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8 Signs You’re Actually Too Polite
Nice people often don’t know how to say no or to stand up for themselves. According to medical experts, too much kindness can be bad for your health, because you can start to feel resentment and overwhelmed, as you try to help everyone and in some cases, people can take advantage of your generosity. That being said, it’s fine to be nice and polite, but don’t choose to be extra.

You excessively compliment other people
It’s fine to compliment other people, but don’t overdo it, especially because some individuals may not receive them in the same way that you intended.
For instance, if you want to tell someone “You look stunning and so skinny!”, think again. Even though it seems like a nice compliment, they can get it wrong especially when they aren’t happy with their body, and probably don’t want to look like that. So, they will probably understand your intention at first, but don’t say it again or every time you see them.
In fact, if you say it frequently it may feel insincere and sarcastic. “Offer a sincere compliment on their achievements instead,” said Bonnie Tsai, etiquette expert and founder and director of Beyond Etiquette.

You always give long answers
People who are too polite tend to give long answers to basic questions and it can be really overwhelming sometimes, especially for people who want to know a piece of simple information and nothing more.
If you are at work and someone asks you something about a task or anything else, try to simplify your answer so that they can remember what you said. (see more on the next page)
“Keep your answers short and to the point, they’ll ask to follow up questions if they need more information,” said Maryanne Parker, a business and social etiquette consultant in San Diego, author of Posh Overnight, and founder of Manor of Manners.
On the other hand, giving one-word answers can be considered rude. “Answering just ‘yes’ or ‘no’ can feel curt and dismissive,” said Parker.

You keeping eye contact for too long
Sometimes, eye contact can be a polite way to let others know that you are listening to what they are saying, but it can be creepy if you keep it for too long. In addition, holding eye contact for too long can be really uncomfortable and some people may feel threatened, as it may denote an aggressive behavior.
“Go for a genuine eye-to-eye contact and then look away every once in a while,” said Jeff Larsen, LMFT, a manner expert and licensed psychotherapist. Try to be natural and everything will be fine.

You always say ‘yes’
If you always say ‘yes’, even when you don’t really want to be there for someone else, it means that you are overly polite. Unfortunately, these situations can be overwhelming sometimes and it can lead to anxiety and stress in the long run. (see more on the next page)
“You may feel great at the moment when you agreed to help because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, but it could end up negatively impacting your relationship due to resentment and exhaustion,” Tsai explains.
It’s very important to learn to say ‘no’ when you are not in a good mood. However, instead of saying ‘no’, you can say ‘I can’t right now’, ‘I have something to do’ or simply “I’m not in a good mood, so maybe next time”.

You don’t say what you really think
Sadly, too many polite people don’t say what they think and end up agreeing with everyone, even when they are wrong or have a different or opposite opinion – so, it can lead to frustration in the long run and they will be more likely to develop chronic stress or anxiety. (see more on the next page)
“You may think you’re being polite by agreeing with everyone but in reality it makes you look weak and indecisive,” Parker says. And it can lead to a decrease in your level of self-esteem, affecting your quality of life. You can say your opinion in a decent way, without being offensive or aggressive, and you will see that people will appreciate it.

You say “sorry” for every little thing
Of course, everyone should say sorry when they have done something wrong, but apologizing for every little thing can be annoying for other people, and overwhelming for yourself.
“Being overly apologetic or expressing it in situations where it isn’t necessary can indicate that you have low self-esteem which can cause people to take advantage of it,” Tsai says.
In fact, some people can get it wrong and believe that you are afraid of them.

You clean the table when other people eat
According to experts, it is recommended to clean the table every time after eating, so you don’t have to wait for others to do it for you, but don’t do it when someone else is eating! In some cultures, it can be rude if you aren’t the host.
“Clearing up the dirty dishes may seem like a considerate gesture but if others are still eating, it can be perceived as a signal to end the meal or that you’re telling them to leave,” Tsai says

You never speak up
People who are too polite tend to never speak up and this could be a real problem for other people and for themselves.
“Being too considerate of others and their right to speak costs you the opportunity to share your insight and personality,” Tsai said. Try to speak up in a conversation and be more confident.