Posted on Apr 5, 2020
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Self-Acceptance almost sounds like an oxymoron to me. "Acceptance" is a social construct, something that occurs externally. I accept delivery. Society accepts me. If society doesn't accept me, how can I accept myself? Sorry, but your topic strikes close to home, something I've thought about for a long time and my thoughts are probably best not shared with anyone struggling with "self-acceptance".
In my search for answers I learned (correctly or incorrectly is arguable) that children are accepted into the adult community by their parents (males by fathers and females by mothers). If that acceptance is not forthcoming, the child is cripple unless a surrogate steps up to the task (as in my case).
So, what is "self-acceptance"? I suggest that it is acceptance of acceptance. I came to this conclusion after learning of the AA program's concept of it's not enough to know that you're an alcoholic, but that you must accept the fact. Try as I might, any attempt I make at clarifying that concept only comes out more confusing. For example, if I say " I know that two plus two equals four but don't accept it to be true" is hardly better. However, if I say "I know that two plus two equals four but I'm going to pretend that it equals five" we might be getting closer to the truth of it.
That leaves me with a question. If I say, "I know society accepts me but I don't feel that society accepts me" I have a problem with self-acceptance.
All I can say at this point is that I wish I had never started this and should delete it. However, I'm going to leave it and see if anyone can make sense of it.
Good luck (and forgive me)
In my search for answers I learned (correctly or incorrectly is arguable) that children are accepted into the adult community by their parents (males by fathers and females by mothers). If that acceptance is not forthcoming, the child is cripple unless a surrogate steps up to the task (as in my case).
So, what is "self-acceptance"? I suggest that it is acceptance of acceptance. I came to this conclusion after learning of the AA program's concept of it's not enough to know that you're an alcoholic, but that you must accept the fact. Try as I might, any attempt I make at clarifying that concept only comes out more confusing. For example, if I say " I know that two plus two equals four but don't accept it to be true" is hardly better. However, if I say "I know that two plus two equals four but I'm going to pretend that it equals five" we might be getting closer to the truth of it.
That leaves me with a question. If I say, "I know society accepts me but I don't feel that society accepts me" I have a problem with self-acceptance.
All I can say at this point is that I wish I had never started this and should delete it. However, I'm going to leave it and see if anyone can make sense of it.
Good luck (and forgive me)
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CSM Charles Hayden
CPT Jack Durish
I love it!
I is what I am. I do the best I can and appreciate the few people that can appreciate me for that.
I love it!
I is what I am. I do the best I can and appreciate the few people that can appreciate me for that.
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CPT Jack Durish
CSM Charles Hayden - One of the most interesting/confusing ones I have ever heard is, "I am not who I think I am. I am not who you think I am. I am who I think you think I am."
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