No matter the setting, respect for peers is imperative

I will always err on the side of due process. Innocent until proven guilty. So in a case of a single he-said / she-said, with no corroborating witnesses, with both parties presenting as credible, I will support the accuser and provide any help they need (counseling, relocation, protection, etc.), but refuse to condemn the accused.

However, when it gets to the point discussed here, with multiple accusations, and it being a "known" problem such that women are warning others about him, there is no longer space for him to say "that's not what happened!" Especially if has already been warned once.

Regardless of what his INTENT was, it is clear - and was made clear to him - that it was being received as untoward. That is enough. Repeating the behavior after that is unexcusable.

I am happy to allow the benefit of the doubt. I insist on it. But only when there is doubt.

I am a male working in a female dominated field (males are about 15% of my office; my entire "chain of command" is female). This crosses my mind literally every single day at work. How am I conducting myself? Is what I am doing, or contemplating doing, going to even POTENTIALLY be viewed as aggressive, harassing, inappropriate, or just creepy?

Does it maybe take a bit of extra time to do those calculations and find ways to accomplish the mission to ensure I don't do anything wrong? Does it make my job maybe a tiny bit more difficult? Sure. But is it worth it to make sure my coworkers are comfortable, the office remains friendly, and people are willing to continue working with me? Double sure.