Our Internal Judge, Criminal and Superhero - 3 Facets of mind Necessary for Change — Green Earth...

When we judge others, we observe their actions (or inactions) and compare what we observe to our standards or our “personal books of law". These books of law tell how we should, think, feel, act, what we should say, do and not do, what we should have or not have and who we should be, or not be.

In the process of judgement, we say and think things like, "this person did (this), they are so stupid" or "that person said (this thing), he is such an as*hole" and "Look what this (person) is wearing, I would never be caught dead in that outfit".

We do this as a way to compare the items that have in our personal books of law to others, then defend our own sense of perfection because we are following the “right” standards are they are not, therefore exhausting us to a higher position than the person or situation we are judging.

We also judge ourselves as well.

We all have an internal criminal that we judge for his or her actions or inactions. We see this in situations where we have to look at ourselves in comparison to an external factor or situation.

"This person has more money than me, I am not as smart as they are" or "This guy has a very pretty wife, why can't I find a partner that looks as good as her?" and "He is more successful and living a better life than me, I am a loser" We may not be aware of this process but we are constantly doling out convictions to ourselves and others on a daily basis.

We find ourselves guilty of our convictions or the convictions of others, we are sent to an internal prison of our shame, fear, and feelings of inadequacy,,,,

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