Has anyone on RP ever had to make the decision to pull the plug? How were you able to make the decision?

Questions like this force us all to calibrate our moral compasses. God calls us when He is ready. Prayers to you and Henry.

My mother was a nurse and said that she didn't want extraordinary measures to keep her alive, but when the time came she changed her mind. We had family around her 24/7 to keep her company and to advocate for her with the hospital staff. She passed naturally after about a month. I tell myself that I would have signed a DNR if that was what she really wanted, but I am glad that I was never put into the position of having to do so.

My mother-in-law lived with us for the last ten years of her life, but she did not want to live at the end. My wife signed her DNR and we had it posted in our home so that the Hospice people knew.

It is a tough position to be in. God Bless.

Going to start with a backstory in high school my friend of mine moved in my parents adopted him he lived with us for 3 years. The summer almost 20 years later he got in a motorcycle accident landed on his head without a helmet on his birth mother had to make the decision to pull the plug. The story was quite a bit different from yours as Scott was in a coma and had serious brain damage. We kept him on life support for a month and a half did the do not resuscitate before they began trying to wean him off of life support he had very little chance of making it and he did not make it but this was still a very hard long fought decision and there are still many members in the family that are very upset that he was not left on life support for years even though had he survived he would have been unable to function. The most comforting thing we were able to conclude is that it's what Scott would have wanted he would not have wanted to live in the manner in which you would have lived head he survived or Been pulled through by machines and left in the hospital.

However, in your situation, I would try to find a way, as at least one of the post I read said, to bring peace to him make help him become ready because if that's what's coming then readiness is what's going to make that comfortable for him. The hospital should have services and counselors that can point you in the right direction, religious leaders other people can help, having family around helping him bring closure to things in his life is what we do for the elderly in my family. I wish you the best and pray for you all this is truly a difficult and trying event.