Posted on Jul 12, 2023
Is it standard or even typical as a form of disciplinary action for an NCO to call a soldier's parents to complain about the service member?
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Hello Rallypoint Members!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
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JAG
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It helps more than harms. A neighbors son was having a real screw up time, NCO called and talked with his Dad, Dad talked to the son, and he had a great carrier thereafter. It really depends on if all the stars align, the right NCO, that recognized potential, the right parents that the son respected enough to listen. #quote
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I think your energy would be better suited in getting squared away than whining about your detachment SFC. Clearly you need to grow up! You're lucky she cares enough to make the effort, where is your effort? Grow up, suck it up, and drive on. If you're a "grown man" act like a grown man not a cry baby. Is it standard, "no", is it called for....not sure...I again want to see what you are doing to improve yourself.
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Legal ... yes. Recommended ... no. But every discipline scenario brings its own unique set of circumstances that just may warrant calling one's parents. I've read a few examples in this thread. Thank God, during my 29 years, I was never put in a position to do so. Curious if it helped this troop?
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Should a person who asks an idiotic question get a free frontal lobotomy to see if it can reduce the number of nonsensical questions asked in a finite amount of time? If that solider is under fire and scared should we request the soldiers family members be flown over to the combat zone to make him feel better and boost morale?
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Too many other options in the tool kit e.g. counseling, extra training, summary art 15. Company Art15 etc etc...
If the service member continues and will not conform to the standard
Prior to kicking them out I would try calling their parents. Calling parent certainly would not be my first action.
If the service member continues and will not conform to the standard
Prior to kicking them out I would try calling their parents. Calling parent certainly would not be my first action.
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You are an adult and responsible for you own actions. It has nothing to do with your parents. She had NO BUSINESS and was 100% out of line calling your parents. The only reason to notify your parents of anything is when you are seriously injured or dead! Other than that it’s up to you!
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