Posted on Nov 4, 2018
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I want to make sure that I’m not going to screw myself by getting married and not be able to take care of my wife. I have looked everywhere To make sure that the flag won’t stand in the way of BAH and it looks like I will be able to receive every benefit of being married but I figured I would ask because basically everyone in the army is on here and someone will be able to tell me yes or no. Let me know if you have experienced anything like this
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You're entitled to your benefits, even while flagged. However, your commander may deny your leave.
Being flagged will prevent you from receiving awards, promotions, schools, PCS orders and tuition assistance. But not from your pay.
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LTC Jason Mackay
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I would only ask if you are going to be separated for the reason behind the flag or if it is something you will be able to take action to fix. You could be in a situation where you will be separated and then your benefits would end all together....like Government quarters/BAH, BAS, etc.
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Do your best to stay out of trouble. Hopefully it's not a field grade discipline. Just do the extra work, swallow your pride and do the best you can under the circumstances. I'm sure there are many here on rallypoint they would never admit that they did something wrong in their military career. Do the best you can and look forward that each new day because one day further down the road toward getting out of this punishment. When you are finally out of trouble, volunteer for extra courses, make your wife understand that taking these college courses at night paid for by tuition assistance will actually help you get promoted if you are an enlisted, or make you possibly a commissioned officer later down the line. Mistakes happen to everybody. Just do your best!
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Thank you sir. I really appreciate it. When everything clears up I’m definitely going to start taking the extra classes and do everything I can to make our lives easier down the road
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PFC (Join to see) by the way, I once worked for Mercury Insurance in Southern California. I went on a one-week vacation to Mount Shasta caverns and spend some time with my girlfriend at the time back in July, 1993.On coming back to work, I was suspended, my company car taken away and terminated 4 days later. Over the course of the few months before my termination, there had been body shops that had been cheating on estimates that I wrote while out in the field. Maybe I was being too generous, maybe I was being conned but either way, the insurance company said it was my fault and they terminated me. This would be an example of when they they were supposed to replace part of a frame rail on a car but instead they pulled the engine out and pulled the frame straight and they didn't have to replace the frame rail. They didn't tell the insurance company but the manager inspecting my car from Mercury Insurance caught what they did and force them to pay back the insurance company. Losing my job was devastating. I had to reinvent myself. I was 31 years old and I had a college degree. I enlisted in the California Army National Guard and went through military police I enlisted in the California Army National Guard and went through military police enlisted basic training back in 1994. Later, I found out that I could be a commissioned officer even at being 32 years old. I went through the state OCS program going to camp San Luis Obispo in the California Army National Guard and I became the commissioned officer in August of 1996.

I found employment working in the civilian job field but I maintain my military National Guard and later Army Reserve affiliation and continued.

I had some issues along the way in my 22-year military career but I just made lieutenant colonel last July. CSM Charles Hayden was honored to come to my promotion. I am 56 years old. It's never too late to reinvent yourself. I had to do it and it was a painful situation where I felt I was being ripped off by the insurance company not the other way around. I look back now and I'm glad it happened! Never in my wildest dream would I expect to be a military person or a commissioned officer. So we can empathize with your situation and we here on Rally Point want to support you in any way possible to achieve your goal even if that means not reenlisting or continuing in the military domain at all!
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I am happy that you are thinking of taking care of your future wife. Get your act together and be an asset to the Army and your family. Good luck.
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