Being addressed/addressing others by rank after retirement

I respect it, if it's their preferred term of address.

I suppose it is all situational, but respectful nevertheless.

My boyfriend and I are retired. He was a MSgt in my unit. He retired first and then we started dating. I still call him Sergent out of respect. I use his first name sometimes, when I introduce him, for instance. That's when I feel uncomfortable. I showed him respect for 15 years, it seems wrong to stop. Also, my troops still call me by my rank. I don't demand it, they just do it.

I became a civilian employee of another agency., not DOD, after retirement. We were all hired at the same GS rate but a few of the retired officers always thought they were better than the retired enlisted even when they were sometimes less capable and did not take “advice” from technically superior people. Others were as down to earth as could be. They saw the actions of the few and seemed to de ashamed of it.

When I was a police officer, I arrested an old drunk retired Navy Commander for assault on his wife. The old sot demanded that I call him by his rank. "Well, Commander So & So, your under arrest for Domestic Violence." Read him his rights and told him, "Enjoy your stay in the the Harris County Jail."

Nope!

Please don't introduce yourself to me in either your former rank, position or add on your rank (retired).

It will be the last time I speak with you if you do that.

I'm John and you are??

My thought is that a veteran who served in the military long enough to retire has earned the right to be address by their rank. But if the retiree wants to be addressed by his first name who am I to contradict his wishes.

Category 2 as well, it should only be done when appropriate. At a unit reunion or at say a Veteran's Day ceremony by all means you can address them by rank. That might not work very well at a place of civilian employment especially if it's full of people who aren't familiar with a military rank structure, at the minimum you might get some puzzled looks from the others if you addressed someone by their rank.

However there are not many situations where I find it appropriate, I live in a small town with not much opportunity to be at functions with retirees or active duty. I have never really liked being called "Petty Officer" even while active duty. I had lunch with a friend just last Saturday, he is a retired E-8, but I have known him and his family since he was an E-5, so it was first names.

I even call my former commanders by their first name. Even the CW5 mafia guys.