Posted on Jan 26, 2019
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My husband is active duty and i am national guard we are currently not together ( live in the same house because we have a child ) legally still married. I was wondeeing the process i have to take to file for divorce we live in north Carolina. We are very mutal on everything including our child. Do i have to bring the military into this? Im not even sure who to contact.
Thank you in advance
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JAG isn't even allowed to help you with your divorce. The only thing you need to know as far as the military is concerned is that you are not divorced until you're completely divorced. You could be separated for 5 years and living in separate states, but that doesn't mean you can start dating yet. North Carolina has a mandatory one year waiting period to file as well.
Don't forget to update your BAH status once it's over. You don't want to be on the hook for paying back BAH, or worse, investigated for BAH fraud.

Definitely, absolutely, retain a civilian lawyer, even if you think you can't afford it. You can't afford not to.
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1SG (Join to see) I didn't realize that, that's definitely good to know
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SFC (Join to see) Acknowledged. I see your answers, and you give great answers and reference where they need to go.
Are you a SAMC member?
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1SG (Join to see) thank you! Yes I am. I was the treasurer and Senior enoisted advisor of our club in Okinawa, but I haven't engaged the club since moving to JBLM
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SFC (Join to see) I figured as much. I was inducted at Bragg, and coordinated fundraisers and support for Special Olympics at FLW. Had a SAMC webpage with study questions and links to all of the references used for the board on Geocities waaaaay back in 2000, that went by the wayside when I became a 1SG and deployed.
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Lt Col Charlie Brown
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Make sure you have a lawyer who understands military entitlements so that becomes part of the divorce settlement since you have a child.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
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Find out what your rights are. Don't get burned in the process. You need to know what state and military laws and regulations relate to your separation and divorce.
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