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Wait until your moved and settled. The hassle of the PCS and the stress of all the changes on top of trying to have a wedding... just wait.
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SGT (Join to see)
We were planning on having a wedding down the road, and just to go to the court house to get the certificate so that were legally married. That way I can bring her to my next duty station. I guess a better question to ask would be Is there anything I should let my gaining unit know, or any paperwork I can do now to prevent more stress upon arrival.
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SGT (Join to see) - I guarantee if there is one thing that your unit doesn't want to deal with is a new soldier that got married in route to his duty station. To me it is poor planning.
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I'd wait if possible until you get settled, unless that's not an option. Are you getting married right out of AIT?
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SGT (Join to see)
No I am not. I am currently in Korea, and planning to just going to the court house during my PCS to get the certificates saying were legally married, so I can move her to my next duty station. I guess a better question to ask would be; Is there anything I should let my gaining unit know, or any paperwork I can do now to prevent more stress upon arrival.
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SPC (Join to see)
Normally I would say someone's got jokes.. But this happens too often haha
I would say the only up side to getting married before moving is the free 10 days extra for PCSing your spouse. It is better to get settled though
I would say the only up side to getting married before moving is the free 10 days extra for PCSing your spouse. It is better to get settled though
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SSG Bethany Viglietta
Exactly! Getting married immediately after training happens a lot and it definitely interrupts the service members PCS. And if they are marrying another service member it also changes things because of the married couples program.
If you get married during PCS, you will still have to get all your and her information to your unit and DEERS. So be sure to have the major documents. Depending on where you are PCSing to, you may also need to get on the housing list. Definitely contact your sponser.
How long until you PCS and how much leave will you be taking?
If you get married during PCS, you will still have to get all your and her information to your unit and DEERS. So be sure to have the major documents. Depending on where you are PCSing to, you may also need to get on the housing list. Definitely contact your sponser.
How long until you PCS and how much leave will you be taking?
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SGT (Join to see)
I PCS in roughly 3-4 months. I will be taking 14 days of leave. I wish I were able to contact a sponsor, but I haven't been contacted by my gaining unit or sponsor. I have also tried to look the unit up online to find some sort of contact information but haven't found anything. My section 3f on the 5434 hasn't been filled out by anyone either.
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SGT (Join to see) "Any tips for getting married during a PCS?"
DONT..
That said, like most young SM your going to do it anyway regardless of advice.
So, the BEST way to make this mistake is to take a few days of leave BEFORE you PCS and get married....then return to your duty station get your orders amended and PCS.
If you can not do that then understand there is little to no benefit of getting married on PCS leave other then the act itself. Your orders will still be for unaccompanied travel, you are still going to be assigned to single SM housing and you are going to be a MAJOR distraction to yourself and your unit.
So here is the advice you are probable not going to listen to..if you can not get married BEFORE pcs, don't. Get to your new unit, sign in and in process early, get your unit assignment and sign in there ASKING for the balance of the "planned" leave to to be put back on leave so you can get your "family" squared away...ie get married...and STILL leave your new wife where she is, safe, with support network...Return to your unit and get your new wife in to DEERS, go see post housing and get on the waiting list for housing and STILL leave your new wife where she is, safe, with support network.
Get to know your new unit, let the leaders get to know you...Once housing becomes available, ask your wife to join you.
NOW, having gotten though the trials and tribulations of in processing post, getting familiar with a new unit process and leaders, finding daily plan that lets you be on time, in place, ready for the days duties, NOW you can add anther variable with a much higher chance of success.
Being a new SM in a unit is hard, stressful, and some times frustrating as you have so much to learn.
Being married is hard, stressful, and some times frustrating as you have so much to learn....adding that on top of the first is a fast way to failure.
Being a new Military wife is hard, stressful, and some times frustrating as you have so much to learn....adding that to your husband never being around, stressed out, and you having no support network as you left it at home, or last place you lived is a fast way to failure.
All of that comes from 28 years of observing SM in your exact position...and not back when muskets and horses were issued equipment, but recently history. That all comes from an Infantry SM that got married when he was a SGT, and stayed married to the same woman for the rest of his career, though schools, deployments his and hers, kids, deaths..IOW Im not reading from a manual how it is supposed to go down, Im telling you from experience how it will or can go down...
DONT..
That said, like most young SM your going to do it anyway regardless of advice.
So, the BEST way to make this mistake is to take a few days of leave BEFORE you PCS and get married....then return to your duty station get your orders amended and PCS.
If you can not do that then understand there is little to no benefit of getting married on PCS leave other then the act itself. Your orders will still be for unaccompanied travel, you are still going to be assigned to single SM housing and you are going to be a MAJOR distraction to yourself and your unit.
So here is the advice you are probable not going to listen to..if you can not get married BEFORE pcs, don't. Get to your new unit, sign in and in process early, get your unit assignment and sign in there ASKING for the balance of the "planned" leave to to be put back on leave so you can get your "family" squared away...ie get married...and STILL leave your new wife where she is, safe, with support network...Return to your unit and get your new wife in to DEERS, go see post housing and get on the waiting list for housing and STILL leave your new wife where she is, safe, with support network.
Get to know your new unit, let the leaders get to know you...Once housing becomes available, ask your wife to join you.
NOW, having gotten though the trials and tribulations of in processing post, getting familiar with a new unit process and leaders, finding daily plan that lets you be on time, in place, ready for the days duties, NOW you can add anther variable with a much higher chance of success.
Being a new SM in a unit is hard, stressful, and some times frustrating as you have so much to learn.
Being married is hard, stressful, and some times frustrating as you have so much to learn....adding that on top of the first is a fast way to failure.
Being a new Military wife is hard, stressful, and some times frustrating as you have so much to learn....adding that to your husband never being around, stressed out, and you having no support network as you left it at home, or last place you lived is a fast way to failure.
All of that comes from 28 years of observing SM in your exact position...and not back when muskets and horses were issued equipment, but recently history. That all comes from an Infantry SM that got married when he was a SGT, and stayed married to the same woman for the rest of his career, though schools, deployments his and hers, kids, deaths..IOW Im not reading from a manual how it is supposed to go down, Im telling you from experience how it will or can go down...
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