Posted on Jan 24, 2023
How likely is my spouse to be charged with adultery and fraternization? What type of punishment should be expected?
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While I was deployed, I found out my husband was unfaithful and having extramarital affair with a Pfc from another unit. Him being a SGT. This was not the first time he was unfaithful to me prior adultery affairs. I gathered evidence, such as confessions from previous mistresses and pictures of him being unfaithful, such as kissing, hugging text
Messages showing him being affectionate, making comments like saying I love you to them and he’s so proud to have them as there are lover etc.
Now with this Pfc , I confronted her, and I let her know my husband was married to me, and that it would be smart. If she let us figure out these issues, and to leave him alone. this Pfc was around my child. She showered in my bathroom. She stayed in my house. She slept on my bed. She had sex on my bed. She sent me pictures of them with him on top of her, kissing her on the head and I was able to get pictures from her of them holding hands with his tattoos showing. He has abandoned me in order to be with this girl, and she claimed I was harassing her when I was asking her and begging her to leave my husband alone and let us figure things out on our own upon returning from my deployment. He and she continues the affair upon my return from deployment, and she lied to my commander about not seeing him yet she was caught with him the very same day she lied to my commander and claimed harassment.
The affair is continuing, but I don’t have any new evidence. My husband has been flagged for four months now and today he claims to have a second reading with his battalion commander.
During this whole investigation, I provided sworn statements with dates, timelines, pictures, telephonic confessions from the mistress ( she did not know she was being recorded) but it is legal in my state to record a conversation. How likely is my husband to be punished and what are the punishments looking like this has affected my mental health upon returning from deployment, knowing that I lost my entire family in my home due to the selfish actions of my husband and his private first class who knew what they were doing and had no remorse for the family I am now mourning. Not only is it affecting myself, but it is affecting our child as well..
Messages showing him being affectionate, making comments like saying I love you to them and he’s so proud to have them as there are lover etc.
Now with this Pfc , I confronted her, and I let her know my husband was married to me, and that it would be smart. If she let us figure out these issues, and to leave him alone. this Pfc was around my child. She showered in my bathroom. She stayed in my house. She slept on my bed. She had sex on my bed. She sent me pictures of them with him on top of her, kissing her on the head and I was able to get pictures from her of them holding hands with his tattoos showing. He has abandoned me in order to be with this girl, and she claimed I was harassing her when I was asking her and begging her to leave my husband alone and let us figure things out on our own upon returning from my deployment. He and she continues the affair upon my return from deployment, and she lied to my commander about not seeing him yet she was caught with him the very same day she lied to my commander and claimed harassment.
The affair is continuing, but I don’t have any new evidence. My husband has been flagged for four months now and today he claims to have a second reading with his battalion commander.
During this whole investigation, I provided sworn statements with dates, timelines, pictures, telephonic confessions from the mistress ( she did not know she was being recorded) but it is legal in my state to record a conversation. How likely is my husband to be punished and what are the punishments looking like this has affected my mental health upon returning from deployment, knowing that I lost my entire family in my home due to the selfish actions of my husband and his private first class who knew what they were doing and had no remorse for the family I am now mourning. Not only is it affecting myself, but it is affecting our child as well..
Article 15
Adultery
Fraternization
UCMJ
Posted 3 y ago
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Divorce him before he gets and article 15. That way you get more money in the end. And he
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Your husband SHOULD BE FUCKED So is the PFC, And if SHE is also married, she signed her death warrant as well. However, be prepared for this as well. When my wife cheated on me back in 2013, the SCUM she cheated with was not only in the Army, but was also married. He was SUPPOSED to have been kicked out of the Army under two counts of Adultery. However, his unit's chain of command lacked the spine to do that, all they did was kick him out of the unit and he transferred to Fort Bliss. It's all going to determine how far whichever's Chain Of Command is willing to push this.
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I hope you can move forward without this loser. Your life will eventually be better. This guys brain is not in his head, it is in his underwear. Get yourself help for you and your child and let the military take care of the cheaters.
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Is your spouse in the military? If your spouse is a civilian, there is no way your spouse would be charged.
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1SG(P) Dean Mcbride (MPER) (SPHR)
Yes, Sgt Mary G specified that her spouse was a SGT... No mention of being a civilian...
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First off, I am sorry that happened to you. I was divorced while serving myself, also because of being on assignment, albeit under somewhat better circumstances. Your well being emotionally and financially is paramount now. At this point, if you have not done so already, seek an attorney. There are attorney's at JAG that can explain the full ramifications of the situation without actually representing you and the advice is at no cost (At the time I was in and this happened, we didn't get paid much). If possible, try to achieve any legally binding contracts (such as a divorce agreement, child support, spousal payments) with as much mutual agreement as possible to save as much of your assets as possible, but not to your disadvantage. It can be very hard in a bitter situation such as this. This may sound a little counter-intuitive, but him getting UCMJ punishment, although it might satisfy the feeling of revenge somewhat, might actually be financially detrimental to you under certain circumstances. An attorney will be able to evaluate your particular situation to see how you should move forward. In a few years time, if not so already, you will be glad that this person is out of your daily life. Wishing you strength, perseverance, and the best outcome possible in this situation.
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Is your wife in the Military. Then did she play you and you are mad at her and what to report her to her command. Just asking.
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1SG(P) Dean Mcbride (MPER) (SPHR)
What does this response have to do with the questions posed by Sgt Mary G. Mary referred to her husband and also used the pronouns he and him. The person he was fooling around with, according to Sgt Mary G. was a female PFC... Your response looks like it may have been about a different posting...
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1. Based on the history, I would seek a divorce and counseling. You need to get out of the bad situation. You say it isn't the first time, why would you tolerate a second or third time?
2. Being in the armed forces, why don't you write his ass up and charge him under Article 134. Same for the PFC. She is also guilty. Make sure you have all your evidence lined up for the charges and don't limit the 134 to just the adultery, include anything that is conduct unbecoming.
3. Speak with the Chaplain for your unit or post. He/she will be one of the best counselors you can find.
Wish you well.
2. Being in the armed forces, why don't you write his ass up and charge him under Article 134. Same for the PFC. She is also guilty. Make sure you have all your evidence lined up for the charges and don't limit the 134 to just the adultery, include anything that is conduct unbecoming.
3. Speak with the Chaplain for your unit or post. He/she will be one of the best counselors you can find.
Wish you well.
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If he was a Colonel or General, likely he would just be made to retire and ride off into the sunset with full pension and benefits. An enlisted troop. Not so much. Probably be busted back to E-1, loss of all pension and benefits, and might even do prison time(not likely) but the Double Standard is real!
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Sorry you're going thru this. Follow thru by seeking medical care and mental health care for your trauma and possible exposure to STDs. Take steps to protect yourself from retaliation. I've been in your shoes.
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So let’s first start with being honest. Is your desire for him to get punishment a result of breaking military policy or is it because you are angry and hurt and want some sort of payback. The mechanism for resolving your husband’s behavior is called getting a divorce and then what he does or who he does it with is no longer your concern. With evidence of infidelity you would easily get full custody of your kids and he would have to pay child support. That alone would limit his extra curricular activities far better than you confronting whatever girl he is "engaging” with.
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