Has anyone ever been in a screaming match or any altercation with their superiors?

Ha! When I was Chief of Staff of the 44th Medical Brigade, I once had to clear our CG's office when he and our DCO got into it once during a meeting. The DCO started raising his voice, the CG started tapping a pencil on his thigh and raising his voice louder and louder, and the rest of us started squirming, and eventually I just made a subtle hand gesture and we all got up and cleared the room, and I pulled the door shut behind us. They didn't come out for another half hour or so.

Then there was the time our Brigade CSM got into it with one of our hospital commanders during a rehearsal for the XVIII Airborne Corps QTB, and the hospital commander challenged him by asking him how many jumps he had. So the CSM said "One! All the rest were practice!" Our CG (a different one than in the previous paragraph) said "Gentlemen, if we're through with the [appendage] measuring contest, could we continue the briefing?"

I swear, I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried.

Go over his head and explain it to your first shirt and I am sure you can take emergency leave as they shouldn't stop you from taking it .

There are times to voice fully defend your position, and there are times to take the ass chewing. In general if you are peacocking in front of your peers it is a bad call.

I was working on a piece of heavy equipment (on Diego Garcia) and the E6 in charge of the heavy shop wanted me to single stack timbers and I refused until he got me enough timbers to crib it. When someone backed a five ton into it hard enough to shove it a foot side ways into me, I grabbed Tiny by the ear and dragged him over to show him. Good thing Tiny and I got along most of the time

Handled all wrong!!!! Your wife and your folks and her folks should have been told how to contact the Red Cross in an emergency (any serious) and let them handle the original notification to your command and start the ball rolling for your emergency leave. They carry a lot more weight then you can by starting at the wrong end of the chain-of-command.

not really a screaming match but.... I was a SFC, selected for direct commission by the state board, waiting on FEDREC board. We were in the field for AT and I had to leave to sit the FEDREC board. 3 hour drive. Our OPs SGM tried to give me shit about "bailing out on AT". I just looked at him and said, "I'll be back in about 7 hours as a 2LT and we can talk about it then SGM....". Guess who had the pleasure of giving me my first salute as an officer?

Had a very loud disagreement with a Major. I was a Staff Sergeant. I finally figured I wasn't getting through to him so I walked away. Asked the Sergeant Major for advice. He said "Look it up and show him in the book." I looked it up and found he was right. Apologized and we got along fine.

Yes. I was in a mandatory attendance class on race relations in 1974. The instructors were black and the attendees were white. All went well for the first hour or two of the 8 hour course. Then a Captain instructor started in on an Airman who was obviously from the southern states. The Airman refused to interact with the Captain as the Captain kept pushing buttons to rial him up. Still the Airman kept quiet only answering yes or no or i don't know Sir. And the Captain kept escallating the situation. I raised my hand and said. SIR, He is mot requited to give you his views or opinion in the class. He is only required to ATTEND. With that the entire session of attendees shut down. The Csptain finally broke for early lunch. Afterwards he appologized to the group and stated his job was to get the white soldiers to see what life was like as a Black man. We realized what was happening but it did not make it right. We felt we were in the same boat as a soldier. What or hoe we dealt with life as a civilian was another matter that needed perspective from a different angle. Now i do realize realize we all have differences and we must learn to see everyone in the same manner. I hope the Captain can see it as well now. Take care and Carry On.

I got called to the CSM's office to be told to stop cursing my soldiers so loudly, people on the phone with him could here it. I informed him I wasn't currsing my soldiers, it was my CPT. This crap went n for @ six months then when I asked him to watch 2 weapons while I see the Brigade S4, he promply turned them in as unsecured. more cursing took place and while deployed to Iraq I quit. I refused to work for that foul mouth back stabbing POS. I was the Plt Sgt and S4 NCOIC at the time. his name is barry williams if you want to punch him in the face for me. Also my soldiers wanted out but I couldn't let them quit because they didn't have enough rank and never made a formal complaint.

I dont have any input on my end but just wanted to give you my condolences. Sorry to hear about your daughter .