Posted on Jan 16, 2015
CPT Aaron Kletzing
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With how busy so many Service Members are due to their military duties, it’s sometimes tough to ensure that our spouses are fully up to speed on rules and regulations that may be relevant to them, or to the time we spend together on the installation. Below, we list 7 of the most common “in-uniform rules” spouses should know.

Which ones would you change, and why? What else would you add to this list?

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1. PDA is typically prohibited, except for certain special situations.
Military regulations take public displays of affection (PDA) more seriously than many spouses realize, due to high standards for professionalism. Special situations like a return from a deployment MIGHT be acceptable circumstances for a quick “welcome home” kiss, depending on your chain of command.

2. My right hand is empty for a reason!
While in uniform, Service Members are typically expected to keep their right hand empty while in conditions that would require a salute, which is done with the right hand only. This may seem obvious to SMs, but many spouses do not know this!

3. I can’t talk on my cell phone while walking.
Talking on your cell phone while walking in uniform on base is one of the easiest ways to get jacked up as of late. It’s like putting a target on your chest. We’ve heard countless stories of Service Members witnessing a Senior NCO sprinting across the street to make this correction! Epic.

4. Why I say “no” when you offer me a piece of gum.
Many military units prohibit chewing gum while in uniform, especially while stateside. We’ve heard reports that this may vary depending on the military branch or command policy of the SM, including the degree to which it’s enforced. But just in case, it’s important to know this!

5. I can’t use an umbrella when it’s raining. Seriously.
Uniformed SMs typically cannot utilize an umbrella when it’s raining outside. They have wet weather gear for that, even though that gear still allows them to get soaked most of the time. We’ve heard reports that some female SMs may be allowed to use an umbrella under certain circumstances, and we also can’t confirm how strictly a SM’s chain of command enforces this. But beware that SMs using umbrellas is as squared away as a football bat.

6. Wearing my uniform items could get me jacked up, or worse.
This is a sensitive topic for some SMs, but there have been countless situations where a spouse wears the SM’s uniform items in inappropriate ways and is perceived as casting the military profession in a negative light. Enforcement of this policy also depends on the SM’s chain of command or installation policy, but PLEASE be thoughtful and considerate if you ever decide to put on your SM’s uniform items while outside of the home environment.

7. I still need to salute and greet while we’re together.
This aspect of the military profession occasionally irritates spouses, but when a SM is uniformed and on the installation he is still required to greet and salute IAW regulations, even if the two of you are enjoying a nice private walk together. This issue occasionally catches “new” military spouses off guard – meaning those who are new to the military culture, perhaps due to recent marriage or their SM recently joining the military.

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Which of these would you change, and why? What else would you add to this list?
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PO3 James Conner
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The only thing I will say is that one of the failings of the military is the need to aggressively correct minor rule errors. It sets us up for failure when we transition to the civilian world as civilain leadership gets sued if they treat their people like this. Discipline is important but how we dispense discipline is important as well.
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PO3 James Conner
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I had a very interesting conversation with my Boss about how our company loves to hire vets but for non leadership roles as they have had a bad history with that. Which is shocking as all the military is, is leadership!
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SPC Eric White
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All I can say is some regulations that don't meet the common sense rule I.E no umbrella, what if he's holding it for his wife. Also the all to often untactful way in which they are enforced, especially in public or in front of their family. It may seem petty but these are things soldiers get fed up with and decide to ETS.
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PO2 Tom Sirard
PO2 Tom Sirard
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You can give your heart to Jesus or your wife, but your ass belongs to Uncle Sam.
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SPC Patrick Caldwell
SPC Patrick Caldwell
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Well until you've got a DD 214 in hand PO2 Tom Sirard.
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SPC Steve ChenRobbins
SPC Steve ChenRobbins
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I would think the umbrella rule is about "wearing" it, as in using it for yourself. Holding it up for someone else (as in the original picture) isn't the same thing?
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LCpl Tim Seekins
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Forgot #8: We can NOT walk across the grass, no matter how hot it is and how far out of the way the sidewalk goes...
Wanna stop a Marine assault? forget moats, minefields and fences. Just plant a nice lawn...
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COL Military Police
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The umbrella issue. What really chaps my skin is members of the military holding an umbrella for the president or other government official and maybe even a spouse of one. Seems to me there are others who can perform that chore when necessary.
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CSM William DeWolf
CSM William DeWolf
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HOOAH! COL Carmen DiGiacomo
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Sgt Mike Jacobi
Sgt Mike Jacobi
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Right on Col!
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SA Natoshia Rieder
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Honestly if you are with your SM spouse you should not be offended by any of these rules. You should be compliant and understanding of these rules, helping you spouse get ahead not dragging them down.
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Sierra Grunewald
Sierra Grunewald
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Exactly. By marrying your spice you married the government. It's just part of the job.
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CPO Randy Francis
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I had been in for awhile when I met and married my wife. We went to a Memorial Day ceremony and she wanted me to wear my chokers - I wanted to go in civies. I kept asking her to stand on my left but she "wanted to see better". When the National Anthem started I about put her eye out when I snapped to attention and rendered a smart and crisp salute. As an aside to that she already had a huge black eye because our dog had head butted her the day before. So as we walked through the side boys I heard the voice of a female sailor say, "Yep, she's a Chief's wife" and we both burst out laughing.
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COL Military Police
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A great story that has added some levity to the discussion.
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SGT Monika Sloan
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No sunglasses in formation is another fun rule. Or how about if someone forgets part of their uniform (like gloves on a cold day) everyone else has to take theirs off. Said person gets mean mugged by the rest of the formation. I have never heard of the gum rule. No one ever bothered me for chewing gum. People dip inside buildings all the time with their nasty spit bottles. I know technically they're not supposed to do that in a government building, but it's rarely enforced. Spouses pick up on our strange rules and customs over time. Some mesh better with the military than others. My husband is still on active duty, so we both get the silliness that can come with it.
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SSG Horizontal Construction Engineer
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My CO put up the regulation in our building and in our MP. That was him saying "if you get caught ART 15" he dips and he follows the rules. He's a great leader.
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LTC Strategic Plans And Training Officer
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Great list! So very true. Another one is if my bose summons me, I have to end our conversation.
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SPC John Decker
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Not having been married while I was in, I have no perspective other than this. #5. When in a dress uniform a SM should not be gigged for carrying an umbrella
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SFC Paul-Gregory Matuszak
SFC Paul-Gregory Matuszak
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Umbrellas are allowed, held in LEFT hand only, while in Class As, Class Bs, Mess Dress (bow tie), and full Dress Blues, even in the latest 670-1.
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MAJ FAO - Europe
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For the Army, what guidelines exist for saluting while carrying an umbrella?
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SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
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MAJ (Join to see) - You still salute but carry the umbrella in Your left hand. The umbrella as a portable hand held device does not quality as being under cover. I've never had the problem though as its very rare for Me to ever carry and umbrella and never had in uniform.
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Sgt Mike Jacobi
Sgt Mike Jacobi
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SMSgt Lawrence McCarter - Honestly, it would be more likely for me to forget my cover tnan ever to carry an umbrella for any reason. Just feels wrong. Seems like it just doesn't mesh with the image I like to project.
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SSgt Rodney Calloway
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It always made me cringe when spouses would wear uniform items around base, including the rank. I never liked the "dependa purses" that had the SM's rank on them, either.
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Sgt Mike Jacobi
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Terrible for morale. It just pushes the idea that dependents get treated differently based on the rank of their sponsor.
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