Posted on Jul 12, 2023
Is it standard or even typical as a form of disciplinary action for an NCO to call a soldier's parents to complain about the service member?
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Hello Rallypoint Members!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
UCMJ
Paralegal NCO
1SG
SFC
JAG
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Absolutely not. It is not military protocol to get parents involved in a soldiers life because the soldier has volunteered to become a military professional. Poor taste!
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Should you care to, you can file charges. Your family is not part of the chain of command, and those actions constitute harassment. I would argue that your senior's actions are worse than yours, since they abused their authority AND civilians unrelated to the legality of the incident.
That said, the question becomes, do you want to go down that road? It will, most likely, have consequences such as hostile work environment and all that follows.
That said, the question becomes, do you want to go down that road? It will, most likely, have consequences such as hostile work environment and all that follows.
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That is pointless. You are a grown man and that is all she needs to talk to. Semper Fi
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Told your parents on you? You aren't in kindergarten. The NCO should've landed on you like a ton of bricks and let you know in no uncertain terms was your behavior or mistakes going to be tolerated. Stop whining and get your act together. It's too late to be worried about what Mommy and Daddy are pleased with.
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this is way out of line for the SFC. Keep it in house. She should be the disciplinarian not pass it on to the parents.
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Hell no. Request Captain Mast and lodge a complaint. Even if you are a dirt bag that should never happen.
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Hell no. Request Captain Mast and lodge a complaint. Even if you are a dirt bag that should never happen.
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Absolutely NO.. How can you move this problem to the parents of the Soldier, this is totally against the NCO standards.. NCO are the leaders, No the parents or anyone out of the military.
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No. No, it is not.
Issues I have with it:
1) You are an adult.
2) This is poor leadership. I'm telling mommy and daddy is not a corrective action plan.
3) They don't know your parents relationship. Maybe you hate your parents.
Issues I have with it:
1) You are an adult.
2) This is poor leadership. I'm telling mommy and daddy is not a corrective action plan.
3) They don't know your parents relationship. Maybe you hate your parents.
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