What would you discuss in an SLC NCOPD on the actual role of a SNCO for military funeral honors?

-The NCOIC works with the OIC for requisite coordination for funerals and training aids to include gun racks and locks. Conduct a recon with a team and a dry rehearsal. You will need to coordinate for Casualty Assistance for the funerals.

-Ensure training is perfect from unloading the coffin, putting on the flag on the coffin properly, folding the flag, the NCOIC will inspect the flag after the folding insert 3 shells, and give it to the OIC with the pointy end pointed to the OIC.

-The OIC will kneel and present the flag to the next of kin flat face toward the surviving kin. The OIC will say this as he presents the flag: On behalf of the President of the United States, the United States (Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force or Coast Guard ), and a grateful nation, please accept this flag as a symbol of our appreciation for your loved one's honorable and faithful service. He breaks eye contact, does an about face and walks away.

-21 shots will be rendered.

-Taps will be played.

-These are the major events, however if I am wrong please correct me. I have done military funerals but that was 15 years ago, and I am kind of effed up now.

Organize your troops and rehearsal is a must as many soldiers have never been on the detail. I'm sure some have - use them to assist after explaining what you want them to help with so they know what you expect. Most mess-ups occur because 'everyone's got this' - then they fumble.
There will be fumbles - don't sweat them as the rehearsal will iron them out - except when one of my soldiers ribbons popped off his (old army) dress green blouse and fell into the hole. NO one else noticed and the soldiers didn't drop the casket (or laugh, or panic) and the rest of the service went fine. We even had the diggers recover them after everyone left as the casket was only lowered and not covered over.
You're the supervisor so do the rehearsals until they're correct 3 times with your soldiers. Here are some key points I've found over the years which bite units again and again so they need to be practiced before departure from your unit because you do not have time once you arrive at the location.
Practice with a casket loaded (heavy as possible) with weights ,
Make your the Firing Squad shoot in sequence and that they understand the commands (retirees forget or civilians volunteers don't know things).
Make sure the bugler sounds "Taps" and it is sounded correctly (no fancy toots).
Never accept last minute 'replacements' because its screws everyone up who had made the rehearsals - they are a team now.

Here is what the Old Guard uses at Arlington Cemetery:
Sequence of Events for Military Funeral Honors
Burial at Arlington National Cemetery
1. The caisson or funeral coach arrives at gravesite, military members present arms (renders a salute).
2. Casket team secures the casket, non-commissioned officer-in-charge (NCOIC), officer-in-charge (OIC), and chaplain salute.
3. Chaplain leads the way to gravesite, followed by casket team.
4. Casket team sets down the casket and secures the flag.
5. The NCOIC/OIC ensures the flag is stretched out and level, and centered over the casket.
6. The family is seated.
7. NCOIC/OIC backs away and the chaplain, military or civilian, will perform the service.
8. At conclusion of interment service and before benediction, a cannon salute is fired for those eligible (i.e., general officers).
9. Chaplain concludes his service and backs away, NCOIC/OIC steps up to the casket.
10. The cemetery representative will ask all family members to rise for honors.
11. The NCOIC/OIC presents arms to initiate the rifle volley.
12. Rifle volley complete; bugler plays 'Taps.'
13. Family will be asked to be seated.
14. Casket team leader starts to fold the flag.
15. Flag fold complete, and the flag is passed to the NCOIC, OIC.
16. Casket team leaves gravesite.
17. The flag is presented to the next of kin.
18. For veterans of the Army, Air Force, Navy and Coast Guard, an Arlington Lady presents cards of condolence to the next of kin on behalf of their service chief and the lady herself.
19. Chaplain/family clergy extend condolences.
20.Cemetery representative announces that the service is concluded.
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I hope this helps. Good Luck.

When I was stationed at Fort Drum in 2000; the Honors teams were decentralized to the units so my SNCO just coordinated the logistics; while I as an E5 handled rehearsals on casket movement, rifles, flag folding and their PRT. I also conducted the uniform inspections and POC coordination with the funeral homes from Albany, NY all the way to Boston, MA with an O1 as my OIC to do the flag presentation to the recipient. Fast forward 13 years, I'm stationed at Fort Gordon. Here the installation manages Honors team with a GS civilian coordinating everything logistically. Our mission ranged from funeral honors to retirement ceremonies to parade details. My primary role in this organization was to manage the 7 teams, monitor/evaluate rehearsals, random uniform inspections, facility management and the occasional funeral ceremony/dignitary event if my other duties didn't interfere. We had no OIC for funerals. Either I was presenting the flag or one of my E6's who were on my teams. So as you can see from my experience, your role may vary depending on the installation your at.