Posted on Jul 12, 2023
Is it standard or even typical as a form of disciplinary action for an NCO to call a soldier's parents to complain about the service member?
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Hello Rallypoint Members!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
UCMJ
Paralegal NCO
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JAG
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I would say no. This is supposed to be an adult, they are responsible for their actions. The only reason to maybe call the parents is if there's a major medical issue. But any notifications to family members would be done by a higher officer (O-4 or above), not an E-6.
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This was wrong as a Plt. Sgt. in my 21 years neither my boss's nor I as an E-7 has that ever happened you take the repercussions you earned.
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I would go talk to legal. Cause in my barrack lawyer opinion she should not have called them as you are a adult
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Absolutely not. One thing that you need to remember is NCOs make mistakes. They don't know everything right off the bat. I would have never assumed that a parent/child relationship is on great terms and calling your mommy will be useful. Personally it seems incredibly lazy and insulting to treat an adult like a child. I would write your NCO a letter and insist that in the future they refrain from contacting your parents in the future. You don't call your NCOs parents and vent to them that their child is a poor leader. Being an adult is about being accountable, not disrespected.
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I'd not call a parent to discuss a troops behavior. As the poster stated he is an adult. I have had parents contact me asking not to discharge their kid-one didn't want the daughter back!
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