Posted on Dec 14, 2018
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I was walking with a Navy LT and an Army Maj. (My hospital has both services) from the USO across the street to the hospital and a PFC passed and didn’t salute. I stopped and asked her, “Do enlisted soldiers not salute officers anymore?” The Maj. with me said I didn’t have to be so aggressive about it. What’s a better way of addressing it without coming off as aggressive?
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LCpl Cody Collins
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You have to remember, he's a Army Major. In boot camp they train their soldiers by being mentors and not drill instructors. His response to U demonstrates exactly what I'm talking about. I bet if the navy lieutenant would have had the chance he or she would dressed him down like no tomorrow. Are you could have excused herself a few minutes from the presence of the officers and pull that PFC off to the side and gave them a Stern warning about military code of conduct and showing a proper respect to officers.
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Brad Powers
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I guess maybe a little humility would be in order. I think I can be correct when I say that if a leader were to think of himself for just one day, people may suffer that same day.
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The proper way is to keep walking and mind your business because everyone isn't going to know the rank of every person they pass on the street and neither they nor you have any real reason to care and you both likely have things of actual importance to worry about. Saluting serves no purpose other than to make you feel special. You're not.
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SFC Brion Wood
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That's not aggressive. This is a product of not being aggressive enough.
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LTC Ray Rhodes
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You were absolutely right in your approach. And you weren't aggressive in the least. However, the major should have taken the initiative as the senior person present and straightened out the troop. Not doing so is dereliction of duty and contributes to the problem. Share these thoughts with the young major. He (or she) needs an attitude adjustment.
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CW3 Dick McManus
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The Science of Assertiveness theory -- aka folk knowledge (trial and error science)

Assertive (Leadership) behavior of humans: Builds relationships

Will the long-term affects be worse than any short-term discomfort I may feel if I am assertive in the first place?

The word "NO", may have to be repeated over and over, as in a broken record.

An angry and loud communication can be assertive if one is expressing feelings (Using the word "I", ( I am really god damn anger at you ...)

vs. HOSTILE behavior-destroys a relationship: ... You dumb ass, didn't your mother teach you to report to work on time, etc. etc. Why, didn't you do such and such.... You should do such and such

If someone has a habit of saying, "Why, don't you do such and such..." we all understand this to mean "I want you" to do such and such. There seems to be some kind of a taboo in our culture against people saying straight up, that they want.
On the use of the word YOU:

...the use of the word "you" is assertive when a person is acting in the role of boss, parent, or leader, for example, a law enforcer, a teacher, the chair of a meeting.
When someone answers your request with “WHY? For example, “May I have a bit of your ice cream?” or “May I please sleep overnight at your house? “Why?” The assertive answer is “That was not an answer.”

"You are expected to" (follow the rules, etc) , then every time the other person comes up with excuses, sob stories, etc, repeating this phase again and again ("You are expected to" (aka using the broken record shows the other person that you are not afraid to stand your ground and they need for them to rethink their poor behavior.

But remember being skeptically silent is assertive. Meaning, if I try to get the last word.. will I get punched in the nose or some other bad result.

Speaking up in a group to speak is assertive because one is taking the "psychological space" of the whole group.


Hostile behavior: A person uses sarcasm and intimidation to get what they want. One may get what they want, but destroys the relationship afterwards.
It is easy to give up the benefits of hostile behavior when I value myself enough to avoid getting agitated over minor issues and when I am imperfect and incorrect.

Non-assertive behavior: (shy behavior) doing nothing about unpleasant situations and simply try to ignore ones feelings and desires. While it may prevent conflicts with others, one probably will wind up feeling helpless, exploited, angry, and disappointed with one’s self. Being “too shy” to do something.



For example, “I am sorry to bother you.” This is an example, of how being NICE sucks us into a non-assertive down-hill fall. vs. “I want to talk to you.” “ I need your help or I need or want to talk to you.”

or "It was nice talking to you." (when it wasn't and you didn't enjoy talking to them).

Basic Assertive Rights:

1. The right to act in ways that promote my dignity and self-respect as long as others’ rights are not violated in the process.
2. The right to be treated with respect.
3. The right to say no and not feel guilty.
4. The right to experience and express feelings.
5. The right to take time to slow down and think.
6. The right to change my mind.
7. The right to ask for what I want.
8. The right to do less than I are humanly capable of doing.
9. The right to ask for information.
10. The right to make mistakes.
11. The right to feel good about myself.
Must I always assert my rights?
No, I am always free to choose not to assert myself, assuming that I am also willing to take the responsibility for whatever consequences may then occur.
Source: The Assertive Option by Patricia Jakubowski and Arthur J. Lange
and NO TRESPASSING by Barker and Barker.
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1SG Barbara Edwards
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I think that the 2LT who commented was correct. One doesn't need to embarrass the soldier. As a former 1SG, I had much better results when corrections were handed privately...
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1LT Shaun Ray
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If it really bothers you to get a salute then simply walk over and try to shake their hand. I'm sure they will salute you before they shake your hand. Any reasonable Officer would not be to consumed with a missed salute. There are much bigger things to worry about as an Officer.

In my experience medical areas are no hat no salute areas a lot of times. Besides it was a PFC. They were likely thinking about chow or video games.
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SPC Jerry Jones
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The LT and Maj should have properly addressed the soldier immediately. If they don't address the soldier at that moment, then the soldier will continue to do what she did. The PFC won't reflect back on you telling them (because of your rank), but if the LT or Major addresses them, then they will remember it. There are higher consequences if there is a chance that the high ranking individual might take a trip to see your Commander.
When I was serving, it was common practice to make sure you saluted when you were supposed to, or else your Commander would have your ass and have you on hard duty for weeks.
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CPL Multichannel Transmission Systems Operator/Maintainer
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Being a SPC, you were okay to say what you said, it does depend on the officer as some don't really care to be saluted, but unless the PFC knew this off the bat, they should have saluted. However with the "kinder gentler" army the Maj was correct too because people can be so sensitive these days.
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