobs on the planet, and you can't do that through kindness and special treatment. Once training is done, the atmosphere should change a bit, but that is going to vary unit to unit.

In a nutshell: Follow orders. Move with a purpose. Stay motivated.
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CPL Bhonehomie Reed
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I feel that if they can meet the required standards and training, on the same equal level as the males, then they deserve the opportunity. The biggest question in this issue is the emotional aspect while under direct enemy contact and how the males would react to an injured female. Of course the biggest and most obvious concern is the sexual harassment. How do you segregate the females from the males and protect them in a combat environment? The only way to find out for sure is to assign females to select combat units and document the activity. Israel has been using integrated units for years and they have some of the best trained females anywhere. Russia has also integrated their spetznat units and that proved successful. The proof is in the doing and I believe it can be successfully accomplished with proper training and execution. Personal accountability and discipline are required to accomplish this task. Let's hope the DOD does this and gives the females a fair opportunity to prove that they can be all that they can be. This is only my opinion.
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SFC Michael Palmer
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Great question!.
When I say "you" in this reply I am referring to those female potential recruits; it is you talking to/advising them
My thoughts are that EVERYONE is going to have to grow up and face the fact of "communal living", especially in Combat Arms MOS's. That means men are going to see you urinate and defecate in the field and you are going to see them doing the same. You are going to get naked in front of men and they are going to get naked in front of you.
I was 11-series for 14 of my 23 years and the thing about the Infantry is this: you WILL pull your own weight. Period. I have met some female Soldiers who were rock-hard and could hump a LOT of weight, I have seen some male Soldiers who were complete wimps.
If I remember correctly, the Army makes exceptions during menstruation for certain physical things, but, if you ask for those exceptions, you may be frowned upon. Suck it up. I do NOT mean that to be sexist in any way. It is just fact.
Intimate relationships within a unit, even if they do not violate the Fraternization Policy, erode morale. They create jealousy and resentment. Find someone from a different unit or who is a civilian (this applies to male Soldiers as well).
Hope these help. It is, again, going to be an awkward "deal with it" transition requiring a lot of maturity on all sides.
Best of luck, recruit some good Soldiers!!!
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PVT John Williams
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Just get it done and don't ask for any special favors. If you can't handle it , nine times out of ten it's not going to be your fault. If it is , then I think you already know the solution.
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