Posted on Sep 24, 2015
SPC Margaret Higgins
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PO1 John Miller
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SPC Margaret Higgins
My parents would have it no other way!
My Dad even threatened to kick me out if I didn't join the military, specifically the Navy (he was in the Navy also). I'm sure he was joking but I didn't want to test it, LOL!
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LTC Henry Barber
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My mother not at first, my father very quiet. As time went on both were extremely proud.
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SPC Margaret Higgins
SPC Margaret Higgins
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SFC (Join to see) - I would certainly hope so- as well....and I pray so.
You deserve to have both of your parents' approval....and most of all their PRIDE.
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SPC Margaret Higgins
SPC Margaret Higgins
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That is just as it should be; LTC Henry Barber . (Having both of your parents pride in you.)
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PO1 John Miller
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SPC Margaret Higgins
Eventually I became a Petty Officer/NCO and got away from being a Deck Seaman so there was that, but I chose to be a Radioman (later Information Systems Technician). Dad wasn't too happy about me working in an air-conditioned space instead of an engine room. But every time we talked after I was a PO1 for a few years his first question was "Have you made Chief yet?" So yeah, I think he was proud of me! :)
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COL Jean (John) F. B.
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SPC Margaret Higgins - Absolutely... My dad (42 years on active duty and retired as LTG/0-9) was very proud of my decision to make the Army a career. My mom was a war bride from Paris, France and always looked at the US Army as liberators and was proud that I carried on the family tradition of military service. I am also very proud of my son, who also carried on the tradition.
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SPC Margaret Higgins
SPC Margaret Higgins
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COL Jean (John) F. B., I could not be PROUDer of YOU; for serving this great country of ours; and for achieving the RANK OF COLONEL.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE AND YOUR SACRIFICES; SIR.
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My dad (a retired SP7 in the Army) told me once how proud he was that I had deployed to war three times (at the time) - something he was embarrassed he never did during his service in the Vietnam era.
I told him how grateful I was that he was fortunate enough to not have to go to Vietnam. If he had, he would have never met my mother.
The mark all of those deployments made on my children are very visible in the things they draw and the things they say.
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SPC Margaret Higgins
SPC Margaret Higgins
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1SG (Join to see), I do not want you to worry about your children in the sense that you are. You are their father now that you are back physically. You are their idol. Your children missed you like crazy. Try to pay lots of attention to them if you can. Spend some time with them. And, First Sergeant, Love them, Love them, Love them.
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SPC Margaret Higgins
Kids are resilient, but they don't forget. My children are really good kids, and I am very proud of them. My oldest son wants to be a Soldier someday. But I can see the impact of the absences on their development.
I feel the loss of time with them very strongly.
Missed first words.
First steps.
Birthdays.
Christmases.
Bedtime stories and tales of the days' adventures.
I don't mind carrying the burden of service. I enlisted, after all. It is not something they signed up for, though.

If/ when my son decides to join, my advice to him will be simple:
"Take care of yourself, because I love you and I want you to come home to me safe."
"Take care of your Soldiers, because they will take care of you."
"Take care of your Family, because you can't do it without them."
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SPC Margaret Higgins
SPC Margaret Higgins
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:) :) :) OUTSTANDING ADVICE, 1SG (Join to see)!
As far a your concerns go: they are very valid.
Worry won't help.
One thing Apostle Paul said was: "One thing I find I'm doing is forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead." First Sergeant, whether you are religious or not; you can learn from that scripture- and take it as "Gospel", so to speak.
Stay in the moment; First Sergeant.
One more bit of advice-which you can take or leave-if I were in your shoes, I would seek professional help....or talk to my fellow Soldiers (Veterans) who are fathers.
I wish you lots and lots of luck; and I pray for you.
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